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When an old lady died in the geriatric ward of a hospital in England, it appeared she had left nothing of value.
The nurse, packing up her possessions, found this poem. The quality so impressed the staff that copies were distributed to all the nurses in the hospital.
This poem then later appeared in the Christmas edition of "Beacon House News," a magazine of the Northern Ireland Mental Health Association. This was the Lady's bequest for posterity.
A Crabbit Old Woman
What do you see nurse,
What do you see?
What are you thinking
When you look at me?
A crabbit old woman,
Not very wise,
Uncertain of habit
With far away eyes.
Who dribbles her food
And makes no reply;
Then you say in a loud voice,
"I do wish you'd try."
Who seems not to notice
The things that you do,
And forever is losing
A stocking or shoe.
Unresisting or not,
Lets you do as you will;
With bathing or feeding,
The long day to fill.
Is that what you're thinking,
Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes nurse,
You're not looking at me.
I'll tell you who I am,
As I sit here so still,
As I move at your bidding,
As I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of ten ...
With a father and mother,
And brothers and sisters
Who love one another.
A girl of sixteen,
With wings on her feet;
Dreaming that soon,
A lover she'll meet.
A bride soon at twenty ...
My heart gives a leap;
Remembering the vows
That I promised to keep.
At twenty-five,
I have young of my own,
Who need me to build
A secure and happy home.
A woman of thirty,
My young now grow fast,
Bound together with ties
That forever should last.
At forty, my young ones
Have grown up and gone;
But my man is beside me
To see I don't mourn.
At fifty, once more ...
Babies play 'round my knees;
Again we know children,
My loved ones and me.
Dark days are upon me,
My husband is dead ...
I look at the future,
I shudder with dread;
For my young are all rearing,
Young of their own,
And I think of the years
And the love I have known.
I am an old woman now,
Nature is cruel,
‘Tis her jest to make old age
Look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles,
Grace and vigor depart,
There is now a stone
Where I once had a heart.
But inside this old carcass,
A young girl still dwells,
And now and again
My battered heart swells.
I remember the joys,
I remember the pain,
And I'm loving and living
Life over again.
I think of the years ...
All too few, gone too fast,
And accept the stark fact
That nothing can last.
So open your eyes nurses,
Open and see ...
Not a "Crabbit Old Woman,"
Look closer ... see "Me."
What an amazing poem - really touching. Makes you think - so often older people seem to become 'invisible' and and we forget about all the things they've done in their life.
That poem really touched me. Have just volunteered to become a 'befriender' for elderly people in this area. Should have done it years ago.
Thanks for the inspiration.
Oh, that's really sad - like you say, the residents didn't have any say. Like you, I was thinking along the lines of popping round for a cup of tea and a chat - with absolutely no interest in inheriting anything! There are times when I could do with a bit of company myself....I'll let you know what happens.
I first read this poem over 30 years ago - I think it should be compulsory reading for all student nurses.
Georgia and Little Fawn - perhaps you could volunteer to visit elderly people through a charity or voluntary organisation? How about approaching "Help the Aged" or "Age Concern".
I've not seen this wonderful poem before, it really touched me - particularly as I have witnessed some, not all, inconsiderate nursing of our elderly citizens. On the other hand I have witnessed some very caring people looking after people in hospices.
Binah
Thank you for responding, so glad you liked it! I've always had an affinity with the elderly, they've been through a life we can only imagine.
I agree it should be given to all in the caring professions as food for thought!
pinkpearl
This is the most beautiful poem I have read and makes you realise that old people were once young. They had fun, loved life and still have feelings when they are older. I still love listening to my mum's tales of when she was younger (now 78).
Thank you for this xxx
I remember coming across this poem some years ago now and it had a really profound effect upon me. I also feel quite an affinity with the elderly and volunteer for a charity that works with them, befriending and helping with problems of isolation. Very special -thank you for posting and reminding me again.
As I near 60, old age is beginning to loom fairly large in my mind. I so desperately want to retain both mental and physical capacities...I had to chuckle at Rose's comment about this poem making her realise that old people were young once. But don't forget Rose, that you too will be old one day - and that day will come all too soon. Believe me, time really does have wings! So I hope all you youngsters are eating healthily and doing your exercises......