Hello my name is Majella from Ireland I am new to all of this, but I was wondering can anyone help me, I lost my Mammy and my best friend to breast cancer and im getting it hard to cope without her im in pain all the time im sick i cant sleep i take panic attacks since she died i miss her so much it hurts im just looking for some advice to try get through this grief that hits me like a tonne of bricks
thank you
majella
ireland
RE: can anyone help on bereavement
Hi Majella[sm=grouphug.gif]
I am sorry for your loss.
Sending positive thoughts and prayers........
RE: can anyone help on bereavement
Dear Majella,
Oh bless you! Im so glad you came to HP there are so many loving and compassionate people here.
I find that the only way Ive ever been able to heal grief is through getting closer to God, our loving, divine Father-Mother. Though some people might have said to you that it was Gods will that your mother and friend have died, I really cant believe that for an instant! God is Life itself, is all goodness, the source of our love, our intelligence, our very being. To me, that would be like saying that the sun was responsible for darkness.
What you loved and will always love about your mother and friend are their unique spiritual qualities. You didnt love your mother because of her nose or your friend because of her thumb, but because of the unique way they each express life and love, joy and compassion, goodness and kindness etc. Those qualities are all Gods and they fill the universe and you can never be without them. All that is good and true lives forever.
Your mother and your friend are still living and loving and blessing everyone they are meeting in their new experience of life. You are not grieving for them you certainly dont need to, as they are being cared and loved, but you are grieving for yourself dear one. But you can never be separated from their love, because you can never be separated from the love of God, your divine Mother and friend.
Here is a wonderful poem that has helped many people:
Death is nothing at all
I have only slipped away into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other, that we still are
Call me by my old familiar name
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone;
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together
Pray, smile, think of me, pray for me
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was
Let it be spoken without effect
without the trace of a shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant
It is the same as it ever was
There is unbroken continuity
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight
I am waiting for you
For an interval
Somewhere very near
Just around the corner
All is well
by Henry Scott Holland 1847-1918
I find many inspiring articles on a website called www.spirituality.com. Here are a few for you the first is another beautiful poem, by a friend of mine.
We only have moments
Pam Chance http://tinyurl.com/fq68z
Celebrating life
http://tinyurl.com/e63ec
The power of divine mercy
http://tinyurl.com/ltn4s
Comfort and joy
http://tinyurl.com/rz5z5
A big hug for you! [sm=grouphug.gif]
love and peace,
Judy[
RE: can anyone help on bereavement
hi magella
so sorry to hear of your sadness.i know its hard,but believe me it gets easier.your mammy will be around you now watching over you.talk to her,she can hear you.
i lost someone close 10months ago,i felt like you do now.
it has got easier.will put you in my prayers.
are you a singer in ireland,do you play the guitar?
was you on the forum angel light a few yrs ago.
with love
kath[sm=FIFangel.gif][sm=grouphug.gif]
RE: can anyone help on bereavement
I'm so sorry for you Majella and I understand your loss only too well, as I lost my Mum many years ago..............
Sending all positive things for you.............
Love, light and blessings,
Guin x