Hi,
I have a few 'issues' with intimacy in my current relationship and I feel a lot of this stems from my childhood and the beliefs I adopted during that time. My relationship with my Dad is not good at the moment and I don't think it will ever be - there are a lot of problems at home and a possible splitof my parents is imminent - which I actually feel very positive about as I feel they are completely wrong together. But I hold a lot of anger towards my Dad and a lot of resentment for past issues. I have always thought about having some counselling and now more than ever I think this could be of benefit to me. But I'm not sure where to start with finding a practitioner. I would like to see someone who works more spiritually - obviously talking is the main part but I am very spiritual myself so I would like someone on the same 'wavelength', so to speak. Do you think counselling could really help me to overcome these 'issues'? I could also do with building on my self-confidence. Does anyone know any good books that could help me with this?
Thanks
Rainbow [sm=nature-smiley-008.gif]
RE: Would counselling help me?
Hi Rainbow,
I don't know your Dad and what has transpired throughout your childhood and teenages years whileliving at home. When two people live together in a loveless relationship, there is always much anger and frustration. Men - I know from experience - have a bad time rationalisisng the situation and have dreadful internal turmoil about what to do for the best. Drink, verbal abuse are common and virtually always the children live in a constant negative environment. The atmosphere is always tense and when one of the parents comes home after work and sees the other, the temperature rises even further. You have probably witnessed this for years.
Your father may not know how to relate to you - not because he does not love you - but so often men stand back and allow the mother to be the centre of the childs life - their safety net in a horrible situation. So I just wanted to show you that there are always two sides in any situation and the only way you will ever understand your father is to spend time with him, tell him that you find it hard to discuss your feelings and ask him how he truly feels. I cannot guarantee that what he says will comfort you, but it is so much better for you to understand his distance from you, so that you can allow the men in your life to get colose to you and give you the love that you both deserve.
Love and best wishes
Publisher 🙂
RE: Would counselling help me?
Dear Rainbow I recommend that you check out the inner child thread on this forum and the book 'The Homecoming' by John Bradshaw.
Self development is teaching the soul to fly!
Divine love
RE: Would counselling help me?
If you think you would benefit from counselling, go for it, definitely. I had a similar situation to you and wondered whether I should go for counselling or not about 7 years ago. i didn't go, and everything built up within me till it exploded. Trust your instincts and go for it. It won't be easy though I warn you, but it's preferable to not confronting things. I don't know of any spiritual counsellors, so I can't advise you there, sorry. I am getting psycotherapy. I haven't started it yet, but am on the waiting list. I got referred through a very understanding GP. You could try this option.
My advice to you is to trust yourself. If you think you need counselling, then you do, no-one else can tell you otherwise. Use the same trust to pick which kind of counselling you should go for.
I am sure others on this board will give youlots of options to explore.
Good luck
Love
streamsofstars
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RE: Would counselling help me?
Dear Rainbow
Right now a book is not want you need. You are so right in saying you need help and ask Spirit to send you the right counsellor/healer. Vibrational Essences would also support you as they are subtle but powerful.
You sound like you have the awareness about your past and now need the right help to move you through this.
Choose not to believe that you can never heal the relationship with your father. What is between you and your father is pain and nothing more. With understanding, learning, unlearning, forgiveness and acceptance you can and will move through this if you are willing and above all if you choose to.
Anger is a counterfeit emotion. What lies beneath this is Hurt. You are so hurt and wounded by the past and this is having an effect on your self confidence. Furthermore, this is also connected to your Intimacy issues.
Inner child essence, Father says the ideal love of our earthly father demonstrates, on a physical level, the highest unconditional love of our heavenly Father, our Creator. As we develop more of this divine love for our personified father, forgiving weaknesses, so we become more loving and acceptingof our own masculine and feminine natures balance, we more fully unfold the qualities of Divine Power and Divine Love, held within our heart chakra.
Ask spirit to guide you and send you the right person who resonates with your spiritual beliefs to support you on your journey...Follow your heart and as the Course in Miracles says - You can never fail if you seek to reach the Truth
Remember to "Carry the Light”and never forget who you who truly are and where you came from. With Love and Prayers, Bina Pattel