Hi all,
I have many varied dreams, one that is fairly re-occuring is that my ex and my husband's ex appear in the dream.
With my ex, I'm not interested, I have desire to be with him or anything like that (thats true in real life and my dreams).
Sometimes I dream of my husbands ex and we are getting on reasonably well, though this has taken time in my dreams. However, and this is where my concern lies.
The other night, I saw my ex, I didnt want to know, but I saw my husband and his ex, and they were together, they are starting over. I have seen this quite often really.
I realise this doesnt mean that this is what is going to happen, but why would I dream that they are both together and starting over, I even saw them holding hands, whereas my ex, although there, I didnt want to know and walked away.
Often when we dream of ex's we dream of part of the character/personality that is infact part of us, or that we may be acting in ways with our current partners in the way that we did with our ex's. But why would my husband and my ex "getting back together" in my dreams, as far as I know, he never wants to get back with her.
I'd be interested in any interpretations as this one has me flumixed.
Whiteswan [sm=hug.gif]
RE: Ex's in dreams...
Hi Whiteswan
I'm still only a novice at dream interpretation but dreaming about ex's seems quite common and you are correct in your own interpretation i.e. that dreaming about your ex suggests that there is something or someone in your current life that is bringing out similar feelings you felt during the relationship with your ex. What you have learned from that previous relationship may need to be applied to the present one, to avoid repeating the same mistake.
To see your husband's ex in your dream could suggest that you may be comparing yourself to the ex. The dream is trying to tell you not to make the same relationship mistakes that ended that relationship.
The fact you felt emotionless about seeing your ex could suggest you have been neglecting your own feelings and should start paying more attention to them.
The fact that your husband was holding hands with his ex could just represent the previous connection between them but it might also reflect some anxieties you might have about drifting apart in your present relationship.
Hope this helps.
Sandra
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RE: Ex's in dreams...
Hi 🙂
Is your new husband still friendly with his ex?
Just wondering.
If he is.. is a possibility that either.
You are sad you and your ex cant also be friends.
or mabe
you wish your husband would ignore his ex completely too.
or it could simply be a portrait of the situation. them holding hands does not represent them getting back together. it just represents a connection, be it friendly or just an acceptance. it is a symbol.
the other part with you walking away from your own ex is a symbol of unacceptance. and cutting off.
Again this is a wild guess, but whatever it is, it is in your subconscious.
If you cab face any feelings you are prepared to accept in yourself,
you could try and meditate on it.
This can bring the reason for the dreams to the surface as an "idea" that will just pop into your head like "momentary inspiration" .
hope this helps.
in te end only you can know the true meanings though.
I hope you figure it out ok. 🙂
all the best.
gemini.
RE: Ex's in dreams...
Hi Sandra & Gemini,
Thanks for your responses.
My husband and his ex are civil to one another, though it has taken some time to get to that point, though they have little contact and live over 400 miles apart so it's not a concern.
My ex and I are not civil, or rather he is not. I've tried to be kind, courteous and helpful, he's done his best to shut me out and after 8 years he's still doing it. No I do not want a relationship with him, I'd rather he wasnt part of my life at all, I'm learning to detach myself from him once and for all and not to feel concerend with things he says or does (or does not say or do) in order to keep information from me. I wasnt emotionless, I felt indifferent towards him, I'd let him go.
And no, I do not compare myself to his ex wife either.
As for my husband and I, yes I have concerns, not becuase we have a bad relationship, but because of where I think we are going in the future, we are both in two different places and I have "feelings" about what is going to happen in the future. Neither of us wants to go through divorces again, and we have no real reason to seperate, it's just a feeling I have about things. We are more like brother & sister, good companions, good friends, there is little or no passion between us on an intimate/romantic level, though there is genuine love and concern for each other. This isnt new either, it's been like this for 5 years, it's just the way our relationship has developed.
But taking that aside, I feel I'm going to move on without him, one way or another, and maybe that's whats coming out in the dream, I'm not sure.
Whiteswan [sm=hug.gif]