Hi guys,
well had a really terrifying dream last night. And i mean terryifying.
Im a little confused because i have not had bad dreams for years, no doubt having dealt witha troubled childhood but recently the dreams i have seem to be scarey.
Anyway.....
The experience itself was scarey as i was kinda dreaming but living it urm........... like a kinda outta body experience or something.
I was dreaming that i was in bed in my room in the pitch black, asleep when downstairs the front door flew open. I could hear my husband come in yelling and shouting. He was in a terrible rage. I was truely terrified. I went into a panic because i didnt know what to do.
I thought i should leap up and go see, but thought no it would be better to wait then i could hear him come bounding up the stairs, i was poised wating in the dark thinking thank god the kids arent here.
My heart was racing and i knew he was going to kill me.
Then i woke up in a real panic. It was truly horrible.
What on earth does it me, it has left me feeling really horrible.
I must just say my husband is not at all violent but my father was is that the connection???
Any help would be great.
Beth x
RE: Scarey dream!
Hi Beth, scary dream indeed! Not sure I would care to have that one...
You connected it to your father's violence, and I would say that is correct. Since he came bursting in from below, that would indicate a subconscious fear and maybe you were reflecting your mother's fears in this, also. I don't know what work you have done on your childhood, but is there still a part of your inner child which fears men in general because of the violence you witnessed? It takes a lot of healing to change those first childhood impressions and myabe this dream is alerting you that something still needs healed and understood.
Blessings
Moonfeather
RE: Scarey dream!
Oh thanks moonfeather,
I feel so relieved, how silly of me.
I witnessed a lot of violence as a child. and have spent many years trying to deal with the after effects of that.
I used to have nightmares frequently, but since i have been trying to deal with the issues they had disappeared over the last few years, until now.
Just thinking about that dream now is making me feel scared. It has been a long time since i have been that frightened.
I was even going to wake my husband and make him change sides in the bed, so he was nearer the door, so very silly i know.
Maybe your right, maybe i have overlooked something that needs dealing with.
Thankyou again.
Beth x
RE: Scarey dream!
Hi all,
i know this is going to sound really silly, But my hubby is working nights tonight and im fretting about it cos of this dream.
i no its really silly and i have not felt like this before, so has anyone got any advice on how not to get anxious about it, im worried to death that i will have another nightmare then wake up here without hubby to snuggle up to and make me feel safe.
This is so silly.
But any advice would be great thanks.
Beth x
RE: Scarey dream!
Hi Beth,
You have to tell yourself that that experience the other night was only a dream, it can't hurt you. This has been caused by violent behaviour and fright in your early life, and such things run deep within our adult psyche. Your father is nowhere near you now, let that awful memory of him rest if you can.
Use your husband's absence as an opportunity to pamper yourself before you go to bed and whilst you are in bed. Plan your bedtime, and make it something to look forward to - lavender scents, soft lights and music, teddies and soft furnishings, good book, a reassuring tick of a clock - all comforting. Maybe even a naughty piece of chocolate, or cup of cocoa....also, think of nice things before sleep - holiday, visiting a friend, looking forward to seeing your husband, etc. Also, remember that you survived your father's violence and lived to tell the tale. That alone makes you strong in character and you know that your guide will protect you. If that dream happens again Beth, do lots of deep breathing exercises to make you relax. They will soon have you falling back to sleep. Tell yourself that you are giving too much of your precious energy over to the memory of your dad's violent behaviour, and that you'll not consider it again.
Love,
Patsy.
xxxxxx