Hello HPs
Please could some one give me some advice on a rather embarassing problem ? I am 30 years old and I have a low libido .I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and everything apart from that is great and we get on really well .The low libido is causing problems though as that is the only thing we argue about .We would have sex maybe once a fortnight .
Im not sure if my low libido is due to my last boyfriend .as it was a bad relationship as I never saw him and he always let me down last minute and I found out he had cheated on me 4 times in the 7 years we were together or if I have a low libido due to having low self esteem and health anxiety.
I really need some advice as I stand to loose a really lovely boyfriend that I finally have .
Does anyone know of any natural remedies or anything else that may help ?
Kind regards
There's not enough info here to really unravel the problem, but first thoughts would be to consider stress (you mentioned), exercise (too much, to little, or inappropriate), and nutritional factors. Although one aspect may be obvious, the others may be important also.
As far as nutrition goes, deficiency would be a common consideration, and I would look to the usual suspects: Vitamins C, D and all the Bs, minerals (especially zinc and magnesium) and EFAs. Consider also all the millions of micro-nutrients that only come from fresh raw vegetable sources. Sea vegetables provide iodine for the thyroid, and oily fish the EFAs. Lack of any of the above could potentially sap your energy and enthusiasm, or interfere with hormonal function.
Then there's toxins from various sources to consider, many of which can create quite an energy drain and interfere with hormone function, as well as disrupting the nervous system.
Worth getting a nutritional makeover from a qualified therapist?
Hello again Helen. My feeling is that it's related to the cause of the anxiety you mention in [url]your anxiety thread[/url]. When you are depressed or anxious it is quite normal to not be interested in sex. Once your anxiety abates you'll probably find you'll enjoy and welcome the release that sex brings.
There are loads of suggestions for improving your general health - which will help you better cope with whatever life throws at you. My suggestion would be to back up your own suggestion in the anxiety thread to see a qualified practitioner (modality of your choice) and have them help you improve your general health and resilience. You'll find once you are calmer and happier that you'll be better able to deal with sexual issues - and will be in a better place to understand what is going on. And whether the libido problem is a separate issue, or a symptom of the anxiety.
Ava x
KVDP thank you .Ava thank you again 🙂 x
The exercise technique 'Callanetics' has a briiliant side effect of increasing libido - some of the exercises target the pelvic floor region with quite dramatic effects... Maybe there is a class near you.
Also, I've noticed that while drinking an infusion of 'avena sativa' (milky oats) on a regular (weeks into months) basis, there was also a similar improvement in a short period of time. Make an infusion as per Susun Weed (do a search) who recommends a handful of the dried herb infused overnight in a litre of hot water and drunk in the morning. It is rich in calcium and magnesium and should also help to diminish feelings of anxiety.
Alison