'Stalked!

I would use ho'oponopono process on this

Think of him and the situation
say to yourself I am sorry , please forgive me, thankyou I love you..over and over, especially when thoughts of him and his behaviour come into mind

tigress

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So, how would you deal with this situation? Of course he doesn't know my real name or address and my understanding would be he could put a case forward only if I had OFFERED him Reiki and telling him it would cure him?
Interesting times!

Hi reikiangel,

I know that these people can be very disturbing, and I know from my own experience that there are people who want to cause trouble on forums. Usually they tend to make a noise for a few months and then disappear. They get their kicks from the winding their victim up an the more we give them the time of day, the more it encourages them.

Having said that, the mods should have access to the PMs he's posted in reference to you, and therefore there shouldn't be any problems with him being banned from the forum. It is a forum of many different beliefs and backgrounds, and we should be able to debate things openly and honestly.

It reminds me a few years ago when I had a stalker. He used to phone me wherever I was in the world and he had the ability of fooling switch boards and PAs that he needed to talk to me although they knew of his existance. Anyway to cut a long story short, it turn out he was a patient in a mental hospital in Colorado and every week he was given a phone card. Well for some reason he spent all his phone hours on me!

Stalkers are upsetting, but if ignored they will more on. It's important that you shared this with us, and certainly we can watch out for him. Also it's important that the mods keep a record of all his posts, because in the UK stalking is a criminal offence.

Myarka.

Sorry to hear you are having so much trouble with this person. I think as long as no claims are made to curing illness then you are quite safe. Some people just get a rather big bee in their bonnets and don't know when to leave others alone.

You have drawn it to the attention of the right people and surely they can see what's happening and intervene where necessary. There are strict laws on stalking.

It wouldn't do any harm to reiki the situation - and send this person some as well. Try to cut any links that have attached him to you, ask the angelic presence to do this particularly Archangel Michael to wrap his blue cloak around you and cut with his sword any attachments from him to you and vice versa. Then hand it all over to higher self for guidance.

Love and Light
Binah
xx

Hiya

Yes I believe you are right in your interpretation of the law, however I would point out that as it is new law there is no case law to aid in interpretation yet and I wouldn't like you to be the first case!

Send Reiki to the situation and ask for the highest good to come out of it. Especially SHK will help I feel. I'll send you some Reiki tonight.

Sounds to me like this guy has a lot of residual anger, possibly due to his illness if he is on a cancer forum. Maybe he is angry at the way his illness developed and is lashing out at you because you are being positive and constructive about your situation (which I am very sorry to hear about and hope you doing well). Surround the situation with positive light and love, and use a visualisation exercise to construct a reflective shield around yourself and ask the angels to help him to see with more clarity how his behaviour is affecting you.

Best wishes

Hi Reikiangel,

It is an awful feeling to be stalked. I used to be stalked by a neighbours' friend. Initially I thought he was just a nice guy but then when he felt that I wasn't giving him any attention other then saying "Hi" he started stalking me, by putting cards into the letter box with messages etc. It made me feel very unsafe in my own home and I thought the best would be to ignore him. Somehow he got hold of my phone number (he knew my last name etc.) and I started getting phone calls from him. Sometimes his messages were very angry, rude and upsetting and other times he was all apologetic and wanted me to forgive him for his actions and was apologetic. Honestly, I didn't know how to deal with this situation. But at the end I did some research on stalking behaviour, discussed the situation with friends amongst others a police officer (friend). I was then able to sort out the situation. Basically people who get into a stalking behaviour are like bullies, they try to find something that is close to your heart/emotions, make it look like a weakness of yours and try to hurt you. They especially want to hurt you emotionally if they feel you were giving them kindness and suddenly they feel you are withdrawing it (it is irrational behaviour, though).
Anyway, at the end I took all my courage together and took quite a risk as I wasn't sure how this person was going to react, but I did it. The next time he called, instead of just putting down the phone or telling him that he had to leave me alone, I said that I had enough and I was reporting him to the police for harrassement right then. (I said other things in my rage that I don't want to repeat here). Since that day I have not heard from him ever again.
What I am trying to say to you is not to get intimidated by this person and to show him that you are truly not affected by his behaviour and you deal with it.

Hope this helps.

Love
Zimba

Thank you all so much for your posts and to you too zimba for sharing your own experience. I did a disconnection of energy using Reiki last night and have sent love and light to this person and the situation so we will see how it goes. As I have said I have not responded at all to his goading because I did not want to 'inflame' the situation or to waste any more of my energy on it. I just felt that I had to defend myself and Reiki just that one post. The admin have now set out new guidelines which forbids certain phrases to do with Complimentary/Alternative therapies which is a bit like being 'gagged', but hey ho, everyone on the site has some connection to Cancer and we should be fighting that, NOT each other.
I did put a post to say that I was glad that this was now being put to rest and unfortunately until the same amount of money was thrown at Reiki etc to carry out large enough trials and studies as the drug companies give for new drugs then it will always be an uneven playing field!

Thanks again for your thoughts.

Love and light

reikiangel

xxx

Sorry that you've been upset by this person. It seems as if he targets someone until they feel either uncomfortable and leave, or they retaliate. You haven't done either.

it's the internet equivalent of the playground bully - big on words but also he is under the cover of the forum. Had you considered that he may be totally different in real life - maybe the sort of person who wouldn't say boo to a goose. People go on forums and sometimes project the sort of person that they would like to be!

Reikiangel, I think you did the right thing by not getting involved on the forum and notifying the mods. Everyone above is right, it's just an adult form of bullying over the internet. Yes, this man is entitled to his opinions - however it is no excuse to get vitriolic or spiteful about things.

The above is true too, I'll bet most of us find ourselves able to write about things online and expose parts of our personalities that we usually kept hidden or play down in 'real' life. I know it's true to me - while I don't ever mean to be dishonest or mis-represent who I am here, I sometimes catch myself writing things more honestly, or more idealistically, than I would face to face with someone I hardly knew.

Reikiangel, I think you did the right thing by not getting involved on the forum and notifying the mods. Everyone above is right, it's just an adult form of bullying over the internet. Yes, this man is entitled to his opinions - however it is no excuse to get vitriolic or spiteful about things.

The above is true too, I'll bet most of us find ourselves able to write about things online and expose parts of our personalities that we usually kept hidden or play down in 'real' life. I know it's true to me - while I don't ever mean to be dishonest or mis-represent who I am here, I sometimes catch myself writing things more honestly, or more idealistically, than I would face to face with someone I hardly knew.

It's also why we talk to our hairdressers (or Avon rep from when I was one) about quite serious things that are going on in our lives that we can't say to the people involved.

ReikiAngel,

I think you are correct in your interpretation.
You have not given this person a treatment, they have not paid you any money and you have not claimed to offer a cure to him (or anybody else for that matter I'm sure). What's he going to do, take legal action against someone he doesn't know because they practice Reiki? It would be thrown out without hesitation by any honest lawyer.

To put your mind at rest you could also speak with your Reiki society/association and with your insurance company. I'm sure they'll tell you there's nothing to worry about.

As for his pestering you on the forum, you did the right thing by ignoring him and just reporting his abuse to the site admin/moderators.

I'll send Reiki to the situation for you too.

All Love and Reiki Hugs