Can you forgive and let go the mistakes of your past

RE: Can you forgive and let go the mistakes of your past

Hi Flower, another lovely question.

Life is hard isn't it. Letting go of fear is tough and also the understanding that you will always be learning and it won't always be an easy ride.

Learning to trust comes in here, getting rid of preconceived ideas and making new pathways in your understanding.

I've had to learn to let go, twice in my life, and they were very very hard times. I kicked and screamed and fought , in private, but in the end I did it. I never regretted it for a moment and I never will. Yes, I know what love means, it is sacrifice for those who need you, putting aside your own desires for their good not yours. But surely no one can always say this is an easy option?

Forgiveness is strange old concept. You can do this without pain, but usually only when you don't care that much about someone or something. If you really care, you will suffer for one of the the hardest things in the world is surely to forgive and then let go?

Anger comes into this and pain and resentment and revenge, and you have to get past all these emotions.

I havn't always been so clever, but, it is knowing how I failed int he past to recognise where I was going wrong which helped me in the present. Although there is still much to learn, that I promise [:@][:@][:@]

love and Light

Gillyxxxxxxxxxxx

RE: Can you forgive and let go the mistakes of your past

Dear Flower

Without acceptance it can be hard to forgive and yet when we truly have 'an acceptance of that which is' we no longer hurt and there is little left to forgive.
Quan Yin says that 'forgiveness is an act of compassion for self for the only one that is truly harmed by unforgiveness is you'.

So for me personally 'having an acceptance of that which is' is the the key to liberation from emotional turmoil, upset and negative emotions. Although forever tested on different levels of consciousness.

All part of self-mastery to become master of one's emotions. Although I am a great believer in a good cry being a great release from buried emotion triggered from the past.

Once we have healed all the root causes of the core issues one does not trigger anymore. We can heal memory but not erase it, so if someone pushes one hard enough to trigger us again another layer of healing to do.

I got to the point where nothing triggers me anymore........but then my mother arrived to show me that I still have some more forgiveness to do..........to rise above it and not take anything personally is part of having an acceptance of that which is.

One does not take it personally when we acknowledge that we co-create everything for our highest good and healing. So taking one day a time with the healing process.

There are no mistakes in my reality only experiences for what we co-create for our own growth. A common saying here in this domain is 'all for our growth'. Yes good to review but a waste of previous divine energy to live in the past situations, I much prefer the divine gift of the present.

What we chose we chose for a reason and often we made those choices because we were needy on some level, which is why it is so wonderful to see the young ones healing their needs and their selves so that they can live a life of choosing peace and love.

It makes my heart sing with joy.

Lots of love

Kim xx

RE: Can you forgive and let go the mistakes of your past

To for give is a the grates blessing on this plane

no one can hurt you its your power to that what some one says about you to be true to you
or even to take on what some one dose to you as wrong for thay are all self created judgment and you have to take other judgments as you own

for when you stand in that you hold to be true to you with no because or reason excuse or meaning and be with the knowing where you stand and have the faith that you are awesome as you are and other have other views and the way of experiencing a situation is perfect for them and sit in the knowing you are not here to judge but just experience

love to you all
love brent

RE: Can you forgive and let go the mistakes of your past

Hi Gilly.....

Whatever u done, like u say u came out the other side.. and must of been hard... and yes life is hard lol.. to hard at times.. we experience all these emotions, but do we really need to? I think its only by giving ourselves to others etc, opening up that we then are on the way to getting hurt.. but then is that not part of life... and its also how we deal with hurt and pain.. we can lash out, fight back, fight for what we want... and in any situation, family, friends, partner whatever, there has to be a time when we let go, forgive or accept what has been... after all, if we hold on to that emotion all we are doing is carrying on hurt ourselves..

I suppose for some, when people cant forgive, for some, forgiveness just cannot come, after all, we are all human....

Flowerx

RE: Can you forgive and let go the mistakes of your past

How right you are Flower;)

I am thinking of one person in particular, who is so eaten alive with hatred, unforgiveness and envy, he is literally sick all over. Many of his bodily functions keep breaking down, he cannot make friends and is an insomniac as he lies awake brooding. People have tried to reach out to him but been rebuffed, it is almost as if he enjoys his own suffering.

Which leads me to wonder if this is so, is this another form of experience?

Has his spirit chosen to experience this trauma? It would seem to me that if it were any other way,, what a terrible waste of energy and pure existance.

Love and Light

Gillyxxxxx

RE: Can you forgive and let go the mistakes of your past

Hi SacredStar...

I have had my fair share of trusting and getting hurt etc, and I just accepted what has happened as time when on, thats why I kinda thought about forgivenss and acepting etc... had I forgiven things from my past, family - friends etc.. etc.. so yes by accepting I would say so.. I do not look back in anger, I do not look back in revenge, I dont look back and hate.. but I also look at the person that has hurt me, and when we have our logic heads on with our feet on the ground, you do see more... the only thing I wont allow anymore, is that when I have been hurt before, I have gone back, and ended up going back for more, more often than not with friends.. you trust, you open up, only to get all that u have done thrown back in your face, so now they only do it once... does that mean I dont forgive.. on that I do not know.. coz if u go back and things have not been sorted, or the root of the problem cannot be seen, there is a high chance of that 'mistake' happening again... but again I find by accepting what has happened is the best way... for they have to live with their actions, the same as in my/our pasts we have done things that we have to live with, and also forigive ourselves on things, which is just as hard as forgiving others..

Flowerx

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Hi Gilly

Your last reply made me think of my nan.. when I was 2, my mum and dad split up and that was in the 1960's and very unheard of then.. my nan hated my dad, I have never seen him since then.. which is fine.. I had the chance but it was not going to work, I do hate or hold a grudge, and because I believe we choose our parents, it was meant to be how it is, he was never going to be part of my life... yet one night, I saw him in dream time, but I knew it was his spirit, he asked me to forgive him and I said yes I forgive u this must of been a good 9 years ago, but the love I had for him, as in spirit form was a love not of the earth.. anyway going back to my nan, to the day she died at the age of 85, she hated him, and that was a good 39 years... so my nad held a grudge, and fair enough, because she saw more than I did, she saw her daughters my mums pain etc..

What does hate do.. it just brings down our vibration, it eats away at us, and can also create blockages in our energy field where we can become ill......

Love Flowerx

RE: Can you forgive and let go the mistakes of your past

Acceptance and forgiving is one of the most difficult things to do - especially if you got hurt. I try to see things from a higher perspective and try to stay with my intuition as much as possible without denying myself. Forgive but do not forget,then take distance because the trust has been abused.

RE: Can you forgive and let go the mistakes of your past

Hi Marijke...

I think that is the one thing about forgiving, and although we get hurt time and time again, be it emotionally, physically, a fall out with whoever.. its that word TRUST.. once that trust is broken.. thats it really, we can accept, we can forgive.. but there is no going back because of that trust.. trust is very important issue I think within all relationships.. even if u 4get within reason.. u will never trust that person not to do whatever again.. so u put up a protective wall around you.. that wall can then create problems in the future, because u then think what if.. can the same thing happen again...

As time goes on, even though over years walls go up, come down, go up.. we have to find that balance, let go of the past.. and remember not everyone is the same as the last person who my of done what they did.

Flowerx

RE: Can you forgive and let go the mistakes of your past

Flower, you are right. You can forgive and then you have to move on. If your inner feeling tells you that there is no point in building up the trust again - let it be. You have done all you can about the situation. In order to avoid being hurt again you distance yourself or take another more businesslike attitude towards the person. It is important to feel good about yourself and that counts the most. Do not go against the feeling you have - otherwise you would deny yourself. Give it time. Time heals all misunderstandings. You could tell the person how you stand now about the situation and i am sure it will be respected.

RE: Can you forgive and let go the mistakes of your past

When someone hurts you it can be very hard to forgive and let go of that hurt, but I have come to understand that forgiveness does not aquate to condoning the actions involved.
On a purely human note, why let someone else burden you up with anger when by forgivness you release yourself from the issue invovled as well as any energetic ties with that person and can move forward?

tranquility

RE: Can you forgive and let go the mistakes of your past

ooh, I think I'm the nasty person here... I rarely forgive and I never forget. In saying that I certainly don't hate, I just kinda leave things where they are if that makes sense?

Dizzy