Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 4 yrs now and we've been living together for 1 year.
Since living together i notice he smokes a lot of weed (5-6 times a week). I always thought this was a social thing and thought he could turn it on and off whenever he wants. Recently I've noticed that outside of work, so evening and weekends, he actually plans his time around 'having a smoke' (weed).
At weekends he'll do the shopping and then as a 'reward' he'll have a smoke, generally his time at the weekends is mapped around having a smoke.
I did not notice/twig this in the past because we did not live together I guess and I didn't know how he spent his time. I've asked him to consider stopping because of the long term health effects and because I don't like it, it's horrible, smells etc. I've been told that weed is more damaging than tobacco and can lead to a number of mental problems.
I'm now beginning to wonder if he is addicted because no matter where we are he always find times to access weed and smoke it.
Are you there any forums out there with people who have given up smoking weed that I can encourage my boyfriend to join. I think it would be useful for him to connect with some people that no longer smoke so they can share their experiences on the mental and physical effects of smoking weed long term.
Can anyone help me?
Thanks a lot.
how old are you both?
Is this a social thing with his mates or on his own?
How badly does it affect your relationship?
i have old friends that smoke daily and have been for over 20 years with no problems.
Some just smoke at weekends with a pint.
Others use it to wind down in the evening or relive pain.
Some of the 'weed' nowadays is strong stuff and can have negative effects or be addictive, but most people are sensible.
I would say the worst thing you can do is worry or try to change him, but explain how you feel and talk to him, see if you can find a reason why he does it?
Talk to 'frank' seems to be a good outlet these days. Remember to look after yourself too, other peoples issues can be draining 😉
I don't see the point myself , life is for living, and 'weed' users just watch it all go by 😀
Hi
Have you actually spoken to your boyfriend about your concerns?
Many, many people smoke weed and maybe your boyfriend thinks of it as a completely acceptable, normal way of life. I used to smoke a little weed years ago and just got bored of it! We all know that it can cause damage, resin is not as pure as it used to be, although skunk is very strong these days. Is this what he smokes? talk to him about it, see what he says, he may even agree with you. If it starts causing problems between you then as the previous post says, I assume your still young?, life is short, its up to you at the and of the day. let us know how you get on. x
Are you there any forums out there with people who have given up smoking weed that I can encourage my boyfriend to join. I think it would be useful for him to connect with some people that no longer smoke so they can share their experiences on the mental and physical effects of smoking weed long term.
[url]Uncommon Forum[/url] has a substantial addictions section where many weed quitters exchange tips, ideas and stories of recovery.
It is generally a great forum for people who are especially interested in psychological/mental/emotional issues and personal development.
Masha
Does not sound to me like he is need of help or asking for it.
Rumours about smoking weed and it’s dangers have been greatly exaggerated and there are no medical back-up to sustain is more dangerous then tobacco or drinking, in fact quite the opposite.
Just so you know weed does nothing for me and I personally do not smoke it but I have been around people that do and know some that have smoked weed all of their life’s and are far more healthy mentally and physically then the pub culture imbeciles.
Anyway the fact that he is smoking weed could have some underlying problem, as in for example general everyday issues, stress, depression or even an existing mental illness of which he might feel the need to self medicate trough smoking weed or simply take the edge off things. But look at it this way: no one makes a fuss why a person drinks which is for the same bloody reasons.
Would you rather him being on prescription medicines perhaps?
And by the way weed itself is not addictive unlike tobacco.
I don't agree that weed is not addictive. I think you can form a dependency on absolutely anything and if you think your boyfriend has a problem with it then he more than likely does! You know what your boyfriend is like when he can't buy any. You know what the mood swings are like no doubt!
I've been there with a partner who was addicted to weed and he tried and failed to give up many times before he was successful. It really didn't matter what I did to help and it didn't matter what his parents did to help either. His habit got so bad that he was smoking before work and actually taking the stuff with him for a lunch time smoke! The one time he managed to kick the habit successfully though he chose to do it himself.
Don't waste your time nagging him or trying to change him. He wont give up unless he really wants to so it's a case of you deciding whether you can live with the habit (and the worry!) too! PM me any time you like if I can help 🙂
You please advise him that:
1) learn more new ways of being busy.
2) take healthy food.
3) make it a purpose.
4) make regular exercise a habit.
5) drink more and more water.
Also develop motivation in him. I am sure that very soon he will stop smoking.