Distinguishing a dream from reality

Hello Rebecca,

It's not really possible to say from the information you've given. There are many reasons why we dream, or remember specific dreams. So before an interpretation can be given, I would need to know more about your circumstances, health and stresses, etc.

Obviously a forum is probably not the best place to go into personal details. But basically the dream is a product of what's going on inside and generally a recurrent dream of such a high frequency is a warning. I take it that the dream scenario is about real things that are happening? And I would guess the dreams tend to end without a resolution to what's happening, for example... if someone you know in the dream is causing you frustration because they're missing the point about something that is significant in their life?

I would also ask the question if you are having the dreams because you're physically tired and unable to concentrate? If that is the case then you should see your GP to find out if there's another reason for feeling run down.

Myarka

Hi Myarka,

Thank you for taking the time to reply. I don't feel run down as such, I have only felt tired since the dreams started it's all the effort I have to put in, in distinguishing what is real and what is not.

I love somebody very much who I can't be with, the dream is about him, in the dream he is here in my life. I was very sad and hardly functioning for the first year and a half after I stopped seeing him, but time heals and the last two years things have been getting a lot easier even to the point where I can look back on the times we had and remember them fondly but without crying or feeling sad, then the dreams started.

Thank you again for replying.

Angel Hugs

Rebecca xx

Hello Rebecca,
Thank you for the background information....

The healing process has many layers, and the deepest layer takes the longest. Over that last two years you've been going through that healing process, and have been able to see the positive side of things. But the healing process isn't complete and there is some scaring left. It maybe that the reason why you can't be with this person is something you see as a injustice and therefore you have felt anger at the situation. It may also be that you still feel part of that person and they are part of your life, so you have "semi" moved on.

Now something has triggered the memory of you love, perhaps some music, a movie, an anniversary.... it could have even been a smell taste or sound. But it was just a short moment that brought back into your mind what could have been. These things happen to us all but usually not as strong, it's that sense of injustice and the frustration of unfinished business that holds us in that dream.

The dreams will go away naturally as they came, but they have troubled you and there is a certain amount of fear or anxiety that they will keep returning. So the first thing is stop the worry and trust they will go away, remember the good times because the good times are a precious part of you life and be happy for what you experienced.

If you need help with your sleep, do stop any alcohol, tea or coffee drinking after 6pm and no food after 8pm. Organic lavender oil near your pillow will help you relax and sleep. If that doesn't help, you can take some valerian at the end of the day, but it tends to take a couple of weeks to work.
However, if the symptoms of tiredness and loss of concentration persist, you really should see your GP.

Love&Light
Myarka

love, dreams and reality

Hi Rebecca,

These are only some thought about the power of our experiences of attachment to a lover. I don't know the details about you or your life and I don't wish to comment on the details, just the general things.

From some people's point of view we project hidden parts of ourselves onto our lovers. These are the bits hidden from us and the bits we long for deeply. We find a lover, maybe even that love is unrequited, maybe they become our partners and maybe they leave in the end. What is it that draws us to our lover? Where does this feeling of connection come from? Is the feeling of connection dependent on the object of our romantic ideals?

What makes these questions and what answers them are powerful forces in our lives and I'm sure these powerful forces can result in all sorts of experiences possibly including the kind of dreams you are having but as I said before I can't comment on the specifics.

I do feel sure that the answers to these questions are that what we desire so much is actually something we already have inside. Finding the way home to the calling of our longing deep inside can release us from the futile search for what we cannot grasp outside ourselves. The big question is: "How do we find this source of life and love inside ourselves; this source of life and love that we thought was outside ourselves in the form of our lover?"

We have to accept our feelings. To do this we need to stay still and let them move through us. We need to take care and find somewhere deep down the source of our feelings that has caused us to feel we are inadequate in ourselves and need to be made complete by another. We have to accept and take care of the story and the characters that have made us what we are now. An accepting caring for all of the aspects of personality in us, and the people and experiences in our memories is a very important part of the way to rediscovering and accepting our own wholeness.

Wishing you well,

Norbu