Ye know i read this post and thought omg, I was thinking on the same lines.
Though not a Reiki master, only having been recently attuned to level 1, i didnt feel anything at all, or so i thought, since my attunement.

I felt lousy last week, my mother wants to tie it to depression, as i couldnt stop crying all week. Had a fight with other half, accusing him of cheating, which now i dont think he would ever do! Really bad week then because of my accusation, he not speaking getting upset.etc etc.

This week i feel ok, not 100% but better than i was, till it dawned on my on Monday, maybe it was the attunement, maybe its coincidence. It has made me think though, think before i speak is the main one.

I do think you can be in a relationship whilst being a master, not that i am one as i said. I think that the main thing is that Reiki seems to change you, or enable you to change, and that may put bearing on your relationship. Or maybe its just coincidence.

I personally, looking back over the last few weeks, know i have changed and def for the better.
I know know what i want, where i want to be in a few months, and what i want and can expect out of my relationship. Sounds corny ? maybe it does but i am a changed person and for the better:)

I wish you well in your journey and all things happen for a reason, even if it look like the wrong reason now, when you look back to this time you will know it was a right reason.

GL

P.s. sorry for the wall or text 🙂

Hi Sammy,

Sorry to hear that you're having such a difficult time...a break up is nearly always an intensely traumatic event...hope that you are being gentle with yourself, and taking the time that you need to heal and recover.

I don't think that living a spiritually minded life and being in a loving relationship are mutually exclusive. I've been practicing Reiki for 10 years, and teaching for 6, and enjoyed two long term relationships. My former partner did not share in my spiritual practice, but always treated my beliefs with utmost respect and consideration. Our break-up was not due to a conflict of spiritual interests, but for other personal reasons.

For the past four years I've enjoyed a healthy and loving relationship with a partner who does share my spiritual beliefs, and is a practitioner within the same tradition. It's the first relationship that I've been in where this has been the case, and without a doubt, it does bring us much closer together. I enjoy a far deeper level of intimacy with him than I've experienced with any previous partner.

Even if a partner doesn't share your spiritual beliefs or practice, I think it's important that they honour them and treat them with respect. You certainly don't need to agree on everything, but you should be able to freely express your spiritual nature without feeling disrespected or ridiculed. If your partner cannot grant you that respect, and is not willing to be open minded about the subject, then perhaps you're better off with someone who can? I don't think you should have to choose between living a spiritually minded life and having a happy relationship...

You sound very strong...do take care and take extra time to nurture yourself right now. PM me if you'd like any distance Reiki or think that might help.

Allison x

Hi,

Something my partner and I teach our students on our Reiki courses is to give regular Reiki treatments to their partner if they are in a relationship. This has many benefits: It helps to bring closeness to the relationhsip; It helps the partner to understand rather than fear Reiki and the changes it brings; It helps the partner to grow spiritually with the Reiki attuned partner. We have found that it helps in relationships if both partners are going in the same direction, otherwise the distance between them grows over time until they become like strangers. After learning Reiki your path or direction may change, and it is important if you are in a relationship to have your partner on-board with this. By sharing Reiki treatments with them you are doing this in an effective and loving way.

Hi there

I'm in a relationship now with someone who doesn't describe himself as spiritual but he is, very. I'm a Reiki Master and have been attuned to Reiki for a good 3 years now. He's fascinated by Reiki although he doesn't want to become attuned. I do give him Reiki from time to time.

What I tell my Reiki students is that Reiki will change your life. It will ensure you get on your life path if you aren't already. When I became attuned, I had no idea that I would be setting up an holistic therapy practice, but I am. It's been a bumpy ride: I had to let go of something which had been a large part of my life, and it wasn't easy, but it needed to go so I had room to grow.

Another thing which is very important is that Reiki doesn't just heal people: it heals situations. So if you are somewhere which is bad for you, it will heal that situation. Or if you aren't getting the support you need, then it will work to ensure you get the support - and then work on healing you.
Something else I tell my students is to remember the Reiki principles and meditate on them daily. This does help.

If you feel that life is changing at too fast a rate, ask your guides to slow the pace down.

Oh yes and Lotus, remember the 21 day healing period? For some people it's less than 21 days, for others it's more. What you need to do is a self-healing session every day. I do mine when I go to bed. This is important.

Hiya

What others have put, resonates with me. Reiki is changing my life. I have always been interested in the psychic and spiritual, and when someone on a forum im on offered free kundalini reiki attunements I took that opportunity. After KR1 nothing much changed except I could channel reiki. Then after doing KR2 I felt the pull to get into reiki as a career, like this is what im supposed to be doing. My seasonal job in a shop on a hol. park didnt resonate for me anymore. I carried on and did KR3 (master level). Then my sister met someone on a course that was a reiki teacher and I decided to learn reiki offline because doing it online I didnt get the hands-on training, and plus I wouldn't have got insured without proper training. This change is still ongoing as I want to get into healing, but can't afford to set up on my own, so ive had to stick at the seasonal job.

Then last year when I was doing my usui 1-2-3 ascension reiki 1-9 course I was involved in a long distance relationship. I met him once but just before that he started to pull away. I became quite attached and needy and this made him pull away further. Then the day before my Usui Reiki 3 attunement he dumped me. My teacher turned round and said that maybe it happened to cut away the negative, because being attached and needy was pulling my energy down. She also knew months ago that things were not going to get any further but I didnt believe her.

So the moral of my post, yeah reiki has changed and is changing my life, but I can see its changes for the better 🙂

I agree with what's been said by the others replying to your post. Reiki has changed my life for the better, even though sometimes I haven't thought so. Some people know my story already (meeting a Reiki Master who led me to Reiki - not my own Reiki Master - who fell in love with me and I with him, even though we were both with other people - it's a long story - I won't bore you!).

I've been very honest with my partner about the other man, and it's changed our 29-year relationship for the better, once the initial shock wore off for him. I believe that Reiki has saved my marriage in a way, although I do still pine for my 'friend' - my husband has totally changed for the better, and I think it's a permanent change too. I give my hubby Reiki treatments which he enjoys and I do feel it helps him to feel part of what I do, even though he's not interested in being attuned. I'm about to do Stage 2 next week - I'm really looking forward to it as I can't believe everything that's happened to me since meeting my 'friend' and taking Stage 1 Reiki. On Monday I went for what I thought was an interview to go on a Hypnotherapy Certificate course (having been on a 1-day self-hypnosis course 3 weeks ago), and as well as being accepted unconditionally, I was also offered to practise Reiki from the clinic from November when I can practise professionally! I just couldn't believe what I was hearing, and I feel it is Reiki that is helping me to change my career.

I agree with Chris that it heals situations and gets you the help and support you need, as the situation with my husband that pushed me to someone else has improved so much (I thought my marriage would not last beyond the end of 2007) and he is supporting me 100% with my intended career change (which he wouldn't have before). Despite the hurt I've experienced last year, I've also experienced some wonderful things, and I do put this down to Reiki. I'm sure that everything that happens to us Reiki people happens for a good reason, and I hope that you will very soon start to feel more positive - I do believe that we Reiki people can have a rewarding relationship with someone even if they themselves are not part of the Reiki community. You can be with your man, and be yourself, as long as he respects your different path, as my man now does. I hope things work out for you OK, Sammy, and reiki will look after you, I believe.

Love and hugs

Paula

In my experience I have found that any serious spiritual quest is transformative and any personal transformation will impact on established relationships; some will be strengthened and others you will naturally move on from.
I have not seen any evidence that Reiki could or would undermine personal relationships. In fact, I believe that our highest spiritual potential can only be reached in mutual trust and honest vulnerability with other human beings.
Love and honour yourself and you will attract others who love and honour you.
Hope your heartbreak mends soon.

It might be helpful to remember that all changes come from within, sometimes we embrace the changes and at other times we fight them for a while, a journey must involve movement and change or it is not a journey.

It is worth remembering that any change in beliefs or life style can change a relationship this could be anything not necessarily Reiki.

It maybe that you have been given a new purpose in life and your partner does not want to accept that because he/she is happy with the status quo (so to speak). Also we need to remember that there is a fear inherent in all of us of the unknown! It is sometimes easy to release but in other cases it can and does cause a break up in a relation ship. It can also be that the person who has affected the change cannot understand why their partner will not accept it and does not want to try to understand their partners view. So it is really a catch 22 situation.

My own opinion is that there should be a dialogue between both parties and a possibly hard decision to make on what each person wants out of the relationship and whether the change is worth it. Both Lynn Evans and Paul Crick have made valid points. But at the end of the day it is up to the individual to decide what is the most important thing in their life.

I think it takes alot of communication in a relationshup during these changes. My partner has always been supportive but does not really understand and today we had some time together, which is good but I feel that since my personal journey started we have less in common.

I am emotional after today as just feel we are going on different paths after a long time together.

Ellie

Ellie, I am sorry to hear of your sadness. Have you tried giving your partner Reiki treatments on a daily basis? Over a period of around 4 - 6 weeks his vibrational frequency will increase as he is healed on a physical, emotional and spiritual level. This will effectivley raise his awareness and it will allow him to follow a path similar to yours if he chooses to. This can help to bring you closer together.

Yes of course, its really more the fact that 7 years ago when we got together I was the 'good time party girl' which I am not now. However, he was the pub going good time guy, one of us has changed and the other hasn't and you can't make someone change, they have to follow their own path!

Sometimes I feel the relationship is really positive and then other times its two very different people following two different paths.

Its the way its goes.

I am not really wanting to go too much into the relationship thing on this thread as it relates to Reiki, however it is/or would interesting to know if Reiki Masters, Practitioners, Therapists feel it is important to be with someone who fully understands, or if you feel it is good/possible for people to be completely different!

Hi Ellie

It is not critical that the person you share your life with is on the same path that you are, as long as you both respect each other on the paths you have chosen, when the paths start to go in opposite directions then something has to give.

At this point you either have to compromise your own journey or move on, being in a situation like that is never easy, just make a decision as to what is important to you and hand the working out of the situation to your higher self, sit back and watch things happen and go with the flow 🙂

Thanks Paul, that makes a lot of sense and ultimately we all have to decided what is most important for to us.

Ellie

What a fascinating thread, makes for really interesting reading, thank you!

I think that often when one partner changes whether due to Reiki Attunements or otherwise, then this can have a knock on effect on the other partner and over time they may undergo changes also. If they are not ready for this progression, then possibly the relationship could end, for the highest good.

I'm in agreement with Paul on both his posts!

Furthermore, my husband respects Reiki but has no desire to be attuned to it. I have, in the past, treated him with Reiki and he has enjoyed the experience. However, we cannot treat people if they don't want to be treated! In many ways we are complete opposites and yet very much the same ( if that makes any sense).

I'm also surprised that the RMT had not given instances of the kinds of changes that can take place. We always give examples of our own experiences and warn about what the student may go through in terms of a "healing crisis" . We cover such areas as increased vibrational levels; the balancing of the energies etc. and discuss how these may affect the individual.

During my own Sho-den I became very emotional & later developed a severe chest infection. Oku-den didn't seem to affect me as much - it seemed the next logical step and was "nice". Shinpi-den, however, well - I drove through two sets of red lights on my way home. I later told my husband that could do with a few days off work in order to allow my energies to balance and to assimilate all the information! Went to peg some washing out, fell over the step on my way in and ended being off work for 3 weeks with a ruptured vein in my leg! (Be careful the things you ask for - you might get them!)

We also discuss how our "moods" may be affected; how we may seem more aggressive or more emotional or even depressed! We talk about the importance of the self-treatments etc.

Think I'd better shut up now or I'll go on forever!!!!

Thank you all for the advice and support.

It is now clear that my ex does not want us to be together. Like Ellie7, when we first got together, we were party goers, but I have grown up/out of that but he is still interested in this lifestyle.

I am in so much pain and I cant stop churning these emotions round and round.

Reiki is helping, I am doing self practice and also going to my master weekly. I know that the only thing that will help is time.

I am encouraged to know that you can have Reiki and a relationship and hopefully in the future I will find someone who loves me for who I am.

Hi Sammy

I'm really sorry to hear things didn't work out. Please, be as positive as you can - although I know sometimes it's hard to do when one goes through this hurt. I'm finding that trying to look at my relationship with my 'friend' as positively as I can, does help me a bit during my darker moments when I'm hurting a lot. I am sure you will meet someone who, if not shares your spiritual path, will at least accept it and embrace you for who you are.

Lots of Reiki hugs

Paula

It sounds like you're doing all the right things. I'm sending you lots of reiki too... Flower remedies might help if you're interested and want some help feel free to PM me

Thank you all for the advice and support.

It is now clear that my ex does not want us to be together. Like Ellie7, when we first got together, we were party goers, but I have grown up/out of that but he is still interested in this lifestyle.

I am in so much pain and I cant stop churning these emotions round and round.

Reiki is helping, I am doing self practice and also going to my master weekly. I know that the only thing that will help is time.

I am encouraged to know that you can have Reiki and a relationship and hopefully in the future I will find someone who loves me for who I am.

Sorry to read this, but perhaps it really is for the best. It may sound harsh but sometimes we have to clear out the 'old' to allow in the 'new'. Who knows what kind of man could be in the future for you!
Hope you are doing ok, lots of reiki hugs!

Thank you all for the advice and support.

It is now clear that my ex does not want us to be together. Like Ellie7, when we first got together, we were party goers, but I have grown up/out of that but he is still interested in this lifestyle.

I am in so much pain and I cant stop churning these emotions round and round.

Reiki is helping, I am doing self practice and also going to my master weekly. I know that the only thing that will help is time.

I am encouraged to know that you can have Reiki and a relationship and hopefully in the future I will find someone who loves me for who I am.

It seems that the time was right to move on anyway - you could have done anything else (almost!) and the split would still have happened.

How are things working out now that you're out of the 21 day period of cleansing (I assume that there's that period for Masters as well as the other levels?)

How are things working out now that you're out of the 21 day period of cleansing (I assume that there's that period for Masters as well as the other levels?)

IME, yes, the same for Masters ... though not everyone does go through this period of cleansing at any level, it's different for everyone.

Holistic

Hi
I did my 21 day cleansing with my Reiki 1 and 2 level. I did my masters with a different teacher and she didnt mention it. It actually occured to me the other day that I had not actually done it, but I have been doing Reiki most days so its probably OK!

I have moved house, Ive been having Reiki a bit less regularly than in the beginning, but doing lots of self practise.

To be honest Im doing really well. I dont have to see my ex, we dont have the same friends or anything so thats alot easier . If I see him it does bring me back down but without him im OK.

Things are moving quite quickly and I can only think that the Reiki is helping me through, everyone else around me is amazed by how level headed I have been about things!

It strikes me from what you have said that the Reiki is helping you grow, because you seemed to have been a bit stifled by the relationship. That growth is being channelled into constructive things by the Reiki rather than the destructive behaviour some people go through when they come out of a relationship.

Does that resonate with you?

IME, yes, the same for Masters ... though not everyone does go through this period of cleansing at any level, it's different for everyone.

Holistic

Yes, that helps - thanks!