When there is a longing or a need could it be safe to say that there is something missing within the individual that needs or longs for anything ..
x daz x
To need or long for love being seen as a weakness? Lacking? It may well be a question of degree. As indicated, to have a great need for love would indicate to me that there is lack of inner harmony in that person. Look how keenly a ditched person can be to take on another relationship - on the rebound? It's like they fear the exploration of turning loneliness into solitude, i.e. focusing on another for their happiness. This strikes me as second hand happiness and that to cultivate being content within yourself is a stabilising boon. I feel that the more at peace one becomes with self, the need for love loses its desperation and can become more of a want than a longing/yearning.
I think there's a clear distinction between 'true love' (love without attachment) and selfish (for want of a better word) love (love with attachment).
True Love is not a need or a longing, and exists between all things
Selfish love creates need/longing, and is not true love;
Selfish love is the sort of love that, when the object of the love is removed; creates conflict (manifesting as various emotions in the mind etc.) That is the nature of attachment in this dualistic type of love.
True Love, when the object is removed, remains, without causing conflict. That is because the object is recognised as being something that cannot be truly removed as it is part of us in the oneness; and we cannot remove our Self from our Self.
Hey all 🙂
As the title suggests
'Why is there the need or the longing for love' ... is it a need? Is it a longing? .
Whats happening ...
x daz x
Nice_1 in order to question why there is a need or longing for love, one must assume, in the first place, that such a need or longing exists. My question to you is, how do you arrive at such an assumption. Is there a need or longing for love? 🙂
From where does water wonder from?
From a place where water knows that it is water ?
x daz x
The question is in you...go figure.
Water is oblivious of wet or dry, just is what it is.
I don't think water is a good analogy here. After all it does not have an ego from whence come thoughts, emotions/desires etc.