husband with Gambling addiction
I tried to respond to a new post from a wife desperate for help with her husbands gambling addiction. I could not post the reply and I suspect she may have deleted the post.
I am posting my reply anyway in the hope she will read it
You have my sympathies. sadly there is no guaranteed cure for any addiction. . The drugs you have bought are not an answer - and certainly here in the UK they can only be obtained with a prescription. Most importantly the drugs are also addictive. They could well make the situation worse.
Sadly you cannot help him until he himself wants to be helped. I lived with an alcohol addict - and I know how soul destroying it is to see someone you love on a path of self destruction.
The only thing you can do is to refuse to feed his addiction. Do not give him money. Sadly in many cases addicts have to reach rock bottom before they realise they need help. Homeless jobless friendless. and penniless
I know this is not what you want to hear - but helping addicts is something I have personal and professional experience with and I would be doing you a disservice if I was anything less than honest.. The good news is addiction CAN be cured.......but only with the full co-operation of the addict - and drugging your husband is not going to achieve that.
You must focus on reducing the effects on yourself and your daughter. There are support groups for families of addicts - and I am sure there will be a support group for families of gambling addicts.
Feel free to pm me if you want to talk
The post was removed as spam, due to it containing reference to various products and the mention of the specific online pharmacy website, as well as other details about the member that were idicative of a spammer. Online pharmacy spam is very common, and unfortunately, some wrap it up in genuine sounding posts on forums to try and hide what they're doing.
All Love and Reiki Hugs
Ah I missed that. I am WAY too trusting!
..and kind and caring enough to make up a new thread to answer too, that shows real compassion. WTG you Tashanie!
Thank you Cascara - although I feel a bit silly not spotting the links that meant it was spam!. But I CAN easily imagine someone desperate enough to post - and then regret it and delete it.
And hopefully my information might well help someone else with a similar problem
I have struggled with friend’s with addiction before, and I wish that there was a miracle cure you can give them to make them ‘better’. But just as you said, it is like a raging fire, and the only thing that you can do is cut off the oxygen. If you continue enabling people and treat them as though nothing is wrong, where are the consequences for their actions?
Sounds as if you have had the struggle yourself Romeo. Only someone who has experienced addiction first hand, or seen it in someone they love can trult understand what it is like.