i've tried talking with her - she won't communicate with me about anything. I see no similarites at all between my wife and the other woman - they are so different in many ways. I just feel this is the way to go at this point in my life - it will be painful and yes, I could wake up one day and feel that I have thrown a ood thing away - but by leaving is the only way I'll know for sure.
It's hard if your wife won't talk to you - has that always been the case?
If it isn't then it might because she is perhaps angry, fearful, finds it hard communicating. would you want to try and sort things out or are you set on going?
It would be interesting to know your wifes moon sign - day, month and year.
I would write a letter to her and your gemini friend pouring all your feeligs into it, as if you were talking to them - you can swear and curse all you like!
You then tag the following words onto the letter:
I forgave you for your behaviour
I now forgive myself and realease any anger , desire and resentment that i have been oding to do with you over the .....(time you have have known them in years, months and days - don't have to be spot on)
I release ou from playing this role for me
I release you with love
sign your name
You then take the letters outside and burn them.
this is called 'letter therapy' and i use it all the time and it releases the negativity around the situation and also clears stuff and emotions for you.
Leave it a few days and then see if anything changes.
Good luck!
We haven't
We haven't communicated for years really. She was born Dec 13, 1949. I don't know anymore if I want to try to save anything between us - i have been without love for a while now.
I might try the letters
Thanks
Steve
I looked at her moon sign and it is virgo. and her mercury is in capricorn - mercury is do with how we communicate and think. I would say that she is cery cautious in her thinking and there would be a need for a continuity and security in her life. do u think that the two of you both have fears about communicting your fears and what you are wanting from each other.
a gemini women has come into your life and gemini is about communication so i would take it as a sign that you want to be communicating more with people.
You ca't of courseforce your wife to commmunicate, - and believe me it can be very hard for people to communicate what's going on in their hearts, including myself, and i'm a real gas bag! You will probably have to be the one to communicate with her, She deserves to now how you are feeling about your relationship and if you want a seperaation then at least you are coming to her with honesty - I'm sure that you would want that yourself and we should treat others as we wish to be treated ourselves don;t you think.
i would write your letters first because you need to unload some of your anger and other emotions first - it gives you more power when you communicate without anger. Use letter burning as a tool in your life when you are feeling angry, fustrated, irritated etc. It's one of the best gifts i have ever been given. After that sit her down and say how you are feeling.
I don't know if she will listen but at lleast you wil have tried and maybe you will have a clearer idea of what the next step should be.
She may need time to process what you have said. You may get her anger and fustration back, because her fears may come flyig out because changes are scarey, even if they may be for the better for both of you in the long run. You may have to write and burn some more letters.
you may be thinking can i be bothered with all this palarva but one day it could be you in a relationship with the other person thinking that way.
I don't know the history of your marrige but i'm guessing that you have had happy times with each other and loved each other enough to want to get married.
Take good care of yourself.
HI
Forget the star signs for a while,
I presume that your marraige is stale, because of this you have formed some sort of relationship with this other woman, you say you have been talking to her, i am presuming on the internet firstly, so both of you had spouses and now you have shared stuff between you.
Im not here to judge so what i have said before is just to see where its going.
I think firstly when you have a failing relationship its easy to see another one with rose coloured spectacles, yes this woman may understand you, yes shes still hung up on her ex other wise she wouldnt be spending time with him, so be under no illusion. But ask yourself what has been your main conversation together, has it been about your unhappiness in your relationships maybe?
Secondly i think you need to pull yourself out of the situation, deal with your relationship with your wife first.
If its not going to work then go your ways, then maybe see where the other one is going, or even look for another.
But you need to sort out your own first.
Its easy to talk to another about failing relationships and believe they understand you then the more you talk the more connected you get. Just be careful you choose wisely.
I hope it sorts itself out for you. Its hard to leave and hard to stay. But the importance is on what makes you happy.
Good luck