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junior
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I alway fancy a pagan wedding but do not knew how to go about it.I wanted to join a pagan community but the one near me meet up in a pud which put me off.As i do not drink and hate pubs.And it quiet scarely goinginto a pub on your ownwhen you are a girl.

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Holistic
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RE: pagan wedding

Well, junior, they've got to meet somewhere!;) Cost of room hire elsewhere might be a consideration, and many pubs have a function room upstairs or at the back of the pub, which they're very happy for people to use for no direct cost, because they get bar takings that they wouldn't otherwise be getting if no one else is using the room.

Many people go to pubs for meetings and either drink very little alcohol because of maybe driving afterwards, or stick to fruit juices.

I've been to a number of such Pagan meetings in pub rooms, and I can assure you they aren't drunken orgies, but very pleasant social occasions with like-minded folk and, very often, a talk either by one of the members or perhaps a visiting speaker.

If you know the people organising the meetings, or have a contact number, why not ring up and explain how you feel about going in alone ... which I do understand ... and ask if someone could perhaps meet you in the car park so you can go in together.

I'm sure oakapple will be along shortly to hopefully endorse what I've said, and give you some more information about Pagan weddings. In the meantime have a look at the resources 'sticky' at the top of the Wicca forum ... some of the websites might have information, or you could google 'pagan wedding' and see what comes up in the results. 'Handfasting' would be another useful search term.

Hope this helps. 🙂

Holistic

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Pooky
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RE: pagan wedding wedding

Hi Junior

Where do you live? If you live near Hertfordshire I have a friend who performs handfastings and other ceremonies. Message me if you would like more info.

Sally x

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junior
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RE: pagan wedding wedding

Thanks sally but i live in worthing which is in west sussex.I think thats miles away

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Bannick
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If you are looking for a celebrant to carry out a handfasting for you but don't know any other pagans then I would suggest contacting the Pagan Federation or Liferites.

With regard to moots, there are quite a few "coffee moots" around the country nowadays aimed at people who don't like pubs, aren't old enough to go into pubs or who need to take kids with them. I started one of these up in Manchester (I no longer run it but it's still going) because of the number of people I met who avoided moots because they are in pubs. I would check online pagan forums and magazines such as Pagan Dawn and Pentacle or go into your local pagan or new age shop to find details of these.

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PurpleMysticMoggy
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hello

not to worry
which county do you live in ?

myself and two friends last year elped the insular order of druids
perform two handfastings
one was in a lovely littel grove of trees in Southick
and the other was on a Council estate in rouner ( gosport)

vaired to say the least

depending on where you live , but even if you find the nearest new age shop
and ask there , even try the university , they may hold a pagan society
and there should be memebers who can do it or know people who can

Pagan fed is ok , but not really up so date with the various groups
ling around the uk

not to worry
if its ment to be , you'll find them

hope it goes well
bright blessings 🙂
Kat X

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oakapple
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Hi Junior,

Most of the pagans I know either don't drink alcohol at all, or only in moderation. Also, you can get access to handfasting through various websites, but I do know of groups who perform handfasting ceremonies, but you do have to attend their moots first and then be invited to their open rituals which are invitation only. It is just like a christian church, where you have to be formerly introduced to the group and then the ceremony.

I don't know how far you are prepared to travel, but we live near Potsmouth, Hampshire, and I could put you in touch with some groups around here, if it is not too far. Good luck anyway!

Old Lammas-12th August

Today 12th August was traditionally the best day of the year for " handfast marriages "- This was a trial union in which either party was free to end after one year, without the social stigma of divorce.....today was also the day crop fields were thrown open for Winter grazing....

Oakapple xx

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Continuum
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Hi there,
I know this conversation was had a while ago but I've only just come across it. I'm not a pagan as such although the whole 'alternative' religion thing does interest me. The real reason I'm contacting you though is because I work for the Spinnaker Tower in Portsmouth and we are thinking about doing some sort of pagan ceremony on Sat 21 June (summer solstice) at the top of the tower as the sun rises. Would you be interested in helping us do something? If not, do you know of anyone who might?
Many thanks,
Keira.

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oakapple
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Hi Continuum.......Yes, I know a group who could manage this ceremony for you....I'll PM a phone number to you.

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Winniethewitch
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Hi Oakapple,
I would be interested in any local groups you know too please!
X

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Moonfairy
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Hi WW and welcome to Healthypages

I know of this druid group based in Portsmouth who I believe also do handfasting:
[url] Genesis Order of Druids [/url]

Nice friendly group.:)

HTH

Blessed Be

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OrkneyMagpie
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Legal Pagan Weddings

Hi

If you are interested in having a pagan wedding (handfasting) that is fully legal then you may wish to consider travelling to Scotland to get married.

Unlike England and Wales, Scottish law allows couples to get married anywhere they want to (it doesn't have to be a licensed venue) and the Celebrant can be from a very wide range of religions. Also unlike England and Wales, you don't have to be resident for a set period of time in the place where you get married, so you could combine your wedding with your honeymoon.

These are fully legal weddings, considered valid throughout the world. You don't have to have a religious ritual plus a civil ceremony, you will be fully married! And your ritual can reflect whatever pagan path you follow!

The Scottish Pagan Federation hold a list of approved Pagan Celebrants (of which I am honoured to be one) who are able to perform legal weddings.

Blessings

Magpie

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shazzawill
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Who can officiate a handfasting in Wales

Hi,
My partner and i would like to have a handfasting next year and would like some advice on who can officiate this?:)

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Crowan
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Hi,
My partner and i would like to have a handfasting next year and would like some advice on who can officiate this?:)

Anyone can officiate, but don't expect it to be a legal marriage. If this is okay for you - go ahead. If you want it to be legal you'll need a civil ceremony in a register office as well.

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Mrs. S.
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I alway fancy a pagan wedding but do not knew how to go about it.I wanted to join a pagan community but the one near me meet up in a pud which put me off.As i do not drink and hate pubs.And it quiet scarely goinginto a pub on your ownwhen you are a girl.

Hi Junior,

Did you get your pagan wedding? My friend who is a pagan, officiated at our pagan wedding straight after the 'official' one. It was beautiful. Let me know if you did it or not.

Love,
Patsy.
xxxxx

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Mrs. S.
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Anyone can officiate, but don't expect it to be a legal marriage. If this is okay for you - go ahead. If you want it to be legal you'll need a civil ceremony in a register office as well.

Hi Crowan,

You're right. We had a pagan wedding some time after our Christian church wedding, but later that day!

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Crowan
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We had a shamanic "handfasting" a couple of hours after the Register Office Civil Partnership ceremony. A really good day.

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We had a shamanic "handfasting" a couple of hours after the Register Office Civil Partnership ceremony. A really good day.

Yes, lovely isn't it, Crowan?

xxx

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