RE: Advice - what to say?
Hi Onlyjane, I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this sad time. I know it is terribly difficult and the burden of responsibility can be immense. My own dear mom passed away in January after 5 months of being ill. In my own experience, I found the medical staff were always reluctant to give 'times'. My mom asked many times how long she had left but was usually talked out of getting the answer. Quite apart from anything else it can be very difficult to tell. But her consultant usually said 'do you really want me to answer that' and she would say no. I definately couldn't bear being told how long but of course eventually someone did. They said it would be no longer than 2 weeks so we took her home. It was 4 in the end. She was happy and comfortable and she didn't ask at all during that time which leads me to believe she didn't want to focus on it. The time that matters is right now. I'm not sure there is any benefit to any more info than that.
Having said that, what these wise people ^^^^ have said is what i would echo. Whatfeels right for you and your familywill be. Lean on your brother and follow your heart. Youare in my thoughts and prayers. Lots of love to you
Dixie x
RE: Advice - what to say?
Hi Onlyjane,
Ican't articulate how sorry I am to hear of your Mum,but I couldn't read & not to post.
My heart goes out to you, your brother & your families. Your all in my thoughts & prayers.
Love Ma xx
RE: Advice - what to say?
Thank you all so so much. All are kind wise words.
It has been a rollercoaster for several months, she is so frail and her body full of different problems it does tear me apart to see her suffer and more so when she is trying to talk and is inaudible, she gets agitated and I feel frustrated.
I have tried to do some normal things when possible - silly things really - face mask, temple massage with lavender oil.
I think there is no one ever in our lives that love us like a mother's love and that is what I am
going to miss so much.
I really appreciate ALL your replies, I will keep reading them to try to keep me strong.
Jane
RE: Advice - what to say?
My heart goes out to you Jane, having lost my own Mum when I was just 19 and she only 49.....................I can understand what you're going through and I feel very much for you and the family. I can't possibly tell you what to do in this situation, but:
Sending you lots of love and really big hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Love, light and blessings,
Guin x
RE: Advice - what to say?
Hang in there, the times precious, as you already know.. do what feels right for you, regardless of how strange it might seem, regardless of what you think others might think you should do. It's your path, her path.. just find your way together and remember how incredible she is and enjoy that.