I've had quite a few people shout at me or growl in my face over the years.
I'm a person that dislikes anger energy and I try to avoid it as much as possible. I'm aware that it is a needed emotion though and has its uses.
I recently screamed back at someone as I'd taken so much agressive energy from this person I almost wanted to explode.
I don't think it was necessarily the best thing to do but it made me feel more content and powerful afterwards as if this person would think twice before doing this to me again.
Has anyone else experienced this and is this called finding your voice ??
I've had quite a few people shout at me or growl in my face over the years.
I'm a person that dislikes anger energy and I try to avoid it as much as possible. I'm aware that it is a needed emotion though and has its uses.I recently screamed back at someone as I'd taken so much agressive energy from this person I almost wanted to explode.
I don't think it was necessarily the best thing to do but it made me feel more content and powerful afterwards as if this person would think twice before doing this to me again.Has anyone else experienced this and is this called finding your voice ??
I often say to people I rather see you scream with anger than be huddled in yourself with fear. Anger, is not understood as an energy. For most it is an inconvenient emotion, who find it hard to deal with it.
Great, something within you is not so frightened anymore. It can shout back and get your power back.
Mind you, times when one feels weak, incapable and fearful are also necessary to enjoy the contrast of when you can say act and enjoy your truth.
You are coming out of your shell.
You ask has anyone else experienced this.....Rest assured we all have at one point or the other in their lifetimes go through this. We all lose ourself....only to find it with much more clarity and insight.
If you trust life enough, you come through smiling and content.
Only when you are in middle of dark times, it is hard to perceive that there is a happier version of you in the making...
All good!
This is comforting ...
To tell you the truth I didn't avoid shouting back out of fear. I did it because in my mind I always thought it was better to not fight back and stay calm. I thought that was more powerful. I also felt like I didn't want to upset people (what if I hurt them ???) then I realised no - these people deserve it and if they're powerful enough to give it then they should be able to take it.
Sometimes I probably have been scared of other people's anger but not all of the time.
The nice thing about growling back is seeing fear in the other person and turning it around to show them whose boss.
(I'm probably wrong in saying this lol)
As I've got more life experience now if I come up against any people who I get a pain in my heart from I will be snapping back. I've seen the effect it has & it seems to work 
This is comforting ...
To tell you the truth I didn't avoid shouting back out of fear. I did it because in my mind I always thought it was better to not fight back and stay calm. I thought that was more powerful. I also felt like I didn't want to upset people (what if I hurt them ???) then I realised no - these people deserve it and if they're powerful enough to give it then they should be able to take it.
Sometimes I probably have been scared of other people's anger but not all of the time.The nice thing about growling back is seeing fear in the other person and turning it around to show them whose boss.
(I'm probably wrong in saying this lol)As I've got more life experience now if I come up against any people who I get a pain in my heart from I will be snapping back. I've seen the effect it has & it seems to work
I am not one to endorse imposed calm and control...it is fake and beneath the veneer, it is shakey and cracking up. I have never been a fan of spiritual high ground to endorse the stance of being better than them by not shouting and the rest of similar policies. All policies are fake. I prefer the naturalness of a moment, be it fearful, angry raging, frothing at mouth....or whaetever else wants to happen in that particular moment
Real calm is a totally different response to a cultivated one based some spiritual teaching or concept.
If someone is begging for it, dish it up. It is honest. Diamond cuts diamond...then there are other times, you leave idiots alone. Not every situation needs frothing at mouth. Does it?
Anger gets a lot of bad press, it is just one colour in the entire spectrum. Good for you!
I've had quite a few people shout at me or growl in my face over the years.
I'm a person that dislikes anger energy and I try to avoid it as much as possible. I'm aware that it is a needed emotion though and has its uses.I recently screamed back at someone as I'd taken so much agressive energy from this person I almost wanted to explode.
I don't think it was necessarily the best thing to do but it made me feel more content and powerful afterwards as if this person would think twice before doing this to me again.Has anyone else experienced this and is this called finding your voice ??
It is a common occurrence for people who 'dislike anger' (and, often, conflict) to actually engender it. First - you can never know why another person acts as they do. You mentioned 'aggressive energy'. This is your interpretation of what was going on. You might be right. You might be wrong. The point is, you can only guess. It's way more likely that it is something going on in their lives that influences the way they act. So you have a choice. You can think it is aggression and directed at you. Or you can think, "I wonder what's pushing her buttons?" (And, of course, there are other things you can think.) Do you see that, if you interpret their behaviour as 'aggression', you will feel there is more aggression and anger around than if you don't.
Second - You try to avoid anger/conflict. So you put up with this unpleasant situation for as long as you can. Then you explode. Instantly there is more anger, since yours is added to the mix.
What would have happened if you'd dealt with it immediately, before you got angry? Maybe said, "Why are you shouting? Are you okay?" That would likely diffuse their anger. If someone in this situation replied to you, "Oh, I'm sorry! I'm just feeling so overworked at the moment" you could also feel better about it.
As for them 'deserving' your anger - really? How can you possibly know what they 'deserve'?
Hahahaha
Actually I think in this instance it was genuine calmness from my end. I didn't react at all.
I guess the asking 'why are you shouting?' is a good one because it acknowledges their feelings and that you realise they are stressed. This would probably be soothing for an angry person.
This is probably why they are getting aggressive in the first place because they feel trapped and want to be listened to.
I think it would have worked well in the situation I was discussing on here.