I agree with the vibration/wavelength thing, but....to be honest it is hard to just accept when people make a point of leaving you out, it is like they are trying to say you are not good enough to talk to or interact with
Of course that could just be your own perception. It could actually be that, because you get on and do your work, they actually feel threatened by you because they perceive you as "too good" or "better" than themselves,.... but that is their issue, not yours.
Have you read The Celestine Prophecy? Not the best written of books, but the model of person types it describes is very good, as well as the pointers it gives as to how to deal with such situations... all told in a nice little story. 🙂
Also, if you like reading, consider the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. A very short book, but very clear and instructive, and easy to keep in mind from day to day.
All Love and Reiki Hugs
Ok, well you sound personable online so maybe it isn't you and is more about them. Maybe you could say Hello, How are you? to people in the lunchroom/kitchen if there is one and break the ice. Also, try to work on your self confidence outside of work. Find a group outside of work that do share your interests and meet people who are nicer to you as you deserve and it might not annoy you as much when you're at work. Otherwise emotional detachment and just don't care will probably work to make sure you don't stress out over it too much, it is a shame that it is happening but your health and keeping a wage going is what mainly matters at work. I hope it all works out for you. Sorry I can't be more help.
No worries, it is all helpful 🙂
Of course that could just be your own perception. It could actually be that, because you get on and do your work, they actually feel threatened by you because they perceive you as "too good" or "better" than themselves,.... but that is their issue, not yours.
Have you read The Celestine Prophecy? Not the best written of books, but the model of person types it describes is very good, as well as the pointers it gives as to how to deal with such situations... all told in a nice little story. 🙂
Also, if you like reading, consider the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. A very short book, but very clear and instructive, and easy to keep in mind from day to day.
All Love and Reiki Hugs
Who knows, I think Jnani has something with saying that trying to figure out the why is what kills! At the risk of sounding like a broken record here I wish people who play the no-talkies game would have a think about how it would feel if it happened to them but duh, they won't..... I did read the Four Agreements, a long time ago. If I remember correctly there is something there about not taking anything personally. Yes, well, all true but if you are human and in the situation you do.
I have been very lucky with work that I haven't experienced this. I certainly feel and understand the shyness though and lack of confidence. I have had to work so hard to bring myself out of my own shell so to speak.
I have experienced this with regards to where we once lived. We bought a house that was almost perfect had everything we wanted and we planned to stay there for a long time. 18months later we've had to abandon it and I mean literally. It now stands empty with a for sale sign outside because we found we were soo different to our neighbours. Our neighbours seemed to be quite exclusive and did not take kindly to people moving into the area from outside the village. We were ok for 6months and then the noise next door became unbearable and the weekly parties were annoying. In the end my husband was threatened by the neighbours and the police and local housing association were involved. But we couldn't cope with it any longer so have moved into a rented property while we wait for the house to sell.
It is stressful and makes for a very unhealthy environment, for that I feel for your situation. x
Who knows, I think Jnani has something with saying that trying to figure out the why is what kills! At the risk of sounding like a broken record here I wish people who play the no-talkies game would have a think about how it would feel if it happened to them but duh, they won't..... I did read the Four Agreements, a long time ago. If I remember correctly there is something there about not taking anything personally. Yes, well, all true but if you are human and in the situation you do.
No talkies game! cool. "No talkies game" for quite a long reply methinks...but you are entitled to your opinion
The fact that I responded to was I was reaching out.
I was bullied severly at school, ignored, left out crying . you name it. It was retty merciless...can't see when people reach out, they might be doing at work, but if you only see games then games they are, arn't they- at least for you?
The constant bullies who gave me hell,causing physically and psychological hurt on purpose one of them lost her father rather suddenly. When she came back to school, I approached her and she collapsed in my arms a bundle of tears...I just reached out with tears for her loss.
.the reason it didn't end up being a life issue for me was for everything that I have shared with you in my first reply.
Perhaps I should have turned around and say you are playing "no listeny games"!!...you just shrugged everything by saying- yeah but it is gone on for 5 years.
anyway, hope it gets better.
No talkies game! cool. "No talkies game" for quite a long reply methinks...but you are entitled to your opinion
The fact that I responded to was I was reaching out.
I was bullied severly at school, ignored, left out crying . you name it. It was retty merciless...can't see when people reach out, they might be doing at work, but if you only see games then games they are, arn't they- at least for you?The constant bullies who gave me hell,causing physically and psychological hurt on purpose one of them lost her father rather suddenly. When she came back to school, I approached her and she collapsed in my arms a bundle of tears...I just reached out with tears for her loss.
.the reason it didn't end up being a life issue for me was for everything that I have shared with you in my first reply.
Perhaps I should have turned around and say you are playing "no listeny games"!!...you just shrugged everything by saying- yeah but it is gone on for 5 years.anyway, hope it gets better.
Sorry, you have lost me on the long reply bit? I didn't mean to shrug anything off or play no-listeny games(!?) I had a think and gave an honest reply to what you wrote before. Thank you for reaching out... This is an upsetting situation, it is not always easy to think straight about it. I guess I haven't reached the point that you have yet.
How sad that I posted this 2 years ago and am still in the same hole....
I've decided I'll be out by the end of this year, hopefully sooner, no matter what happens. For definite, absolutely, no more!
I hope you manage this. What methods?
Voluntary redundancy (they are due to have a re-structure). If I don't get that, will have to figure something else out.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. I like the picture of the rose, by the way.
Still in the same place with the same people. Not able to get a payout and restructure still going on....such is life eh?
You can't carry on like this.
Why not? What is going to happen?
Stagnation, at the least.
Yes, that is what I have.