I am finding it hard to stay positive about my body when people around me are critisising. I try to ignore the comments but it is getting to me today.
I have made the most of what I have got and have told myself that I am gorgeous in my own way etc etc but today, I have had two comments off another website that the only reason why people don't like me and post nasty comments is because I am considered ugly. I don't make personal comments to anyone about their looks. I am not the best looking person in the world but I make up for it in other ways.
I want to cry but don't want to show these people that they have upset me. It is so hard not to bite back!
I have not bitten back at these people by making personal comments about them, I have just told them that when they grow up they realise that judging people on their looks is not the way to move forward.
This board is reallly good with positive vibes and I would really appreciate some today. Thanks for listening to my ramblings!
Does anyone else have a problem about body image?
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Do not allow these people to influence how you feel about yourself. You already know your own true value and the fact that you are a wonderful being yourself. You know that these people and thoughts are not worth your headspace- So do not allow them to be there.
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[:'(]Yuk...what horrible 'shallow' people, if I was you I'd just not bother with them anymore
I often feel that people who have to critisize (sp) others often only do it to distract themselves (& others that they think notice) from their own 'bad points'!! Beauty is about perception & if a person percives only uglyness then it's the uglieness within themselves that blinds them to beauty[:'(]
Love
Amy
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The funny thing is is that these people's opinions don't usually bother me. I had been avoiding that site for a while and I can see why now!
They are definitely not worth my head space 🙂
I must admit I did have a little cry and feel a lot better. It makes me cross though when people do this on line but not to my face, cowardly custards!
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What an unfortunate thing to have experienced, but please do not take it to heart. IMO people who lash out at others like that have their own issues and insecurities and make themselves feel better by making others feel bad. You are much more than the opinions of others.
Also from your post I sense you have a lot of inner strength, in the way that you handled the situation, in your self-acceptance and appreciation and in the very way that you wrote the post so honestly. Use that inner-strength to help you rise above the negativity of others.
Stay strong!
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What sort of forum is it? Do you know these people personally?
I'd of cried too is someone kept saying nasty things to me (not in front of them though;)), a persons confidence can be hard to build & it's pure nastyiness when another person tries to bring them down
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what I see about you that is beautiful about you SB.....
1) your ability to trust
2) your ability to be discerning
3)your capacity to reach out and ask for a bit of support
4) your willingness to allow yourself to be uplifted here
what can you tell us that is beautiful about you?
tigress
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I go on a clubbing forum and I have never met these people personally and do not wish to now!
Thinking about it now, it is quite a nasty forum where people take pleasure in other people's suffering. I thought the forum was about music but it is not, it is all about on-line egos.
I usually handlemyself quite well but today was an "off" day!
I do feel a lot better with all the great comments and support, if I had written this on the other forum I would have been laughed at and taken the mickey out of even more.
This website helps to save my sanity on days like today but what I "take out" of this forum I only too happy to put back in.
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I think all the points you have listed are really good and I haven't thought aboutthose particular onesbefore.
I think I have abeautifulface and a beautiful ability to forgive and understand people. There arequite a few amount of times I have defused situations and turned them into positive ones, another point that I have never really looked at before. It is not like I don't like confrontation but I think that things are ususally sorted out more easily when everything is calmer.
You have got me thinking now!