Lilac jewel. You have answered your own question.
You say you have been thinking about your answers within you.Now, it is quite normal to seek someone who can guide you.....but it comes at a price. The up side is it is entertaining, fun, gratifying to hear someone talk about you and your situation....and the last part is the addictive part, simply because I am the centre of a conversation, exclusively about me, my life, my inner and outer world- even if I have to pay to hear them say all that...
I have been to many many astrologers, psychics when I was young, but in a very jack-the-lad energy, killing time, entertainment value, nothing else to do, let's go and get our future read! Not to get insights but to pass time and fascination for occult things. But it is quite another thing, when you take your confusions and inner answers. These things actually add to the confusion.
One says this, another says that,...what to do, who to believe. Then part of you wants to believe this, yet another part fights that....just because a psychic said so...I say, no one can tell you if you love this person or not....only you can. But you have lost clarity not gained it by consulting soothsayers too frequently.
Soothe Sayers....to smooth your heart, but here they have not soothed your heart, but unsettled you. The predictions can start of a mirage....which may never materialize or it would, but you are too tense and sit in your own way to receive blessings
Stop. Stop seeking your answers from these people. Most of them don't have clue of their own life and future, let alone of someone else's future. Got to put the respect that you have for psychics, under some scrutiny in order to get over this addiction.Do sit and let your thoughts and mind settle. Give yourself time....don't rush to decisions. Let your heart settle.breathe, breathe nicely, no pressure, no rush, just relax. Give yourself time to clear your head of all the differnt voices that echo in your head
When you are settled, your heart will know plain as day, what way life wants you to goYou already have your own answers. when you can rest, they make themselves known
Love
Thanks so much jnani for your reply. That's so true as thats the way I'm feeling ie. these things actually add to the confusion, one says this, another says that and who do you believe! Also very true when you said they have not soothed my heart, but unsettled me.
I know I need to stop seeking answers from them and start trusting myself. Yes I really do need to settle my thoughts and mind and struggling abit but hopefully will get there. My mind seems to be full of so much confusion and goes from one thought to another!
As I said to Amy just that little part of me says oh but what if I am settling for second best and maybe there's a better connection for me as that psychic told me?
Going to give myself time to settle my mind (if I can) might try and meditate as I need to settle my heart and mind of the confusion I'm feeling.
Lilac I worked for a short time on a psychic phone line. Some of them will be genuine - but the chances are the company encourage them to keep clients on the line for a long time........its one reason why I stopped. It was unethical IMO. So don't go to a phone line psychic. Don;t go to ANY psychic about this in fact.
You KNOW you need to trust your own intuition.......it was very often what I would tell people if they had a reading from me. You see we are ALL psychic but too many people blunt their abilities, or doubt them. Why do you need anyone to tell you what you already know? You KNOW you have made the right decision about the relationship. There may well be someone in your future that you can have a good relationship with but I will tell you now the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. Until you love yourself you can never have a truly loving open relationship with anyone.
So take some time, learn to love yourself, and Mr Right may well come along......
You have already seen through their advice when you say they gave you false hope so you have not lost your common sense radar!
Do you access your intuition? When I can't decide on 2 options I just wait until I get clarity (if the situation allows for this). Sooner or later, things fall into place and the way forward becomes clear.
Maybe I'm not answering this right but do you mean just to follow your gut feeling?
You have already seen through their advice when you say they gave you false hope so you have not lost your common sense radar!
Do you access your intuition? When I can't decide on 2 options I just wait until I get clarity (if the situation allows for this). Sooner or later, things fall into place and the way forward becomes clear.
Sorry if I'm not giving the right reply Amy but do you mean just follow my gut feelings when you say access your intuition?
Lilac I worked for a short time on a psychic phone line. Some of them will be genuine - but the chances are the company encourage them to keep clients on the line for a long time........its one reason why I stopped. It was unethical IMO. So don't go to a phone line psychic. Don;t go to ANY psychic about this in fact.
You KNOW you need to trust your own intuition.......it was very often what I would tell people if they had a reading from me. You see we are ALL psychic but too many people blunt their abilities, or doubt them. Why do you need anyone to tell you what you already know? You KNOW you have made the right decision about the relationship. There may well be someone in your future that you can have a good relationship with but I will tell you now the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. Until you love yourself you can never have a truly loving open relationship with anyone.
So take some time, learn to love yourself, and Mr Right may well come along......
Thanks Tashanie. Yeah that seems abit crazy keeping clients on for longer, suppose thats the way these companies make their money. So from what I've said you think I've made the right decision about my relationship? My feelings are still confused!
Maybe I'm not answering this right but do you mean just to follow your gut feeling?
Sorry if I'm not giving the right reply Amy but do you mean just follow my gut feelings when you say access your intuition?
Well whilst most people think that gut instinct and intuition are one and the same thing, I did research into this and (although there is an overlap) they are different!
Gut instinct can often spring from fear, tends to be very spontaneous/kneejerk and can be wrong.
Intuition always comes from a deep, wise place and has a ring of 'rightness' about it. It is best accessed when the mind is empty, i.e. not preoccupied with thought. This allows a 'space' for the solution to enter. It may not occur immediately, i.e. on the first occasion but is something that can be developed. You will know it because it casts no doubt and just feels the right thing to do.
Whilst you are confused then making the 'right' decision cannot be relied on i.e. if it comes from thought. Intuition comes from a deeper source.
An exercise you might try (just came to me now - an exercise I used to do when in a dilemma) might be to make 2 columns on a piece of paper and write down pros and cons i.e. what the conflict is i.e. just a line about each fear/hope etc. Then read each thought and - without thinking - mark it out of 10 for how strongly you feel about it! This may bring clarity into sorting out the wheat from the chaff.