Right I have a memory that was quite painful for me of an interaction between me and another individual. It keeps pulsing away in my mind & I can't clear it. I've heard that this means that the issue hasn't been dealt with completely. How does one heal this 
And Crowan yes I know you are going to suggest a soul retrieval.
Maybe this is a sign and I should be doing it
Are written words just as powerful as face to face communication?
E.g. If you have a verbal fight with someone, is written just as powerful and able to hurt the other person?
I think face to face where you are exposed to and on the receiving end of their energy would be more powerful but maybe written is too.
Thoughts.
As Crown says, intention is the driving force surrounding communication, however it is up to each individual to choose how they receive the communication and how they react to it, what is given and what is received is often two completely different things. 
No not anger management. That could be interesting.
Talking to people is just that it's only talking to a person. Is this really effective ?
It's healing on a deep inner level we all want. I've realised now as you go through life, release as you go along.
I reckon a lot of people struggle with this.
Look how much stress there is in the world and in the workplace.
Speaking as someone who helps people to talk yes it can be. Our words are very powerful. Actually the talking therapies are not just talking about whatever the issue is ;its helping people to find a different perspective on it by questioning their assumptions about things.
I agree many people struggle to release things as they go through life. But what most people don't realise is that stress is not caused by events, people or situations but by how we react to these things. A lot of talking therapy is helping people change those reactions
So basically we bring most of it on ourselves.
So basically we bring most of it on ourselves.
Depends what you mean by 'it'.
You are very concerned that people are saying unpleasant things to you and you have said that your choices are between 'being a doormat' or being rude back to them.
First of all, you only know what has happened (and even then, to be accurate, you only know what you have heard). You have no idea why it happened. So, when you think it has happened because they dislike you, want to hurt you, are nasty people - or whatever - you are making assumptions. You don't know that these are the reasons. It is actually your interpretation that makes you unhappy. And you might be wrong about their motives.
Let me tell you about something that happened this afternoon. I had gone with my partner to see the physiotherapist who is helping her regain use of her wrist following an operation for a fracture. She said to the physiotherapist that she had pain in the scar from the operation and there had been bleeding. At which point I pulled a face. She interpreted that as "Shut up! Don't tell her about that!" Her interpretation is fuelled by her fear that she is not making sense owing to a previous operation leaving her with some minor brain damage. So she was upset that I was getting at her. Luckily, she had the sense to talk to me about it later when I was able to explain that my facial expression meant "Ouch! Why didn't you tell me about this before?" (Answer? "I didn't want you to worry", Ha!)
I only went into that long and possibly confusing story to point out that the only thing she knew in that was that my facial expression had changed. The rest was her interpretation. So yes, in that sense she brought it ("it" here being her unhappiness about being 'got at') on herself. And maybe I should learn that she's in a bad place at the moment and I should not say/do things that are easy to misinterpret. It's a learning curve.
I have to say, I couldn't have understood most of this before I started doing shamanism. That's the thing that has helped me the most.
I totally agree in that sometimes we can misunderstand things and get them wrong.
This is an interesting post. Thanks for all your responses. I probably sound like a whining minny by this point
I probably sound like a whining minny by this point
Not to worry, we all do at some time or another.
Oh my god my friends.
With regards to the above I thought I had dealt with a previous issue of suffering someone's anger. Today the memory has resurfaced with feelings of my own anger pulsing away.
That means I haven't dealt with it. Oh my god how does anyone sort this kind of stuff ?? hahaha
Thanks