Is Divorce rate higher for Internet Savvy people?

RE: Is Divorce rate higher for Internet Savvy people?

I think it can be an addiction - but communication plays a big role in all of this...

i would spend many an hour late night on the computer chatting - i was a 24 hour support person - and i had tech's in pretty much all corners of the world...

my husband was a very understanding person - but when i lost my job - i didnt lose the addiction to want to chat..and it just stayed that way until i realized that there is nothing in it, i can call my family - and i was really bored - hence the reason i went to chat..

started doing more with my hubby - and i still chat every once in a while - and i get on here whilst at work to 'visit' or read something interesting while i am waiting for an event to happen..

internet plays an important role - but i think the individual self is the controling factor...you have to ask yourself - 'do i want to sit on my arse all day, chatting with people, or go enjoy the day/night?'

its a matter of personal choice and will - we were given that, and what we choose to do with it is up to us..

IMHO
Ada

RE: Is Divorce rate higher for Internet Savvy people?

I think in some situation yes you are right.

If a relationship is unstable to begin with the internet and chat rooms can amplify the problem andmake it a whole lot worse.
The internet can bring in external influences.

Where as if you have a strong relationship sitting and chatting to complete strangers who can be anyone who they please just doesn't appeal.

The internet isn't to blame there has to be an underlying problem to begin with.

RE: Is Divorce rate higher for Internet Savvy people?

i agree with you Bliss on the aspect that the internet is not to blame - as i stated i believe its a matter of personal choice, circumstancees - and how well an individual communicates and how/whom they communicate to.

of course if you have a problem the internet is like an information superhighway - you can find people sympathetic, people who arnt, so on and so forth - all either strangers or virtual/physical friends/family.

an underlying problem to begin with - yes - to a point - again it goes back to communication...some people feed off of wanted to know what others think about thier problems, what they should do - seeking advice ect....

i dont know how much sense i am making.....just my honest opinion.......Ada

RE: Is Divorce rate higher for Internet Savvy people?

i don't think the internet can affect the national divorce rate.. that's maybe taking it a tad too far.. LOL

i suppose i agree with what's been said in other posts.. i mean, the internet can be a great place to meet people but if you're choosing to spend more time online than with those you love athome then something mustbe wrong to start with..obviously,if there's already a problem within the relationship then yes, people are more likely to go into chat rooms.. it's like they have something missing and they're trying to fill a void of some kind..maybe, in that kind of situation,people use the internet as a temporary escape until they're ready to face and talk about the real issue at hand..

ali xx

RE: Is Divorce rate higher for Internet Savvy people?

I think it can affect the divorce rate, as it's easy to start chatting to someone intimately on the internet and then agree to meet them and before you know where you are you involved with someone else and your marriage is over. You've already done the groundwork,"chatting" away in all innocence to begin with.
Since I have reached a certain age (and weight LOL) I have had very few come ons from the opposite sex face to face. And yet I've had several offerson the internet, including two from Friends Reunited- whcih have ranged from meeting for a coffee, to sharing a shower, (I don't think this was anything to do with the water shortage).I've not been tempted at all as I know which side my bread is buttered and that's probably why I've put on a bit of weight - but that's not always the case and at leastthree people I know have had their marriages go down the drain because of the internet- one guy left Surbiton and his wife and two children to go and live with a pig farmer in Arkansas. Which is a bit weird. He might still have been going down the Victoria for a pint and a game of darts on a Saturday night if it wasn't for the internet - he really wasn't the "type" to stray - he just got chatting and the rest is pig-farming.

So my vote is - internet has lead to more marriages breaking up because it's so easy to talk to strange people.........like me.

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LOL sharon...you're not strange...are you??:D:D

I also think it can, I'm not saying it's mainly a male thing here but I know of a few friends who have had problems with their husbands going onto 'those' type of sites (you know what type I mean[:'(])

I think it can become a bit of an 'on the side thing' because it opens up a new & private world that's secretly protected by passwords and email accounts, meeting new people who share the same interests as you ect but so long as both couples are straight up with each other & don't keep it secretive it's fine & healthy...

Love
Amy
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RE: Is Divorce rate higher for Internet Savvy people?

Well, from painful experience I know internet relationships can destroy a marriage. Even if the person involved never meets the other (although in my case he did even though he knew how upset I was)it is the EMOTIONAL infidelity that destroys. Once the trust has gone it is very hard to build it up again.

Love and light

reikiangel

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RE: Is Divorce rate higher for Internet Savvy people?

I think it can be an addiction - but communication plays a big role in all of this...

People spending more time on Internet will consume the communication time allotted for the family.

RE: Is Divorce rate higher for Internet Savvy people?

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RE: Is Divorce rate higher for Internet Savvy people?

No, the internet hasn't caused more divorces.

Its, of course, very easy to blame the internet as the downfall of a relationship. But I think if we are honest, a solid relationship isn't going to break due to online interactions. It's advent and popularity has coincided with people realising their freedom of choice. Its not a cause but a symptom of something "not as it should be”.

Personally, the internet has allowed me to communicate with people I would not ordinarily have had the opportunity of "meeting”. These people have helped me to grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually, something definitely lacking in my marriage. I found a place where I could verbalise what was going on with me, how I was feeling and then gaining the realisation that no… it doesn't have to be this way! But, no, it didn't cause my divorce. (mind you, my personal belief is that humans were not actually made to mate for life, now that we live so long! was ok when we died at 40! [&:])

Some "chatters” remain as just online friends, others have become close RL friends (yes and they weren't weirdo axe murderers!),some at a distance, but the phone is a miracle communicator in itself ;). comes a point with some, when online isn't "real” enough.

But anyway, even though I knew which side my bread was buttered, call me old fashioned ;), butI'd sooner be happy with no butter on my bread than be unfulfilled in a relationship.

RE: Is Divorce rate higher for Internet Savvy people?

Another viewpoint

maybe the contrary:

internet savvy people ::

always find new things to do or talk about and keep marriage exciting
make good money
can work from home and spare a few free minutes also in day time
they don't get in touch a lot with other people in real time
have an option if the partner is in a bad mood instead of reacting on it and letting it explode

RE: Is Divorce rate higher for Internet Savvy people?

[color="#6600cc"]The internet means that you can meet people from
different parts of the world, which makes a news story if the people
get together.

But if a relationship is going to break up, it will do so whether or
not the people concerned use the internet. You can meet someone new
down the supermarket and it will break up a realtionship (and all you
did was to talk about the price of baked beans to start off with) You
can innocently get to know someone at work before becoming emotionally
entangled ..... you get the picture here!

Yes, relationships do break up through meeting people on the internet
(and not always happily - sometimes people fall in love with a false
image of a person who is always there for them - which could be very
different in real life if you both expect that committment!) But the
question that never can be answered (because we aren't able to see two
different realities) is would it have broken up anyway?