hi all
since continuing on my spiritual development path , i am getting more sensitive to eneriges around me.my intuition is getting stronger and spiritual connection.
but i find that on most days my wife is in a not a very nice mood(its just her nature),it just drains me,once she starts to have her "attack andre" verballydays,(mostly about my change in life towards my spiritual enlightenment).
it goes on for days.
her temper is not a new thing ,as she has been like this in the early days we met ,so i guess i got used to it.
i knew what was coming ,just worked around it. if i tried to help or somehow please her temper,i wasnt helping.
i know what your thinking " pms ", no! i know when this comes !, this is even worse and im sure most men out there will understand me on this.(not having a go ladies just making a statement as to the really bad pms that affect both the lives of the wife and husband).
(mmmmm, might be a good subject to start on the forum ,(mens andexperience with wifes,girfriends pms symptoms that affect both of them,sort of, experiences and how they coped,?)saw a program once on tv on how relationships were suffering and men being battered my their wifes with the symptoms!, no ,really !true.
im sure its not nice on both sides as the woman can feel this happening to her ,yet cannot control it.my wife has a big problem with this(pms not the battering thing).
anyway sorry bout that, got off tracked a little>
but since i have started to become more sensitive, can i feel the drain from her,wow, the whole energy ,atmosphere is low and heavy.
i feel drained afterwards with headaches.
i do protect and surround myself with the white light and expand my aura, but she is one hell of a drain
(all said in the nicest possible way, because she does not know she is draining me, and at the moment listening about my path is a no go!!!!!!!!!!),so i never mention it.
i sound selfish dont i!, but i dont mean to sound it like that! do you know what i mean?[sm=confused-smiley-012.gif]
thanks for reading all,just felt to tell it.
god bless
andre[sm=FIFangel.gif]
RE: help!psychic vampire.
hi there chicken
firstly i would like to add , selfish is not the word i use , patient in more like it , if these moods of hers affect you so badly , and for such a long period of time , i am actually wondering if you really are happy ,, p.m.s is no excuse , i am a lady , and let me tell you i would nt get away with it , surely its just common respect for each other to excepteach others own interest, dont have to agree , but accept it.
and i suppose if she is throwing such negitivity around ,then i would imagine that you are feeling low, a little depressed , and to be honest fed up with her .
how long have you been togeather ?
and , do you think that its just she needs to sort out some underlying issues that the two of you have not really managed to clear,or is there no perfectly understandble reason for her behaviour ,
all seems a bit too much for me , especially if she s putting a attack on you , really i would smudge the area you live in regular, and remember negivity will clear as soon as positivity hits it, and open your windows to clear all the blocked emotions that linger, i am a great beliver that you can throw stuff like this away with the rubbish ,open the window , chuck it out , visualization, that s the key .#now i am actually feeling sorry for your wife , i think she has a deep hurt from long ago , she just needs to heel , and with the lack of empathy for you , she bringing on her own emotionaldamage.
i hope this makes sense to you , although i am in a rush , the whole thing is probley not even making sense , but thought it approiate to respond ,
RE: help!psychic vampire.
Some good advice I received recently:
When someone launches an attack or directs their fear or hate at you, the natural reaction is to close yourself down and retreat. Don't. Open yourself up to the attack and project nothing but love back, for fear and hate cannot compete with love and hope.
When I heard it I wasn't in a good space (just having had someone else's hate and anger dumped on me) and thought "yeah, right! easier said than done!" and yes, it is hard to do at first, but I have found that this works - the fear and anger is deflected, I don't take it on, and somehow the person directing at me becomes softer, more conciliatory.
You could also use crystals - in this instance I would have some sodalite on my person, it's a great deflector of negative energy. And sometimes you can have people who are fun to be around, make you laugh, but when they leave you feel drained - they too are psychic vampires, and with these people either green aventurine or labradorite seem to do the trick.
Remember, her behaviour and her anger and fear are her problems and she can only be helped with them when she is ready for that help. Meantime you need to make sure that her problem doesn't become your problem.
Good luck!
RE: help!psychic vampire.
thank you both for your replies
we have been together for 15 years, and i suppose that i have tended to be a resiliant person and put up with the atmosphere.
but at this time in my life i am feeling a shift in my lifes spiritual journey that has opened a whole new vision for me.
i now want to get away from the usual atmosphere , and feel that a new path that holds a bright future is ahead of me.
i have a powerful inner spiritual feeling that from now on there is going to be a big change, not sure what it is,but .....i dont know how to describe it.....,its a sense of "at last i see the rest of my life and its good",sort of thing.(i just feel this)
by feeling this ,i now view my should i say"old"self/life as gone !, i no longer feel resiliant anymore, a more of cannot be bothered trying to create a calm atmosphere just to stop or avoid the build up of the moods to come.i always try to talk but she ends up arguing and talks break down.
i have been given an ultimatum from her either this mad spiritual stuff or me!, for the first time in my life i couldnt bring myself to say her, i cannot choose what i have believed in all my life , i just wanted her to accept it.and both accept each others lifes together.
i have had many messages as to through others and spirit as that this life is not healthy and something needs to be done!
and the fact i feel that the universe is waiting for me to make that choice !,.
but its very difficult where a person just feels love and trys to avoid others being hurt as to their own doing.
i have felt this for some time,yet cannot believe this is the way,but somehow am being felt that it is the way?
(im getting confused myself now ,dont know about you lot !)
she has often said in arguments" i would have gone by now its just that i cannot see anything better to go to , so thats way she stops!), but she does have better things, she knows that.
but then says, dont listen to what i say as i dont mean it,
but inside you can tell if your close partner/wife etc means it, you feel it.
i have always believed in marriage and believe its for life, maybe thats why i find it hard to accept this is happening,
but my biggest problem is that i love kids very much and care for their happiness, i hate to see kids mistreated or wrongly being made unhappy,but guess what
>........." we have kids...................!, so you now see my weakness and my refusal to see things going badly.
i cannot believe i am talking like this, i feel guilty as talking like this about someone else my wife!!!!!!!!!!!!!,not like me !
sometimes you think of the good times and then feel bad about saying all this.
i think i had better stop................im taking up to much HP space, got me on a roll there![sm=jump2.gif]
anyway thanks again,............int life blinkin ard !
god bless
andre[sm=FIFangel.gif]
RE: help!psychic vampire.
Hi Andre,
I know you said talking about your path (& her draining you)with your wife is a no go, but you could still say something along the lines of "her moods bringing you down". It gets the same point across without her even thinking your talking about "energies", "psychic vampirism"etc.
More importantly, have you/would you look into having marriage councelling? I think that with all couples who are on a rocky road benefit from it. If not, then at least you know you've done everything possible to make it all ok again.
On a seperate note, as for starting a thread about PMS & how it affects men, I'd brace myself for a very heated discussion if I were you! A lot of women (myself included) have experienced the "She must have PMS" when a guy doesn't understand or agree with the womans point of view. It is very frustrating & belittling to be told that your thoughts/emotions/actions are only a product of hormones and that we are not really in control of anything we do! Blaming things on PMS does have the tendency to wind women up as you can imagine!
(I am not saying this is the case with you & your wife at all, just men/women in general)
Would be an interesting topic to start though 😉
Love & Light
SS
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