Lost my mojo
After 8 years of being single, I feel part of me has given up. Everyday I make the effort to make the most of myself in the hope I will meet someone, but it hasn't happened for me. Don't get me wrong, it hasn't been the be all and end all, in my life that I meet Mr Right, but I do feel something is missing.
With my 40th birthday looming comes the realisation that I have spent almost my entire 30's on my own and with little hope of that changing, I believe I've taken what they call a dive.
A friend told me the other day I have a really negative Aura.
I believe that it is because I've tried to remain positive, but it's just become too hard and now I've become sad, angry and bitter.
Can anyone tell me how do I go about fixing my Aura, my spirit?
I regularly do a Chakra Meditation, but don't feel is this enough.
We are all good at putting on a mask, but now I feel I have been found out and the whole world can see.
How am I going to meet a guy (or the right sort of guy) when I am projecting this :(. How do I get my mojo back?
How do I get my mojo back?
What a question?
You deserve the right answer, and you will get many on here.
Firstly I will say, you don't have a negative Aura.
I think you are going through something that a lot of people go through, and that is pressure of achievement.
We live in a society of serial achievement where we have to achieve certain things by certain ages, like having a boy/girl friend, lerning to drive, getting a job, buying a house, having children and so on. If we don't fit into this peer pressure process, then we feel left wanting. We're taught to see certain ages as milestones, but why? Because we fit into marketing brackets that reinforce this peer pressure driven aspirations.
But the answer is simple, be you, and just be you. Follow your heart and do what you feel is right for you. Then you will meet the right person for you.
I wish you all the best in your journey and that you find the fulfillment you seek.
I learnt a long time ago not to take too much on board the crap that some psychic "types" talk about. To say to someone that they have a negative aura, shows a lack of empathy, compassion, mindfullness, and the total disregard as you as a human being. So what's a negative aura anycase? Does anyone have a completely pure aura? It's nonsense! It's just psycho-emotional-spiritual bull****. Aura's are just perceived fields of energy. No more, no less. An aura contains all kinds of subtle information about a person. We are all beings of light. It's just living on the earth plane with its ups and downs that may disturb us (and our aura's) at times.
As for your problems, I do empathise. My life in a similar position to yours at the moment. But as Myarka says, its all social peer pressure, and silly notions of milestones. It's taken me many years to love myself and be happy in my own company. I felt pretty lonely through my 30's but I found the deeper inner me. Now I feel my life moving forward and starting to socialise more regularly. I personally look for opportuneties that doesn't mean I have to be a smoker, drug taker or heavy drinker in order to fit in. The more we look inside ourselves and develop our true nature, the more you will discover that may be never lost your mojo after all.
As for chakra meditation, if it isn't doing the job, look for another method in working with energy.
P.S. If you are ever in Cornwall, give me shout :1kis:
Thank you for your message Myarka and your good advice. I will just be me and follow my heart.
Bless you. xx
Thank you Reiki Pixie.
I agree the thought of turning 40 is not helping here. I think that as I spent Xmas and New Year alone and with Valentines looming, it's all kind of built up.
I am happy in my own company but these ocassions kind of rub in it, if you know what I mean. I do feel better about myself than I have done in the past.
I have to say though, finding the 'deeper inner me' has left me feeling more isolated as I wonder where I 'fit in'. I like to meditate, do a little Yoga, walk the dog, do some voluntary work and read. Never been into drinking, clubbing etc. Maybe people think I'm boring, but I wouldn't change how I live.
Would be happy to look you up if I visit your area. Likewise, if you are ever passing through North Bucks give me a shout. xx
I know what you mean about Valentines. If it helps people get together, wonderful I'm joyful for their good fortune. But at the end of the day it's just a commerical rip off. Last year in Feb, I was visiting Brussels, and I didn't see nowhere near the stuff in the shops as we have here, not even in Bruges where a lot of couples go for a romantic weekend.
But on the more positive side it is Imbolc the first signs of spring and the beginning of a fresh cycle. Not forgetting Chinese New Year as well this weekend.
No, your not boring at all. You could turn the logic around and suggest the those who need constant stimulation (ie clubbing & drinking) are actually the boring ones. And if they say you're boring, it takes a boring person to identify bordom, because they are bored.
Take care & best wishes
I cannot give you any real suggestions just popping by to relate a little story.
A close relative of mine lived with her parents all her life..she is now 42. She never had a relationship, never looked for one, was never bothered either. Had no responsibilities, never any children, no home to manage lived in her own little dreamworld....happy painting all day or getting the occasional temporary working contract.
To get my point...along came Mr Right. Out of the blue, she wasn't looking, but he fell for her hook line and sinker. Due to her lifetime of non commitment she was very evasive..but my o my he was not letting her get away.
They are total opposites..and I mean opposite in character, lifestyles etc...they have been very happy together for three years. She still lives at home :eek:, with her folks, he works abroad a lot....perfect match.
So, you just never know what / who is round the next corner. Oh and how did they meet....she was having a quiet drink with her sister in the pub nearby, he was travelling through, and voila..he was smitten!
Hi tc, again
Actually I am several this year travelling "up country" to visit friends and going to summer festivals etc. I can always do a detour?
Must go, got a client in a mo.
Thank you Fleur. I will try to remain positive. Popped out this morning and bought Michael Bubles Cd, to help me along. 🙂
Thank you for your positivity and encouragement ReikiPixie.
Just sent you a PM (private message).
Some very good advice from Myarka, Reiki Pixie and Fleur. I'm not sure I can add much more to what they have already said but will just relate a story to you.
My son recently finished college. For many recent graduates working out what to do is difficult and particularly so now. He, in fact, failed his degree but was given an option to resubmit a project which he is doing today.
I told him this. I doesn't matter what you do, just work out what it is you want to do. As it happens he has always done a lot of photography and is very good at it. He said he needed some new equipment and I was in a position to lend him the money to buy this. The point is, I explained to him, it's not what you do it's that you are doing something that gives you your mojo. I meant here, just an direction that absorbs and enthuses you. If you have this, everthying else works out. As it happens he started talking to a chinese family on the train and he is now going to Shanghai at the end of this month to work for the father of the family in his company as a toy designer.
Another friend has been stricken with rheumatoid arthritis ( he's in his early forties). He, as it happens, started to do photography. He is really loving it and is building up a portfolio and has just done a recent project for London production for experience. He is still suffering from his arthritis but he is living a life and his arthritis is not stopping him. He is much better physically and he has now got a really positive outlook.
So that's all and aura is. It's a reflection of our mental and emotional state. We are masters of this and it takes practice to maintain a positive outlook. I meditate. It's become a great joy for me. There are many things I could say that I lacked but I do not lack the most important thing in the world - a feeling of being in my own skin and not wanting to be anywhere else in the world. And so I know that everything I need will come in its own time. Is this just positive thinking? No, it's much more than that.
In your position, I'd look to deepen and develop my practice in yoga and meditation. Perhaps find a new yoga teacher or think about a different meditation practice. Or perhaps explore the thinking behind these practices. What ever it is that you find you then may find you want to bring it into you life socially or in work or in your voluntary work = recognition from others is really important. That's all there is to it!
Thank you for your message. I have already made some positive changes to my life since I posted my original message. I have had an interview for some voluntary work which takes me in a different direction. It had a good outcome and I am looking forward to the change. I am also enrolling on a new course on Friday which I believe will be benefical and I officially qualifiy in another therapy next week.
I agree with you regarding the Meditation and the Yoga. I really do need to devote more time to this and know this helps.