Hi Paul, 🙂
With respect, I was asking if you would mind clarifying how you, Paul - who was "personally perceiving":
I personally perceive that your latest posts to Giles and other members are coming very close to overstepping the mark concerning the forum rules, I am sure that this was not your intention and as you say the rules do not enforce themselves, but a part of our moderation role on these forums is to enforce them when the need arises, please keep that in mind when you post in the future.
...and placing a judgment of "right" and "wrong" behaviour onto my ("other") posts, and how that doesn't conflict with your repeated stating on the forums that you gave up judging others a long time ago. 🙂
This thread is about being authentic and "walking the talk", so I can safely say that, in asking for this clarification, I'm on topic. 🙂
As for the posts, there are guidelines for all members to follow, it was Mike who devised and outlined them, not the moderators who's job is to implement them to help keep the forums running in as smooth and friendly manner as possible, they are self explanatory and easy to follow which makes them easy for moderators to assess member's posts by them.
When moderators made the choice to become a moderator they, must have discerned that the rules devised by Mike were acceptable to their personal beliefs and judgments of what is "right" and "wrong" - in order to be able to implement them. Otherwise they wouldn't be able to adopt and perform the role as moderator, and would be abdicating responsibility to the rule book in the process - if those choices hadn't been made. 🙂
If you have not read them for a while then I would suggest that you read through them again and contemplate how you would assess people posts in relation to them LINK. 😉
Paul, I haven't chosen to be a moderator and moderate people. How people moderate themselves is their personal choice and responsibility, surely. 😉
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Chains of what? Some people may feel 'chained' by circumstance, or their thoughts or their actions, in reality the 'chain's may be 'anchors' to keep them secure in the right place.
Your chains............[/QUOTE
Chains of what? Some people may feel 'chained' by circumstance, or their thoughts or their actions, in reality the 'chain's may be 'anchors' to keep them secure in the right place.
I am somewhat surprised this needs spelling out to you. Surely you realise how we think can imprison ourselves?
Hi WildStrawbery
As you are aware the roles that we choose to do within our life experience, does not define who or what we are, I have been moderating on this forum for over a decade, in which time I and the forum have changed considerably, the forum rules are what Mike created, he asked for volunteers who would be happy to help keep the forums ruining in a friendly and family safe manner, to which I and others agreed to help.
The forum rules are something which we all have to agree to if we wish to be a member of the forum, it is irrelevant if I agree with them or not, they are there for a purpose, much the same as we have speed restrictions on the roads to help and keep them safer for everyone, we might not always agree with the rules and regulations that govern aspects of our activities but if we wish to participate in various activities then they are there.
Would you rather have the forum full of spam, with members swearing at each other and verbally abusing each other all of the time as is what happens on a lot of forums that are not moderated? Believe me this forum with it moderators in place has resembled a battle field and it has had to be taken down and had to be resorted a couple of times in the past.
As for what I personally perceive both on the forums combined with the many reported posts that we receive off the main forums which helps the moderators to perceive how members are perceiving what is posted on the main forums, then no I would not be prepared to discuss that type of information on the main forums. 🙂
Whilst I understand the need to modify posts for spam etc, it would appear that being authentic (e.g. too honest - even if polite) may be problematic within the rules of a forum. That said, this forum is more lenient than another forum I frequent more often.