hi all
iam new to this so pelase bare with me. I have been having recuuring dreams, sorry nightmares. my partner who i loved more than life was found dead 7 weeks ago, we had only been together since october but we had a connection, from the moment we met there was a link, both of us knew we were to be together, even though we split up for a week, being apart was more than either of us could bare.
At his funeral i stood at the grave i threw a rose in and said this is not your final resting place, since his funeral i have been to the cemetrey and get no sense of peace there
I keep getting a recurring nightmare that his body will be exhumed, the death is surrounded by secrecrey, the only members of his family who have been there and have stuck to their promises made at the fuenral is his brother and his sister in law, if it was not for the support of his brother and his sister in law i dodnt know how i would carry on.
I do have my suspicions about his death, are these dreams his way of telling me to stick with what my intuition and gut instinct is, or is it his way of telling me to let sleeping dogs lie.
Any light shed on this would be more than welcome
love and light to you all
RE: Nightmares!
Hello dl2952,
Sorry to hear about your partner's death.
Could you please descirbe you dream a bit more? I am afraid that I am a bit confused about which part is the dream and which part is the reality.
Artemis
RE: Nightmares!
Hello dl2952, Welcome to HP, Im sorry to hear you have lost your partner, and I can tell from your post you miss him very much. To me I would say being exsumed represent his spirit rising into the spiritual realms and his way of letting you know he's ok. There might be secrecrey surrounding his death.........but it will not bring him back by worrying yourself trying to find out. Know in your heart that life is eternal and the connection on the earth with your partner will still continue even thou he passed over. He will know the love you are sending him, don't look back at the negitive part of your relationship, look at the positive.
Take time to greive and then try to move on with the thoughts of happyness you felt from your relationship and in time you will heal and so will your nightmares[sm=hug.gif].
only take what feels right to you.
love and blessings
lightwinds x
Wemndy
RE: Nightmares!
Hello Dave,
Welcome to Healthypages. I am sorry that your visit is marked by such a sad event. I wish to add to the condolences already expressed. Losing someone whom we love especially suddenly, is something that nobody should ever experience. My heart goes out to you, since my beloved dad died suddenly four years ago and I miss him like crazy.
Dave, grief and bereavement is like no other emotion. One cannot describe it in words because there are no words. The aftermath of sudden death leaves us numb and affects our very being. I am not going to 'diagnose' what's causing these nightmares, but I'd say that it is very deep grief and sense of utter loss. People die suddenly from natural causes as well as unnatural ones. Sudden natural death affects people of all ages. When my dad died, we had to have a post-mortem, otherwise his burial couldn't go ahead. I assume that your partner also underwent a post-mortem. If so, then the Coroner would have been satisfied that his death was natural, and that his funeral could take place. Maybe your thinking that his body might be exhumed is a way of dealing with the grief in wanting him back among the living? I know that I wanted my dad back, and I'd have given anything to have seen him again post-funeral.
You have the support of his brother and sister-in-law and draw on that support for as long as you need it. You aren't 'connecting' at the cemetery because you have convinced yourself that your partner's body will re-emerge at some future time. Keep visiting his final resting place - take flowers and plant bulbs and make it pretty - treat it as if it were a patch of beautiful garden, in which your beloved lies sleeping. Having a grave to visit certainly helped with my coming to terms with my dad's death and I have accepted it, even though I'd like to be visiting him for a cuppa tea rather than his grave, but....know that your partner sleeps in the Earth that made him, and his has returned to it.
PM me if you would like.
Love,
Patsy.
[sm=hug.gif]
RE: Nightmares!
Dear Dave,
death is part of the package when we sign up to life and grief is part of the package when we sign up for when we love.
Some of us do not find love and sail through life oblivious to others; you are a good man who found great love, for however brief a moment, and now find your waking moments and your dreams swept with loneliness and despair.
If at all possible, bless the earth that gave you the power and the mind to love so deeply and now to grieve; you are an exceptional man; no lover of yours can ever be lost to you, he will live on forever in your mind.
You will find that your dreams of doubt will pass away into dreams of fond remembrance and you will be comforted by memories of quiet intimacies and gentle embraces - all this grief will pass - it is nature healing the wound - bless you both,
Bob