The thing that really gets in the way is a reluctance to give up righteous indignation. Acceptance isn't hard. It's far less effort than non-acceptance.
Unfortunately if acceptance was so easy then people would not be so stuck in the past, e.g. grieving. Also acceptance is harder than non-acceptance if someone is more interested in being right than fair.
You seem to assume here that people will go for the easy option, even when they don't think it is easy. Is that so?
People go to huge efforts to maintain a state of no change, to fight against the flow. Surrender and acceptance require only that you relax and allow yourself to be in the flow.
What makes this hard is often fear - of the unknown, of being different, of what might be if ...
You seem to assume here that people will go for the easy option, even when they don't think it is easy. Is that so?
People go to huge efforts to maintain a state of no change, to fight against the flow. Surrender and acceptance require only that you relax and allow yourself to be in the flow.
What makes this hard is often fear - of the unknown, of being different, of what might be if ...
You make it sound so simple when the reality of acceptance is far from that often. I am currently helping someone deeply stuck in the past, where he found love and that person hasn't chosen him. Not speaking personally but, in general, I have found most people suffer due to resistance of accepting the present (often stark) situation. If it were as easy as clicking your fingers, I think that would have already happened.
At the end of the day we all have a choice to either accept self and what is or pass judgment and lock ourselves into that judgment, but we do need to understand that and accept that we have a choice before we can make it. 🙂