Go for what you want, otherwise eventually you will look back and wish you had. Throw caution to the wind, otherwise you would'nt do anything out of the ordinary.
Let us know where you end up.

Hi Daffodil,

Your title threw me as 'hedonism' means something very strong, a strong word, and with no good in it. But reading you, you don't seek hedonism, just to be 'yourself' and fulfill what you'd like to to. I agree with Windy. At least if you are still young - say, in your 20s. It's what I did for 2-3 years anyway, and I've no regrets. Then I worked for free for a charity till I was 29, which I also wanted to do. I lived my personal dream, and it can be done quite easily in a way. There must be doubt about whether you could take your b/f into that though or if he would willingly go?

V

How can one life a hedonistic lifestyle if one has responsibilities.

I long to run off and emigrate into a warm climate, rent property, work part-time temp job, no kids/pets, just myself

Without wishing to sound harsh hedonism and responsibility do not go hand-in-hand.

If you want to be hedonistic don't be responsible.
If you want to take responsibility for some things you will find that hedonism will only get in the way.

David:)

Without wishing to sound harsh hedonism and responsibility do not go hand-in-hand.

Yes, but let's be clear that she chose the wrong word, and didn't mean hedonism. An online dictionary for that gives:

1. Pursuit of or devotion to pleasure, especially to the pleasures of the senses.
2. Philosophy The ethical doctrine holding that only what is pleasant or has pleasant consequences is intrinsically good.
3. Psychology The doctrine holding that behavior is motivated by the desire for pleasure and the avoidance of pain.

Point 1 is what is usually meant.

That doesn't sound like what Daffodil means. It can be "responsible" to stop living a life that's destroying you inside and is not fulfilling you. Getting away from "the hard life", you can find yourself and thence be a more responsible member of society rather than maybe a drone.

V

Just do it!!!:D

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did.

So explore, dream, discover!"

...Mark Twain

XXX:)XXX

I agree with Windy. At least if you are still young - say, in your 20s. It's what I did for 2-3 years anyway, and I've no regrets. V

that's the trouble...i'm 36.25 🙁

i should be settling down and having kids but dunno if i want to.....

that's the trouble...i'm 36.25 🙁

i should be settling down and having kids but dunno if i want to.....

36, no kids....are you sure you don.t know what you want ?.

Just because you seek a little pleasure and fun in your life, doesn't mean those things stop when you become a parent.

As Windy said....go for the things that might make you happy.

Personally I find it's the situations that make me unhappy that I need to address.

that's the trouble...i'm 36.25 🙁

i should be settling down and having kids but dunno if i want to.....

where does this law come from, or is it the norm, you have a lot going on there, people are often held back by following other peoples needs, feel the fear and do it. (famous quote)

hahaha daffodil. those words could have come out of my mouth.
well i always smile and say yes when i hear something like that: the fear from the future. and the stupid money issue.
yes we all no without money life is difficult but i don't want to focus on money all the time. life is suppose to be easy. i know that deep down in my heart!

should be settling down and having kids but dunno if i want to.....

who says you should, this is your life, and you should go for your dream, dont look back, in life you can do this.

I don't know if this is still relevant...

The life of a nomadic traveler with no destination... sounds so appealing to me as well. I mostly travel for work and sometimes fun, it would be amazing to just live anywhere I please and not be "bound" by anything.

I believe that we choose our paths in life, but not necessarily all of the things that occur in those paths. Your b/f is correct in the sense that responsibility is important to lead a balanced life, but so is pursuing what you are passionate about and that which deep down you are inclined towards... existence is not just about "survival" (on a financial level).

I think it's wise to balance between being responsible for yourself and enjoying the multitude of things our world has to offer. There probably won't be a "right time" if you keep waiting until everything else in your life is settled first.

beware thinking things like i should be settling down as this suggests you're using some sort of external reference to what you should and shouldn't be doing. go for whats in your heart and have faith that things will work out. millions of people have done it before you without large savings for health care. the fear of doing something is almost always worse than actually doing it!

beware thinking things like i should be settling down as this suggests you're using some sort of external reference to what you should and shouldn't be doing. go for whats in your heart and have faith that things will work out. millions of people have done it before you without large savings for health care. the fear of doing something is almost always worse than actually doing it!

the external reference to what I should and shouldn't be doing is society, peer pressure and the dreaded menopause looming (which is why at my age if i am gonna have kids i need to do it very soon but is dificult as neither of us know whether we want them or not)

i agree the fear is usually worse than doing it.

and then there's family...with ageing parents we fear they will need us around.

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