hello everyone..
i have been attuned to Reiki for about 3 years now, and took my master practitioner level in january of this year.
i used to love giving and receiving reiki, but recently this has changed.
i can still send reiki distantly and self treat, but cannot receive healing from others or give it directly/hands on to anyone else.
i received some spiritual healing some months ago and this triggered a huge panic attack which lasted over 2 days. it was my first and last experience with spiritual healing (i'm not knocking spiritual healing at all, but my experience frightened me away from it!).
i since have received 2 or 3 reiki treatments from my reiki master and have felt panicky and uneasy/very spaced out during and after both of them.
when i have treated others the same thing happens. i feel completely dissociated and look down at my hands and they are not my own. this is the same thing that happened in my panic attack.
a couple of weeks ago my friend/sort of boyfriend asked me for healing when he was lying on the couch next to me. i put my hands on his head and he fell asleeep almost immediately, and his heart started to beat faster. i stopped the treatment, convinced something was wrong, and it was really hard for him to wake up. after i stopped the treatment i was again reallydissociated and had an uneasy panicky feeling. i just wanted him to leave and i have never felt that way with him before.
i am now scared to give or receive reiki. i'm frightened of harming others with it (ridiculous i know), and having wierd side effects fromit.i self treat, but i try and direct the energy instead of just trusting it to do its thing;, i can't trust reiki to not make me feel afraid.
i have totally lost my trust in reiki and it's so upsetting, as reiki used to be such a massive part of my life.
i have some stuff of my own going on right now, and am getting better from a sort of general anxiety problem. i thought for some time that maybe i had to focus on my own healing for a while, and it would feel right to treat others/receive tratements in time, but that time isn't coming, and if anything i'm more apprehensive than ever.
i'm starting to think reiki wasn't for me after all, and maybe i should never have becone attuned in the first place.
a friend of mine asked me for reiki last week and i said no... i felt so awful because they were really unwell.
can anyone help with this? sorry this is a bit long.
thank you
xx sarah xx
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Heya Sarah,
I'm short on time, so I'll answer quickly.
It seems to me that it's not so much the Reiki that's the problem but the anxiety/panicking which seems to have gotten linked to your experience of Reiki somehow.
I'm sure once you manage to resolve the anxiety/panic issues (using something like NLP/Hypnotherapy/EFT/Freeway etc) then you'll find it's nothing directly to do with the Reiki itself. Can you relate when this started to any particular event that happened in your life?
Love and Reiki Hugs
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Hi Sarah
There is nothing wrong with your energy connections, they are fine and can be trusted, you really do need to start communicating with them, ask them to guide you when you want to do any energy work.
Please don't jump to any conclusions as in your situation they are usually the wrong ones, please keep calm and relaxed when you want to work, seek assurance from your energy helpers, they will assure you if you are prepared to listen, they will also alert you if things are not right and guide you to correct things, so either way you do not have to worry
We all have things that need sorting from time to time, that is only natural and yes it can be a little disconcerting until we accept the changes that happen to allow the situations to be resolved, be assured you can't hurt anyone with what you are doing even if you did inadvertently do it wrong, it will be corrected by your helpers.
Please do self heal, relax, call in your energy guides, start the energy flowing, relax and go with the flow, if you are guided to direct it to an area, that is fine you aren't doing anything wrong, if you are guided to relax and let thing happen then that is also correct, you are in a win, win situation, just relax and let it happen ok.
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i received some spiritual healing some months ago and this triggered a huge panic attack which lasted over 2 days. it was my first and last experience with spiritual healing (i'm not knocking spiritual healing at all, but my experience frightened me away from it!).
Feathers,
As a matter of interest..what was this spiritual healing for and who was the person that performed it?
Someone you know or not?
It may be relevant.
Bless
Bryan
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You've had some very different, but all equally valid responses to your question and I think they all build on each other which is great.
Firstly I'd just like to point out that essentially all healing, when coming from a place of love, is the same. I know you weren't particularly singling out thespiritual healing you received as being the cause of the problem, but you did differentiate between that and Reiki, so I thought I'd just mention it;)What can make a difference however, is the integrity and general care that a practioner shows for you. You don't mention whether or not your healer reassured you at the time of your panic attack or whether they provided any 'after care'. I would hope that they did.
I think Giles hit the nail on the head when he says it's probably less to do with Reiki and more to do with the fearful emotions that have been associated withhealing, hence your panic attacks when you give or recieveReiki.Reiki doesn't 'cause' emotion, it justprovides the right environment for you to release your own buried emotions. It sounds like you had a real release during the healing you had which I see as very positive. It's much better that the emotion has been let out than supressed, and relax in the knowledge that you're unconscious mind only releases as much as it's safe for you to deal with.
I would suggest that you look into the panic attacks and the feelings that surface before, during and after. Try and viewthe feelings objectively and see them asimportant messengers rather than letting them immobilise you.Panic attacks are the body's response to fear- because a very strong emotion is being released it temporarily makes you scared for your life, even though the fear was originally an emotionalresponse to a situation rather than a physical one. What was going on in your mind at the time of the panic attack? Have you experienced panic attacks before? If so, what was going on in your life at the time? If you can't associate it with anything then maybe it would help to ponder on the idea of the panic attacks and an image or feeling, or maybe even a word might come into your mind. It doesn't have to make sense logically, so just accept anything that comes to you. It might also help to look at your dreams, too, as the feelings or themes you experience might have relevance to this issue.
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Azalia
Firstly I'd just like to point out that essentially all healing, when coming from a place of love, is the same. I know you weren't particularly singling out the spiritual healing you received as being the cause of the problem, but you did differentiate between that and Reiki, so I thought I'd just mention it
I wouldn't argue with that in principle. However, I do know a few people who, while perfectly happy with Reiki, simply don't get on with spiritual healing at all, it can make them feel strange, even ill.
So yes, I can relate to the thought that the spiritual healing may not, on this occasion, have been compatible.
Having said that, I know others who can't tell the difference. I believe it's down to different degrees of sensititivity in some way.
Holistic
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hello and thank you for your replies...
thank you firstly paul for reassuring me that reiki can do no harm. deep down i know this really, and i think the more i avoid treatments the more i am afraid of doing them.
energylz... i have been suffering from anxiety for a while now in a general way. seems to be having a knock on effect in most areas of my life at the moment. EFT does not seem to be working much (i'm obviously not getting it right) but i can't afford to see a practitioner at the moment so i try and muddle through... 😀
mr_firstlight... the spiritual healing i had was not a planned session, i just asked my friend for healing one morning when i had a bad hangover. she is a friend i have known for ages, a medium and tarot reader. the healing itself was a nice feeling, much like reiki but i had vivid visions and was very strongly aware of her spirit guide there with us. it only lasted about ten minutes, and it was as soon as she took her hands off me that the panic started. my heart just went out of control and i completely dissociated from everything. this is the first full blown panic attack i have had, and i haven't had one like it since, though i have been on the verge of it.
azalia... i'm going to have to think about this more!
if these panic attacks have been associated with healing and its not the healing itself then i need to "unassociate" them ... back to the drawing board with EFT perhaps?
thank you all for your input and advice. glad i dont sound crazy or anything haha. 😀
xx sarah xx
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Hi Feathers,
"I just asked my friend for healing one morning when I had a bad hangover"
I wonder if this had anything to do with the reaction you had to the healing or perhaps your perception of what happened?
Just a thought, but I wonder if you still has alcohol running around your system, you may not have been entirely grounded, and maybe even still a wee bit tipsy. Not the best time to receive any kind of healing.
meridianmoon x
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mr_firstlight... the spiritual healing i had was not a planned session, i just asked my friend for healing one morning when i had a bad hangover. she is a friend i have known for ages, a medium and tarot reader. the healing itself was a nice feeling, much like reiki but i had vivid visions and was very strongly aware of her spirit guide there with us. it only lasted about ten minutes, and it was as soon as she took her hands off me that the panic started. my heart just went out of control and i completely dissociated from everything. this is the first full blown panic attack i have had, and i haven't had one like it since, though i have been on the verge of it.
Feathers,
Might be an idea to take less "hangovers" in future. 🙂
May I also suggest you make a stronger connection with your Reiki guides. You are at Reiki Master practitioner level and should or could improve your connection to the Reiki guides.
Integrating the Master energy can take some time and as you have "chosen" to work at this level then old emotional and mental patterns will come up for healing. This is probably what's happening now, triggered by the hangover and the spiritual healing session. Eventually it will work its way through your system. Try to remember that you as a spiritual being are not these emotions and these thoughts. Allow them to wash through you but not "contain" you if you can. There is a part of you which is completely detached from these panic "emotions" and your master atunement is helping you to connect with this higher aspect of you.
In time this will all seem like a bad dream. In the meantime, be good to yourself. Being attuned to Reiki often brings up past karma for healing, maybe even from a past life. Try not to be too hard on yourself in this liffe, in the knowledge that your taking up the path of the healer will balance old karma for you as an act of grace.
Bless
Bryan
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Hi Sarah,
Some more excellent advice from everyone above.
I noticed this in your last posting...
ORIGINAL: feathers
thank you firstly paul for reassuring me that reiki can do no harm. deep down i know this really, and i think the more i avoid treatments the more i am afraid of doing them.
This is what we call in Mind Therapy terms a "self limiting belief". Sort of like, the more you tell yourself something the more you believe it and the more real it becomes. If you start listening to the words you use when you're speaking and writing ("listening to your self-talk") you can start to pick up on where you are saying these limiting beliefs and re-phrase them into something more positive that won't limit you.
And as everyone else has said, keep up the Reiki self-healing. 😉
Love and Reiki Hugs
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Hi
Please don't let these events put you off reiki or healing - I would recommend you continue to get healing, because it looks like you are breaking through something - if it feels uncomfortable take some rescue remedy or other suitable vibrational medicine along with the reiki. The road to self development is sometimes rocky and you must be brave - ask for help from the angelic beings. Have no expectations of the healing experience, be present to what occurs and release it - have some helpful trusted friends who can help you go through your process.
Good luck
Luv Binah
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mr_firstlight... the spiritual healing i had was not a planned session, i just asked my friend for healing one morning when i had a bad hangover. she is a friend i have known for ages, a medium and tarot reader. the healing itself was a nice feeling, much like reiki but i had vivid visions and was very strongly aware of her spirit guide there with us.
Ah! So it was a spiritualist healer then, not a "spiritual healer"? Spiritualist healers are trained under a spiritualist church and use their mediumship skills during healing and they use their connection to their spirit guide to connect to the healing source. I have received healing from a spiritualist healer and can vouch for it feeling very different from any other healing I've ever had! That doesn't necessarily make it wrong or inferior though:D
Earlier, Holistic said:
I do know a few people who, while perfectly happy with Reiki, simply don't get on with spiritual healing at all, it can make them feel strange, even ill.
The thing is, this might not necessarily have been the 'type' of healing that made them feel strange, butthe 'type' ofpractioner! I've received healing from loads of Reiki practioners and while nice people, they made me feel a bit edgy!! The same goes for spiritual healers...I have had some offputting experiences with them, but it wasn't necessarily the healing they were channeling, but something about their energy getting in the way! Being the queen of analogy:D, I've come up with this one to explain to clarify. It's like cooking following a recipe. Two people can go away with exactly the same ingredients and instructions for how to make something and yet the end results will taste totally different. This is like healing- the ingredients (the healing energy being channeled) is the same, but just the energy of the person chanelling it, or inperceptable differences in their methods can make a big difference to the end result of the food, or healing session in this example.
Something else that can play a big part is our preconceptions. If we believe that one type of healing is different/better/worse than another, then mnost likely that is what will experience because of the mental filter we've put in place.
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thank you everyone for your help...
azalia, yes, she is a spiritualist medium, though not a trained healer. she has had amazing results with other people, but i guess it didn't agree with me on that particular day...
i'm sure, in hindsight, thatthe alcohol was probably a big part of what happened. i have always had anxiety after drinking the night before, so maybe this combined with an intense healing triggered a panic attack. silly me! as a reiki person i should have known better than to ask for healing with alcohol still in my system... well... i have learned a lesson and a half.
perhaps it all happened for good reason. since then i have quit drinking altogether, and smoking too! 😀
have also finally taken a step to reach out for help with my anxiety problems. my stepmum is a hypnotherapist and she has given me a hypnosis cd. have been listening to it the past 3 nights and even though i have no idea what it says (keep falling asleep!) i have been feeling much more positive. also doing EFT on other situations and feelings that arise.
i did a reiki treatment (only short, about 20 mins) on my flatmate the other night and it was fine... no stress, no fear, just lovely relaxation of doing reiki. i could feel my guides around me and i felt safe and looked after. we have planned a full treatment for her on monday. i feel like a weight has been lifted. i have stopped trying to control the energy in my own self treatment too, just letting reiki flow for the highest good. it's amazing to have reiki back in my life again. 😀
thank you all so much for helping, your input and reassurance has really helped me with this.
love
sarah
xxxx:)
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ORIGINAL: feathers
have also finally taken a step to reach out for help with my anxiety problems. my stepmum is a hypnotherapist and she has given me a hypnosis cd. have been listening to it the past 3 nights and even though i have no idea what it says (keep falling asleep!) i have been feeling much more positive. also doing EFT on other situations and feelings that arise.
That's the great thing about listening to a CD. You can fall asleep and the contents will just go straight through to your unconscious mind without your conscious mind getting in the way. So although you won't always easily recall what was on the CD, it will still have a good effect on you.
😉
Love and Reiki Hugs
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i'm sure, in hindsight, that the alcohol was probably a big part of what happened. i have always had anxiety after drinking the night before, so maybe this combined with an intense healing triggered a panic attack. silly me! as a reiki person i should have known better than to ask for healing with alcohol still in my system... well... i have learned a lesson and a half.
Hi Feathers
Alcohol is considered a depressant of sorts and can mask the symptoms or aggrevate them in certain circumstances especially if you had been anxious before. After any healing you go through what I would call a detox or cleansing perhaps is a better word and the alcohol perhaps magnified the symptoms.
As with any shock to the system, your brain takes a snapshot of the time, place, smell, etc etc and this can lead to recurring panic attacks. What we all do is then consciously link the two even though they may not be linked and these in turn start to form subconsciously.
Then again you perhaps the healing just wasn't for you.....main thing to focus on is perhaps gently allowing the reiki to become one with you again. Perhaps the biggest fear we have is the fear of the unknown but what kind of life would we lead if we never explored the unknown?
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Hi feathers,
Any healing can bring up stuf to e healed and anxiety is just one of those things. I think if the healer was more experienced/trained, they would have been able to work withthe panic attackbetter. The panic attack was just your body releasingbad energy stuck inside you. Before this leaves your body, it goes through it on its way out. Perhapsthe healing triggered off a release. Just go with it and let it happen, acknowledge it and say goodbye to it on its journey out of your system. You have a lot of healing ahead of you, and really if you can at least go to regular Reiki shares to have someone else with you as this anxiety makes its journey out of your system, it can help. Failing that, maybe you can ask your doctor to refer you to a counsellor.