I thought it would be interesting to hear if anyone else has noticed something I've recently become more aware of. It seems that increasingly now I'm seeing more and more cases of people standing up to unsocial behaviour in public.
It's happened a few times on the bus and in the street and I've seen people start to pull others up, well, usually it's teenagers or younger people being pulled up! for things like swearing, dropping litter, pushing in queues and just generally being a nuisance. In every case I have to say it's the older generation who are doing the ticking off, meaning the over 55's.
You can tell the ones being told off quite shocked and abit embarassed although they do cover it up with bravado if with their mates. Sometimes they will stop what they're doing and sometimes they won't but they're definitely shocked at being pulled up about it. I think this is a good thing and am hoping this is the start of a new era. Has anyone else noticed this?
Haven't particularly noticed it yet, but I like the sound of it!.You're right about people being shocked, though - I picked up a drink carton a boy had dropped and put it back in his hands, and his jaw dropped!
To my daughter's embarrassment, I asked a boy on the train the other day to turn down the tinny music coming from his mobile phone (in fact, I suggested he use earphones for it first). He mumbled something, turned it down a bit but wouldn't look me in the eye. A moral victory, at the very least! Somebody said afterwards: what if he'd had a knife? But you can't worry about things like that, can you? More likely he has a mother at home who would have told him he was a very naughty boy.
🙂 he!he! I like it!!
It is definitley a good thing.The fact is most of them aren't dangerous and don't have knives and won't kill us but they know that we all have that thought in our head and it's turned us all into whimps and they play on it.
Seeing more and more people brave up and speak out will surely embolden others to do the same.
An old man told a woman off on the bus because she was letting her toddler run around and do what he wanted. He said 'can't you keep that child sitting down? He'll hurt himself one day.Every time I get on this bus and he's there you don't try to control him'. And she said 'well he's two years old, what do you want me to do?' To which the man said 'well act like you're in charge of him instead of the other way round, that would be a start'. The girl then said 'oh shut up! you're just an old man!' to which the he said 'Yes, you are right love, I am an old man, I'm 82 and I'm proud of it and like most of my generation I know all about respect, good manners and discipline'.
He was very dignified and strong and he didn't shout but it was so good to hear someone say what the rest of us whimps were all thinking.
He said to his wife 'well I've said it now and that's it. I've wanted to say that to that young lady for months and now I feel better!!':)
Oh yes, this is certainly ringing my bells! Where I live a lot of the men (mainly Eastern Europeans) spit in the street and I once ticked one off for this as we waited for a bus. I pointed out - with gestures in case he didn't understand - that I wouldn't like to tread in his spit and that he could just as easily spit in the gutter. He accepted my rebuke with good grace and appeared to promise not to do it again. (Yeah, I bet!:))
With other forms of anti-social behaviour, I've sometimes asked schoolkids to pick up litter they've just thrown away and put it in the bin instead. I don't think we should be scared if it's in a public place and if we do the ticking off calmly and politely. Then no one has a reason to get strident. I hate anti-social behaviour, it really bothers me, and I think we should reclaim the streets!:019: (That's me, that smiley is!)
Love
Sunanda xxx
YEEEEESS!!
Reclaim The Streets!!!
I like that Sunanda!!
I am now going to make more of an effort to brave up and speak out more.
Should be fun..;)
Thats great. There is nothing worse than an inconsiderate jerk.
i agree with what everybody has said and if you actually talk to them as human beings instead of yobs then most of this generation will listen to you, but for some reason this generation think of only of themselves and what they can get out life and that everybody else should clean up after them
Hi,
I think that the majority of young people are decent and respectable but, there are a number who aren't.
Most would respond to being reproached with some thoughtful reflection in spite of their initial response. However, there are many examples of violence towards adults who have had the nerve to complain about anti social behaviour.
Unfortunatly I think there is a layer of society that is beyond having the error of their ways pointed out to them and will respond violently however respectfully it is done.
Dunkirk
If people stand up to the small things, perhaps we can stop them becoming big things later on, although it can be very intimidating. And yes I have seen it lately, at a bus stop, 3 youngsters (12/13) trying to break the glass, a middle aged women gave them a right ticking off much to the amusement of everyone watching, when the bus came she told the driver who would not let them on the bus, great stuff!
I think quite often other people would agree with you and back you up. With kids you can try saying something like 'Now what would your Mum say if she could see you now?' You can start a dialogue. Don't create an air of hostility. Be inventive. Or humorous. There are lots of ways to say things or ask that something be stopped.
We can do it!
Love
Sunanda x
Maybe the tide is turning. The feral have been running the streets for too long.
I look forward to the unemployed being made to do voluntary/community work to earn their salaries. If I can do it, so can they.