Yesterday I had a client ring up for a massage, which is nothing unusual, he made an appointment for this afternoon. But I felt really apprehensive about this client and wasn't sure if it was the coffee or genuine anxiety. Hours later I still had a heavy feeling about him, so I decided to reiki my therapy room, house etc for protection and asked that if he is dodgy for him be too busy, or just not turn up. I had to do it twice before I felt really sure I didn't have to worry anymore.
Well this morning I got a text from him saying he couldn't come. I was so delighted! I'm not usually glad when clients cancel or don't show up but this time I was so thankful to reiki. I will never know if I was correct in my apprehension but I do know I can rely on reiki to look after me.
Thank you reiki.
A very good example of how we use our conscious intention to transform our lives there spangle. 
Does your experience of Reiki give you any clue as to what might be the problem when someone doesn't turn up? (For example, I've found that a client who cancels at the last minute - particularly if s/he does it several times - is often suffering from a major intrusion. Would you be able to predict something like this?)
(For example, I've found that a client who cancels at the last minute - particularly if s/he does it several times - is often suffering from a major intrusion. Would you be able to predict something like this?)
Crowan, would you please expand that and go into a bit more detail about the intrusion example?
Crowan, would you please expand that and go into a bit more detail about the intrusion example?
I'm afraid that I can only talk about this from a shamanic perspective, but we become dis-eased when either we have lost something (power or soul) or we have something inside that does not belong with us. You understand, I am talking about spiritual aspects here.
Sometimes, whatever is inside (the intrusion) is aware enough to know that you are taking steps to get rid of it and becomes scared. Then it may well try to influence you to miss appointments. Only major intrusions have enough power to influence you like this.
I don't know if a reiki practitioner would have different words (and maybe different ways of dealing with it) than I have.
I'm afraid that I can only talk about this from a shamanic perspective...
That's helpful, thank you. What I'm still not understanding is who that applies to... the practitioner, the client, or both?
That's helpful, thank you. What I'm still not understanding is who that applies to... the practitioner, the client, or both?
Sorry - I didn't explain that very well, did I?
The client has the intrusion. The intrusion knows that the practitioner will 'get rid of it' (actually, if the practitioner is any good, the intrusion will be returned to where it should be, but it doesn't know this and is acting through fear) and therefore influences the client to miss appointments.
In the early days of my massage and Reiki practice that happened to me. A client would call to inquire about the service, become confident about the treatment, schedule the appointment, and not show up. When I asked other massage practitioners about this, they said to not worry about it because it happens. When I asked other Reiki practitioners in that time about it, they said it was my energies—I was the problem, not the client.
Whether or not the Reiki practitioners were correct is a matter of perspective. Their answer to my question caused me to look deeper into myself, and that action caused me to find many problems—pains from my life experience that were in need of healing.
The longer I was in practice and the more my practice grew, the less it bothered me when a client didn’t show up for the appointment. Between the introspection gained by examining myself and sending healing Reiki energies to my past, and the experience of speaking to potential clients who later broke their word and did not show up to the treatment, I began to develop a strong intuitive sense knowing whether a client was going to show or no-show.
In hindsight, being told by other Reiki practitioners that it was my energy, that I was the problem, helped me heal in many needed ways. Honestly, I thought it was a bit rude at first—after all, I was a Reiki Master and who are you to tell me I’m the one with problems??? For heaven’s sake, you are just projecting your own problems onto me… and from another perspective, that too, was probably true.
As my intuitive sense about the client’s sincerity grew, so did the healing energy emanating outwards from me. There were no-shows in the early years of my practice, but in the later years, when a no-show happened it was usually with a regular client who had a valid reason to not keep the appointment.
I like to believe that practicing Reiki, like any spiritual healing art, is like being a bright light in the dark forest. The brighter shines the light, the more bugs are attracted to it… and eventually the light shines bright enough that only the bugs who are sincerely ready to metamorphize to the next phase in their life are able to approach.
At least that's my opinion.
Hi LightBody
This is a little different to someone just not showing up for an appointment, which happens for all sorts of reasons.
In the original post spangle said:
Hours later I still had a heavy feeling about him, so I decided to reiki my therapy room, house etc for protection and asked that if he is dodgy for him be too busy, or just not turn up. I had to do it twice before I felt really sure I didn't have to worry anymore.
If we examine the thought process within consciousness that was involved, it started with personal intuition which triggered a fear within spangle, this fear that something was not right resulted in spangle setting their intention to make this person not turn up, spangle then followed the intention with an action to set about making this happen and repeated the process until it felt complete, which resulted in:
Well this morning I got a text from him saying he couldn't come. I was so delighted! I'm not usually glad when clients cancel or don't show up but this time I was so thankful to reiki. I will never know if I was correct in my apprehension but I do know I can rely on reiki to look after me.
Thank you reiki.
I do not know why Reiki is being thanked for something which spangle orchestrated within self, I think that was very well done and would suggest that you give yourself a pat on the back, remember how you achieved the goal that you set out to achieve, so that you can apply it in other areas of your life.
Hi Paul (and everyone),
...out of curiosity... Paul, you often say that we are manifesting our own reality based on our beliefs... so, how would Spangle manifesting a no-show client in the first place, fit into the picture?
...and, if Spangle was acting out of fear and the client wasn't potential trouble.. how can we be certain that Spangle isn't now manifesting a reality where clients, are 'turned away'...and Spangles fear remains where it is - masquerading as intuition?
...actually, I'd really like to know everyones views on these question, not only Pauls'
It is true I will never be sure if this client was trouble or not, and if my feeling was intuition, too much caffeine or some problem within me. I'll never know whether he would have cancelled anyway if I had done no reiki or self orchestrated thought.
The only thing I am sure of is that I never usually feel this way with new clients. Yesterday I had another male client who booked his appointment the same day and I felt no apprehension about. When he showed up yesterday I knew immediately that he was here for the right reasons.
I used reiki as a method of accessing and utilising my own power. But I believe reiki is a force unto itself also and that is why I thank it because even though I should thank myself as well, I did not work alone.
I was very specific in what I asked for. I asked for my house to be protected from all forms of negativity. Positive influences are welcome, but negativity stops at the door. The client who we shall never know was welcome, but only he if he brought no harm. I made that very clear in my request. I don't know if I could do anymore than that. I asked that he become too busy, which I hoped was be a gentle reason for preventing him from coming. Of course despite this there is a chance I could still have pushed away someone who was harmless, however reiki philosophy tells us it works for the power of the highest good. Therefore I trust that the best happened for him as well as me.
It is true I will never be sure if this client was trouble or not, and if my feeling was intuition, too much caffeine or some problem within me. I'll never know whether he would have cancelled anyway if I had done no reiki or self orchestrated thought.
The only thing I am sure of is that I never usually feel this way with new clients. Yesterday I had another male client who booked his appointment the same day and I felt no apprehension about. When he showed up yesterday I knew immediately that he was here for the right reasons.
Hi spangle,
I ask in the spirit of investigation - when you had the feeling of uneasyness about the client... could you pinpoint exactly what it was that caused your apprehension... something he said during your initial chat... tone of voice... his name... you've probably been through this in your own mind, so feel free to ignore me if you wish. I suppose what I'm asking (you and everyone else) is how to distinguish between fear and intuition?
I've know a couple of anxious people who, in there anxious states have had what seemed to them like premonitions or intuitions eg. Being afraid of flying and having catastophic mental images of what might happen if they took their flight... but then when their premonition does NOT turn into a reality, their mind will find a way of justifying it: "My not getting on the plane, altered circumstances (the course of fate) sufficiently for everything to run smoothly. etc."
But it seems possible doesn't it that their fear has gotten the better of them, and continued to have a hold over them.
... as you pointed out, spangle, how can we know if apprehension is justified or not... ? Or if a persons fear has 'escaped capture' so to speak.
It would be a great pity if there were many people who were being control by fear, and labouring under the belief that they were listening to their intuition.
I used reiki as a method of accessing and utilising my own power. But I believe reiki is a force unto itself also and that is why I thank it because even though I should thank myself as well, I did not work alone.
I was very specific in what I asked for. I asked for my house to be protected from all forms of negativity. Positive influences are welcome, but negativity stops at the door. The client who we shall never know was welcome, but only he if he brought no harm. I made that very clear in my request. I don't know if I could do anymore than that. I asked that he become too busy, which I hoped was be a gentle reason for preventing him from coming. Of course despite this there is a chance I could still have pushed away someone who was harmless, however reiki philosophy tells us it works for the power of the highest good. Therefore I trust that the best happened for him as well as me.
I know what your saying - respect to Reiki! How amazingly fortunate to have it available to us... wow....
Hi Spangle!
I, too, respect and understand what you are saying about the power of Reiki.
It just crossed my mind, however, that perhaps your client had similar misgivings about his appointment with you? Maybe he picked up on your unease (even before you consciously had it!), or maybe he sensed unwelcoming vibes at some stage afterwards.
Just a thought...
Hi WildStrawberry
...out of curiosity... Paul, you often say that we are manifesting our own reality based on our beliefs... so, how would Spangle manifesting a no-show client in the first place, fit into the picture?
You are supposing that the other person would have cancelled had spangle not set out to create a reality where that happened!
...and, if Spangle was acting out of fear and the client wasn't potential trouble.. how can we be certain that Spangle isn't now manifesting a reality where clients, are 'turned away'...and Spangles fear remains where it is - masquerading as intuition?
That is one possibility out of many when dealing with consciousness, it is our underlying thought patterns and beliefs, which have the main power within the creation of our reality, the aspect of consciousness which we use in our every day lives, pales into insignificance when we put it against a core belief or a core way of being, this is where gaining an understanding of how our different aspects of consciousness work and interact with each other, comes into its own.
So if as you say, someone is reacting to an existing underlying fear that is attached to a past experience, then this will be triggered every time someone says or does something which triggers it. until it is removed or in our case reprogrammed.
You are supposing that the other person would have cancelled had spangle not set out to create a reality where that happened!
Not really Paul, I was speculating as to whether spangles apprehension towards the client was founded or not in the first place. As spangle said :
But I felt really apprehensive about this client and wasn't sure if it was the coffee or genuine anxiety. Hours later I still had a heavy feeling about him.
and
I will never know if I was correct in my apprehension
and later in #11:
It is true I will never be sure if this client was trouble or not, and if my feeling was intuition, too much caffeine or some problem within me. I'll never know whether he would have cancelled anyway if I had done no reiki or self orchestrated thought.
...if spangle was made to feel uneasy by the client - was it a legitimate and fouded misgiving against that person, or not? Or, was the uneasyness an unhealed fear within spangle (triggered by the client)... Or a precognitive intuition or 'knowing', as some people might say? And how could we know the difference?
Because, if it was a hidden fear within spangle which triggered the apprehension... then that fear has remained in situ and unseated.
As I mentioned earlier, I've know a couple of anxious people who have been convinced that the detailed and 'realistic' mental images that flash through their mind, whilst in an anxious state are premonitions of impending danger... and so they avoid the trigger of their anxiety, and their fear gets to live another day.
So if a person supposses danger where there isn't any... their fear lives on in the guise of intuition.
That is one possibility out of many when dealing with consciousness, it is our underlying thought patterns and beliefs, which have the main power within the creation of our reality, the aspect of consciousness which we use in our every day lives, pales into insignificance when we put it against a core belief or a core way of being, this is where gaining an understanding of how our different aspects of consciousness work and interact with each other, comes into its own.
So if as you say, someone is reacting to an existing underlying fear that is attached to a past experience, then this will be triggered every time someone says or does something which triggers it. until it is removed or in our case reprogrammed.
I understand what you mean ...
Hi WildStrawberry
There is no definitive answer to your question, we all have intuition and inner guidance, they are not infallible, for as you say, if we have an inner conflict which is clouding the intuition or creating what appears to be an intuitive response, then the only way to test it, would be to make a mental note of the thoughts and go ahead and see if it proves to be right or wrong!
Hi WildStrawberry
There is no definitive answer to your question, we all have intuition and inner guidance, they are not infallible, for as you say, if we have an inner conflict which is clouding the intuition or creating what appears to be an intuitive response, then the only way to test it, would be to make a mental note of the thoughts and go ahead and see if it proves to be right or wrong!
... but if (as is often said), we are always seeking to prove ourselves right.... then doesn't that mean we'd get stuck in a loop...?
Spangle, do you have spirit teachers or guides (or friends) that you can ask about this situation?
Hi WildStrawberry
... but if (as is often said), we are always seeking to prove ourselves right.... then doesn't that mean we'd get stuck in a loop...?
We do not have to prove ourselves right, we just have to embrace self, but if we find that embracing self leads us into one quagmire after another, then we need to discover why we are sabotaging self.
We do not have to prove ourselves right, we just have to embrace self, but if we find that embracing self leads us into one quagmire after another, then we need to discover why we are sabotaging self.
Hi Paul,
What I meant about 'proving ourselves right' is:
Often, in Personal Developement circles it is said that our beliefs seek to prove themselves right. For example, if we believe ourselves to be "unworthy o f love" then, acording to this principle - we seek to prove this 'right'. it becomes reality and that is what we get.
So in relation to spangle thread, earlier on you suggested:
Hi WildStrawberry
There is no definitive answer to your question, we all have intuition and inner guidance, they are not infallible, for as you say, if we have an inner conflict which is clouding the intuition or creating what appears to be an intuitive response, then the only way to test it, would be to make a mental note of the thoughts and go ahead and see if it proves to be right or wrong!
You suggested to make a note of the thoughts and see if they prove to be right or wrong....if we are always seeking to "prove ourselves right" then at this point a person could feasable get stuck in a loop, and the underlying belief be reaffirmed. You've mentioned the "prove ourselves right" principle a couple of times yourself elsewhere.
Also, how is possible to test your thought against the outcome if, to use spangles incident as an example:
Spangle has anxious thought and feeling about letting a potential dodgy client the house. In order to test this the potentially dodgy client would have to be let into the house.... could be dodgy.
Hi WildStrawberry
For us to perceive that we need to prove that we are right, then we need to bring judgement into the equation and perceive something as wrong, which is not the way that I perceive personal development to work.
To my understanding the inner guidance or intuition that we receive is just that, it revolves around our core beliefs and what we have decided suits our perceptions on what we want to experience over the things that we decide we would not like to experience.
Now just because we receive the intuition or guidance, does not mean that we have to go along with it, we can choose in any given situation to embrace an experience and see what unfolds, nothing is set in stone, what feels right in one situation will be completely different to what feels right in another situation.
Personal development allows us to evaluate all possibilities in an open and nonjudgmental way, otherwise we set up barriers which restrict us from the freedom of personal expression and the right to chose to experience something in the moment, we need to learn to take the 't' out of cant and turn it into can, only then have we the freedom to choose unconditionally.
Hi Paul,
I understand everything written in the above post (I'm not just saying that :)). But, do you know what I mean about getting stuck in a loop (a limiting loop), as mentioned previously?
Hi WildStrawberry
I understand everything written in the above post (I'm not just saying that :)). But, do you know what I mean about getting stuck in a loop (a limiting loop), as mentioned previously?
Yes, self limiting thought patterns and beliefs create inner conflicts which set up catch 22 scenarios, where we dig a hole and try and get out of it by digging the hole deeper. Personal development is being open to perceive the hole, acknowledge that we have dug it ourselves and take personal responsibility for the hole that we have dug, which allows us to fill it in and move forward.
In the absence of someone who understands the principle, it is often very difficult to see the hole, never mind the shovel that we use to dig it, because we are perceiving through judgements, so it must be someone else's fault that we are stuck in our current predicament so we look outward for an answer in stead of looking inward in an open and nonjudgmental way.
If we use things like judgements and fears to set up our intuition, then there is a good possibility of setting up the very thing that we are attempting to avoid, so yes that is very possible, but the variables get greater as we add more people into the equation, for they are all attempting to create their own outcomes.
Spangle took the initiative and closed the door this time, it does not matter what might have happened as that is pure speculation, or if it was a right or wrong decision, it was simply a choice that spangle chose to make. It is what actually happened that is important and that was spangle's choice to make.
I am sure that we have all found ourselves in similar situations and taken whatever actions we deem appropriate at the time, the important thing to remember is that we do have choices and we can make them and reinforce them with our whole being.
I have no idea where the boundary between my intuition and imagination lie. In this particular case I am not sure intuition played a big part, or if it did the only way I could find out is to phone the client and ask him, which I'm not going to do!
However, noone has mentioned common sense yet and I think in this incident that is what happened. It sounds like the people contributing to this thread have a lot of knowledge about matters of the consciousness, a lot more than me anyway. Perhaps you can explain something about the way fear affects what we think is common sense? Common sense being I think a very subjective thing.
I was unsure of the client because of the phone conversation I had with him. I don't know what it is like in the U.K. but in Holland where I live, there are some, I say some...many people who take it for granted that 'massage' means 'erotic service' and it doesn't enter their head to check if this is what is actually offered. I really need to avoid having these people coming to me, and have learnt to read between the lines. There are many tell tale signs to look out for and usually through the course of a telephone conversation there will be a strange question which gives me the opportunity to point out what I do and don't do. This didn't happen with this client, however he didn't know what treatment he wanted and was a little too eager to know the address before he had made an appointment or even specified what he was interested in. This made me very suspicious.
Perhaps I was too harsh or cynical in my judgement of him based on previous experience. Instead of fear masquerading as intuition maybe it was paranoia masquerading as sense? We'll never know this time. But as I said before, I used reiki as a harmless way of protecting myself while hopefully not repelling someone who might have been a genuine client.
I think you acted very sensibly, spangle, and that you were right to be cautious. Reiki can certainly empower you and you felt reassured by it. Sometimes over-analysis is unnecessary, but it seems to be rather prevelant on this site!
Hi Spangle
Intuition is inner guidance which comes from our higher consciousness or self, if you are healing someone and you get an insight into what is wrong with them and they have not revealed this information to you, then you are listening to your intuition. Imagination comes from our everyday thinking aspect of consciousness or thinking mind, where we imagine what it would be like to do something that we have not yet experienced.
The conversation that I was having with WildStrawberry was about how we can influence our intuition by filtering it through a fear.
So let us say that you have had a couple of clients who wanted something that you were not happy to give them and things got out of hand and you felt out of control in the situation.
This can lead to you setting up a fear of a new person repeating the situation. So every time the phone rings the fear kicks in, you are them preempting receiving a phone call from someone that you do not want to treat. But it does something else, it sends out thought energy on the thing that you are focusing upon in your underlying thought patterns and beliefs, this can then create the very situation that you are attempting to avoid.
Common sense is important, but as you need clients, then common sense would say that if you are unsure about someone's motives for ringing, then you sort it out on the phone and leave them in no confusion about what you are happy to provide and what you are not happy to provide. The real clients will hold onto the phone and book with you, whilst the people you do not want to see will put the phone down and ring someone else.