RE: Lonliness
Thanks Kenb,
I think I just realised that was exactly what I had to do. Take charge. I was sat around night after night feeling sorry for myself and to coin a phrase "sweating the small stuff" all those things that could or couldn't happen. It was crazy. Above all the drinking wasn't helping. I was feeling worse in the morning, and the cycle just began again every evening. Lordy what a state!!!!
So the benefits of not drinking were multiple - I'm not as grumpy in the morning (my cats prefer me happy lol) I've lost some weight (no more empty calories yay!!) I can think more clearly (makes a change) I'm not comotose in the evening so even if something DID happen (which I'm now almost convinced won't), at least I'd be able to do something about it.
So, all in all - a bit of a positive result for good old Webber!!!
Thanks again to all for thier support, If there's anything I can do for you all in the future, I'm always indebted to you for your suggestions and positivity.
Love to all [sm=hug.gif]
Webs xxxx
RE: Lonliness
webs, please quit self medicating yourself! get online with us and talk it out. the suggesations from all the others are really good ones, try them out ,write us, anything but what you've been doing! we care and were here for you always.!!!
RE: Lonliness
Thanks for your message Godschild,
I've actually been pretty much ok lately, I took on board all the good information that my friends have posted. The situation still stands much the same, the boyf is still away from home a lot, but I'm getting out a bit more and using the friends I've got (instead of thinking that they wouldn't want to have me hanging around - which was my mind-set at the time) I've found that my buddies had sort of wondered what had happened to me, why I hadn't been calling, or visiting. I think, therefore that it may have been a touch of depression that I was suffering from. BUT, I'm feeling much better and not nearly as lonely, but I have my moments.
I've still been going to the gym , and that's helped (in more ways than one!) I'm filling up time with good stuff and taking advantage of the fact that I can do what I want, when I want, and It's great. Change of attitude was all I needed. I think?
Lots of love to all
Thanks again Godshild, I appreciate you posting.
xxxxxWebsxxxxx
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RE: Lonliness
just remember, if you've tried everything else,and your still lonely, dont pick up a bottle,get online and talk, for one it will help with the loneliness cause theres people here that you can relate with and vice versa,plus getting online with us can really make the time fly and before you know it, you've been on for hours! after which you'll be tired enough to get some sleep! hehehe!
RE: Lonliness
That's for sure, I can spend hours on this thing doing absolutely nothing - I am a bit sad though, my friend told me about a games website, and I've made friends on there from all over the world, we can spend hours playing card games and puzzles - sad I know but great fun, especially when you can beat people at canasta or gin or whatever!!!!
RE: Lonliness
its great to read how better you are feeling good on you girl [sm=hug.gif]
RE: Lonliness
AW thanks for the hug - it was very warm and cosy xxxx
RE: Lonliness
theres nothing sad about it! look where im at! online! at least you have friends,i dont! really,i dont! i have my husband(which is now asleep), my kids,(which are either with their friends or in their rooms), and theres you guys! before i found you all, i had T.V. WOW! was that SAD!!!
RE: Lonliness
no probs webstercat anytime:Dxx
RE: Lonliness
Come and join me at [link= http://www.pogo.com ]www.pogo.com[/link]!!!
It's a bit addictive though!!
xxx
RE: Lonliness
im already a member haha:D
RE: Lonliness
Ha Ha, well come and find me sometime - webstercat33 and it is addictive isn't it?
RE: Lonliness
Hi webstercat,
I read your message this evening and understand the problems that you are experiencing.
I'm currently a counsellor and psychotherapist and also worked as an alcohol couunsellor for 2 years.
I'd be happy to have a chat either via e-mail or phone.
Kind regards,
Vern:)
RE: Lonliness
Lonliness...how can I see this as a gift for learning a new perspective since it exists and avoiding it won't make it any smaller? There must be some reason why I feel this so intensely other than circumstance that I just haven't met the right person or managed to control or arrange a suitable non-lonely life...it is so tempting to fall into the emptiness and want to reach for addictions to dull this uneasy lonely feeling. What is so scary about allowing myself to feel this. I think I know how you feel. Doesn't feel good does it?
RE: Lonliness
loneliness can be engulfing, but sharing how we feel with others can help.