Hello all,
I would just like to thank you all regarding my eariler thread:
I am totally blown away by all of your replies. The fact that all of you people took out the time to talk openly discuss my ‘problem’ (which I know now is not a problem at all) and have been kind enough to show respect to me in a way that I don’t see very often in online communities (I have seen other communities where you would get ripped apart for being different).
I have read almost every post over and over again and I wish to thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your kind words and advice. I am sorry if I offended anybody, but that was never my intention. There are not many places where I could have talked about anything like this without being laughed at or it becoming silly.
For anybody that doubted my intentions or motives, I wish to tell you that I would not do anything like this for a “cheap thrill” and I’m sure there are many other ways of getting a “cheap thrill” than taking the time out to write something personal like this.
I just wanted you all to know that I have really thought long and hard about this and have had time to reflect on my life and my actions. I have also spoken to my girlfriend about my feelings on this topic and have even shown her the thread in question. She was very understanding about it and told me that she had never thought about any of this in a negative way and wouldn’t want me to be any different. This, to me was all I was ever hoping for. If she’s happy with this, then so am I. I know this must be a sign of something special, because I feel more close to her now than I have ever done in all the time I’ve known her!
I know that how I feel for her is something very precious and special. I believe that there is nobody else like her anywhere on the planet and I plan to do something that’s been on my mind for a very long time now, which is asking her to take me as her Husband. Deep down I still think I’m a very old fashioned kind of man and I love the thought of having children with her and waking up beside her every morning and growing old with her, beside me thru it all. I know it sounds totally cheesy and makes you want to puke.. I say go for it! These last few weeks have simply been such an awakening for and largely due to you people and the things you’ve said.
To Leonardo, I’m sorry I did not get your email (hotmail may have blocked it or I may have accidentally deleted it). You have helped a lot more than you will ever know and I’m glad I got to read your email via the thread in the end. I would have replied a lot sooner if I had known what a commotion the topic would have caused.
Thanks everyone! 😀
P.s. This thread was not my first post at all. I don’t know what happened to the database/forum, but I posted on here many months ago regarding something totally boring. Maybe your database was wiped out or something, but I was not trying to shock anybody by making a dramatic entrance at all.
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Wow[:-] Guy good luck with the proposal.:D This sounds wonderful,[sm=1syellow1.gif][sm=1syellow1.gif] im glad your back, im glad your happy with the situ, theres nothing wrong at all with your post, and Im only Glad to help. Nothing more beautiful than two people in love, wheres the invite???, only joking, good luck Mate:D:D:D[sm=grouphug.gif]
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Hey Guy - brilliant! My friend Honeybee and myself met up yesterday and were wondering if you would ever come back.
😀
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Hi Guy,
Congratulations in advance (I'm sure that she'll say yes). 😀
Sweetheart x
P.S. Nothing will calm down your libido like having children! 😉
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Hi Guy
Great to see you back. There was nothing wrong with your post and, speaking for myself, I feel honoured that you felt you could share your feelings with us. Can we all have an invite to the wedding please?? 😉
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Hiya Guy
I had read your post but did not feel i could add anything positive to them as it was all being said already but I do want to wish you the best of luck and many happy romantic days and evenings until yep the babies come along!!!!!
Hugs
T
x
do let us know what see says!
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hi guy,
welcome back !!!
i must say good luck and congratulations!!! - she'll say yes!!!!!
take care mate xx
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Guy
You and your girlfriend obviously have something very special. Treasure and nurture it and you'll have a wonderful future together.
Lesley
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Dear Guy,
I am so thrilled to read of this happy outcome! Bless you both - I’m sure you’ll be very happy.
So glad you've replied too, because I feel when you first posted some people were not sure whether you were genuine or not. I felt you were and really wanted to be free of those feelings which was why I posted that article. There's a huge difference between lust and making love to someone you cherish and adore and intend to spend the rest of your life with. It's a form of communication that expresses what words cannot.
The spiritual guide book that I study alongside the Bible has a chapter on Marriage and I just want to share this with you:
Matrimony should never be entered into
without a full recognition of its enduring obligations on
both sides. There should be the most tender
solicitude for each other's happiness, and mu-
tual attention and approbation should wait on all the years
of married life.
(from Science and Health by Mary Baker Eddy)
Solicitude: Carefulness; concern
Attention: The act of attending or heeding; a leaning towards; earnest consideration, exclusive and special.
Approbation: Approval; pleasure; liking; satisfaction
(Webster’s dictionary)
Congratulations and I wish you both much happiness.
With love,
Judy
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Hello again Guy
Judy's post has reminded me - when I got married my Nan gave me a copy of The Prophet by Kahlil Gilbran. It says:
Then Almitra spoke again and said, And what of Marriage, Master?
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
I thought it was rather lovely.
Sweetheart x
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My apologies for doubting your sincerity guy - wishing you every happiness.
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Hey as one who doubted your sincerity. I'd just like to say it's nice to be proved wrong.
Good luck and best wishes to you both
FB