Husband and his son

RE: Husband and his son

Hi there,

I would think that the best thing you can do is encourage them to keep in touch.It is important that the communication channels are open and it will benefit both of them.There are so many 'cheap' telephone lines that it is much easier to make a weekly/forthnightly/monthly call to a foreign country (At this stage I am using 'Ratebuster.co.uk' and it is dirt cheap.

If this is not possible postcards, e-mail, letters, birthday present, etc. Would also suggest that if it is financially viable, either plan your next holiday to this country or see if the son can come over to visit you guys - this will give them both something to look forward to.

Hope this helps a bit.

RE: Husband and his son

If they both have access to broadband internet, you could always download Skype.

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For the cost of a microphone and camera each, they can talk real time for free as much as they want.

Lesley

RE: Husband and his son

Hi,

Feeling seperated from a child is so hard - the suggestions above will help but also it may help your husband if he felt that he was doing things for his son - little things like making him a photograph album of your family life - and then buying a camera and photograph album to give to his son so that he can do the same thing. This can be a project that they can then chat about on webcam or skype - it is something that they can share together.

Your husband could also start a scrap book and again provide the same encouragement for his son - his son could then do pictures and add schoolwork - anything really, your husband could attach football cards in an envelope and little nik naks - stuff that he might get for his child if they were together. At the next visit they can swap their albums and scrap books and then start again. This will help them both to feel that they are sharing something together.

My 8 year old step daughters mother lives in France - she travels over 4 times a year now - she has recently started travelling as an unacompanied minor - my dh wasn't happy at first but she is really well cared for on the trips and enjoys the flights - she gets to have Mcdonalds in Paris - she travels to South France so there are two planes involved - would be much better if it was a direct flight but there isn't one to Montpellier from wher we live - she is fine and it means that she can see her mother regularly - 13 weeks a year with often only a few weeks between visits - she has a few days off from school so that the trips are booked just outside the expensive school holiday period and her school are fine with this. There are always other children flying alone so she is never on her own.

I am not sure if your son has a video machine but making videos might also help.

Silly things - can your husband make things - maybe he could make a birdbox then post it to his son so that he can paint it - next visit he could bring it along and your husband could fix it to a tree - they can then watch to see if birds use it - this sort of thing leads to points of interest that your husband can tell his son about - it's sort of making some connections between here and wherever his son is.

Of course you can be the one who instigates all this and provided the two of them with the suggestion and the materials - it is possible to have them both involved together even if they aren't with each other.

hth

Anne