Looking at the new Signature motto of Gillyann:
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. --- Mahatma Gandhi
brings up interesting questions about that much abused requirement of courts repentance/remorse/contrition.
I personally cringe when the guilty party, suddenly finds 'true repentance' for their crimes, usually at the time of sentance bargaining, and I do not envy the Court having to swallow back it's contempt for this change of heart
True forgiveness is just as prone IMHO to opportune fakery, 'tis easier said than meant, and whilst I cannot speak for the true heartedness of other recorded acts of forgiveness, I feel that Jesus, in His plee to His Mentor:
'Father, forgive them for they know not what they do',
showed that love, must be combined with forgiveness to give it that fine honed edge to cut to the soul of both the forgiver and the forgiven.
Leo
RE: Foregiveness, enough in itself?
Hello Leo,
A thread on this subject was running a while ago. My own view of forgiveness is that it must be earned and what the other party wants. Sometimes someone's actions can be so reckless and heinous that they are unforgivable. I suppose it depends on the circumstances in which forgiveness is being asked for. Some people don't want to forgive, and others don't want to be forgiven.
However, if a person/people are truly sorry for what they said or did to another, and can demonstrate that remorse and sorrow is what they truly feel, and request that the wronged person forgive them, then forgiveness can be achieved. I have heard people say to others who have wronged them, 'I forgive you', and yet bring up the matter at every opportunity thereafter. True forgiveness means never referring to the matter again, or not using it as a weapon against the one forgiven.
I do not subscribe to the notion that unwillingness to forgive necessarily makes a person unwholesome or in some way lacking in moral fibre. It must be earned (qv) as I have said before, and it is up to the wronged party whether he/she forgives at all. It depends on the crime and how it is perceived by the wronged person. It is not the unwillingness to forgive someone for an act that makes a soul carry this dark burden; it is the refusal to forgive someone's actions when he can demonstrate that he is truly sorry for them.
Love,
Patsy.
xxxxxx
RE: Foregiveness, enough in itself?
Songstress
I just wanted to say that I agree with everything you have said here. No more to add.
Sandra
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RE: Foregiveness, enough in itself?
Forgiveness can take place without the perpetrator ever knowing you've forgiven them. Forgiveness is about setting yourself free not the person that has wronged you.
So, does it need to be earned, I don't think so.
Love and light
Rosi X
RE: Foregiveness, enough in itself?
I was about to post exactly what Rosi has expressed above. IMHO forgiveness benefits the forgiver equally if not more so than the person who is to be forgiven.
Love
Sunanda xxx