RE: Changing your dream
Hi Mandanafan
Your dream about the running away from a bomb is interesting. The running away part could indicate that you are not facing and confronting your fears and as you said that the bomb had exploded, this could mean that your repressed emotions and rage have already come to the surface in a forceful manner.
Hope you don't mind me trying to decipher it. Its just that it is very similar to one I had not long ago except it wasn't in London it was in the middle of nowhere in a kind of ghost-town.
Sandra
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RE: Changing your dream
Hi Sandra
That is really interesting what you said because the day before I had a very deep conversation with my partner about some past issues I have with my parents, particulary my father (whos no longer with us). I kept having bad dreams about them. He used to drink alot and died of heart failure in 2003... most likely due to this and smoking. He wasnt a nice drunk, in fact he was horrible. But when he was sober he was nice.
I dream about this still and so if i dont dream about that its a big relief! My dreams of him are usually scary.
But yes my partner and i had spoken about this the day before i dreamnt about the bomb! So it makes sense about letting out repressed emotions, i have a lot of them!
Thanks to all...
Jayne
RE: Changing your dream
Hi Jayne
Sorry to hear about your dad. It must have been both heartbreaking and frightening to see him drinking so much and becoming ill, and not being able to do much about it.
It sounds as though you still have some issues to sort out with regards to your father and possibly your mother too. Seeing your father in your dream symbolizes authority and protection and might suggest that you need to be more self-reliant. The feeling of fear in the dreams points to anxieties in your own life.
Are you worried about your mother? As she is also in your dreams this could denote a matter that has preoccupied your mind and you are not sure how to deal with it in your waking life. It indicates unresolved problems that still need to be worked out with her.
I don't know if this makes any sense.
Sandra
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RE: Changing your dream
ORIGINAL: sebenny
Are you worried about your mother? As she is also in your dreams this could denote a matter that has preoccupied your mind and you are not sure how to deal with it in your waking life. It indicates unresolved problems that still need to be worked out with her.
I don't know if this makes any sense.
Sandra
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Hi Sandra,
You dont realise how right you are! That is exactly the problem in my life at the moment. I dont know how to deal with my mother, she hasnt coped well at all since my dad died and puts a lot of weight on me. There are quite a lot of issues there at the moment, she lives down the south and I live up north with my partner. She seems to resent this although she doesnt make it so obvious anymore. Shes been up to see us and stay, along with my younger brother and his partner but she is so negative all the time about anything and everything! It just upsets me.
Were trying to get her to move up here because shes lonely but she doesnt want to move... maybe in time I guess as my brother is moving up here to be closer to me.
Thankyou, you really are good at this!! 😉
Love and Light
Jayne x
RE: Changing your dream
Hi Jayne
I can see that you have a lot to deal with at the moment. Its been a couple of years now since your dad died but it sounds as though your mum is feeling very vulnerable and is now faced with the rest of her life without him. Saying that, she is relying very very heavily on her children for all the support she needs while you are trying to make a happy life for yourself with your partner. You can't put your life on hold it wouldn't be fair, but at the same time you are upset that your mum is so unhappy and negative about everything.
For yourself, from what you said before, you have issues still with your dad so maybe you could try an exercise like imagining he is sitting opposite you and is willing to just listen. Think about all the things you ever wanted to say to him while he is sitting there. Offload everything you can think of, just let it all out, anger, frustration, sadness, fear, joy, happiness - everything. Alternatively, you could write a letter to your dad telling him how you feel, no holds barred. Take as long as you need for this and repeat it whenever you need to. I have tried both methods with regards my mother after she died and it definitely helped to release a lot of suppressed feelings and emotions and I still do it occasionally now when the need arises. There is no need to feel disloyal or anything like that as he will receive what you say with love.
For your mum, there are many practical ways you can support her, perhaps you could get some advice or leaflets from Cruse about how to help her with her grief as a starting block. Considering your dad's drinking problem, it sounds as though she may be dealing with a lot more than the loss of her life partner and she may have unresolved issues of her own. With love, patience and the right kind of support she would hopefully be able to pick her life back up again. I know it will take time but it is better than her continuing to be so unhappy and you worrying about her all the time.
You sound like a lovely daughter, very caring and thoughtful, and there is nothing wrong with helping and supporting your mum, but she needs to try and rebuild her life and I'm sure she will in time. Hope everything gets better for you all. Take care.
Sandra
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