Hi,
Here's the situation -
you are doing a reading for a lady who is very upset over being left by her husband. You can see that really all she wants to know is 'will he come back?'. You can see and you 'know'very clearly that he will never come back. But what can you tell her bearing in mind her fragile state?
I am new to tarot reading and just want to prepare myself for such a situation.
Do I give a vague ambiguous answer? Dodge the question? Tell her the truth?If she insists on pressing for an answer do I lie?
Many moons ago I used to have lots of readings - mainly about my love life!! In every case of me being heartbroken by the latest boyfriend the reader always used to say 'he will be back'.
The point is that NONE of those guys came back. Obviously now from my more mature perspective I can see that them NOT coming back was the best thing and I certainly would not want them back. But at that time I did not have such understanding of the whole picture, of my soul journey and lessons that needed to be learnt.
Did these readers sense that if I had no hope of them returning I may 'do something silly' so therefore gave me the encouragement I needed to keep me going, knowing I would eventually pull through?
If the had have been vague I would just have carried on having readings until I got a specific answer off one of them and they told me what I wanted to hear.
But then surely it's wrong for me go for a reading and be lied to to make me feel better?
The thing is I've started reading cards because I want to help people with their journey in some way. I've recognised that people are at different levels of enlightenment on their path so do I adjust the reading accordingly?
A lot of readers are very 'earthy' reader ie they will say things like 'yes little Johnny will be going to the dentist soon but it's nothing serious' 'you will be going abroad but you may suffer a tummy upset so be careful' 'you may need to have a problem fixed with your car'.
While all of these are obviously a concern as we are on this earth I can't really see the benefit in focusing on that type of thing too much. To be honest it just seems pointless. Yes sometimes facts like these are very crucial but often they're not.
If during a reading I was getting a lot of detailed stuff about cars breaking down, people being ill, etc I would feel a bit of a failure as a reader to be concentrating on such trivial stuff.
However, as people are at very different levels of development, if I said something like ''yes, you are having problems with your father but he is part of your soul group and you and he have a soul contract with eachother. The reason you push eachothers buttons so much is because you have agreed to help each learn a valuable lesson for your soul growth'' it's obvious a lot of people would think 'eh? what's she on about?'.
But if I need to curtail my readings and bring them down to more earthly concerns I feel I am not using my intuition in the way that I am meant to and the way that feels right for me.
Can anyone give any advice on this rather long rambling post!!:D
love Stepheno
RE: tarot reading ethics
Hi again stepheno
you can only tell her whats there to be told;), it's wrong to tell someone what they 'want' to hear when you're doing a reading for them IMO
If you do her reading & see her husband there in her future then tell her...and also if you sense happiness or not, maybe at the moment she's at a crossroads, although she's feeling devistated at her break up right now it may be best for her to make the break rather then trying to 'make a go of it'. You see, personally I feel when someone wants a reading when their in this sort of situation the main thing that they need to be assured of that they are going to be ok, there is light at the end of the tunnel ect. The responsibilty for the 'reader' is how they deliver the message,
I fully understand what you mean about worrying if you tell them something thats very 'direct' just incase you're wrong & end up looking silly[:o], but you do get used to this feeling & it's better not to stop yourself from telling people things...& besides, you'll most likely find you can't anyway, i find if I hold something back because I think to myself "Oh no...I can't possibly tell them that or say that" then the message stays with me. You'll find that after you've allowed yourself to be free with your intution & had good feedback your confidence will grow;)
Enjoy your journey with cards
Love
Amy
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RE: tarot reading ethics
Hi Stephano,
In my opinion it'snot as much what you say, it's how you say it. You don't have to lie but just go easy on her &try& be positive about the negative situation. In that situation, I would say something along the lines of...I didn't think they would get back together in thenear future, (I wouldn't say I think it's never ever going to happen, asI may well even have it wrong & she may not be ready to hear that also) & that although she may not feel it, it's whats meant to happen for now & than she can benefit from it one way or another.
I have had people ask me those sorts of difficult questions before & what I did was be honest, but still give them hope (even if it's not much hope they may need that little bit of hope to get through the ordeal at the time)
Tarot cards aside, if your best friend's husband left them & they came to you in an extremely emotional state asking you if you thought it was really over for them or not, would you just bluntly say "well yes I think it is" Probably not!
Ihave said to people before that if they aren't prepared to hear the answer they don't want, then dont ask the question in the first place!
SS
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RE: tarot reading ethics
Shining Star and Amelia Jane thankyou for taking time to reply to my ramblings!!!:)
My guides wasted no time in answering this question! Just after posting it I went into town and into the bookshop.
There is a particular book that I see every single time I go in, which is almost every day, that I NEVER bother to pick up. The reason is I bought it many years ago but came to the conclusion it was a load of old tosh! However today I picked it up and opened it at a page and there was the answer to these very questions which are more or less what you have both said.
The book, by the way, is 'Opening To Channel' by Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer.
Yes, I have now bought it again and can't put it down:D. It's so relevent to the stage I am at and where I have been; it's wonderful!!!
much love
Stepheno