To be honest it sounds a bit to me like she was "using" her gemini star sign to excuse her behaviour. I am sure most people have another side to their character that others dont often see, maybe a side that others dont like as much.
I too would be interested to hear how this panned out, Steve. It sounds like you made the right decision IMO.
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I am still trying to break away from her 'spell' over me. There are times when we cannot talk for a few days (when she is with her ex) and I feel much better, not so much turmoil going on in me when I don't have to talk with her, but yet, if the phone rings I will run to it. I've decided to talk with her about anything other than 'us'. I will even talk to her about her and her ex, me and my spouse and about our work, but I cannot talk about an 'us' anymore as it hurts me too much.
iluvcats, you're right - she was defintely honest from the start, but she painted a picture of hope and dreams for an 'us' - and now I know it cannot be as long as her ex is around. She is going to go to therapy with him, and she tells me that it is important so that he can see that he cannot change to meet her expectations. I don't think he understands her or 'sees' her, I know more about her than he gathered in the 6 years they were together. I listen to her, I see her.
What does your spouse think about this?
It sounds like you are still in turmoil Steve (although I too was surprised to hear the word 'spouse' mentioned :D.
Anyway, I hope you find a place of inner peace with all of this and can move on..........
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This has been a mental/emotional affair, a soul mate connection that turned into love on my side and only an 'option' on her side.
The spouse, my spouse does not know about this - her ex does and he has become much more attentive to her since he found out about it as he knew we were getting serious.