You are not a bad or weak person because you have a problem with alcohol.....and you can beat this. Feel free to PM me if you would like to talk
Thank you so much for your response. 🙂 I know, I can beat this dilemma, right now, still searching a solution. I’ll will definitely give you a bip :). In spite of this I’m glad that there is someone like you that understand my situation. 🙂
Addiction can also be 'inherited' through soul loss.
Do you mean that because an ancestor suffered soul loss you are more likely to? Can you explain? And would dealing with the soul loss automatically deal with the addiiction?
Do you mean that because an ancestor suffered soul loss you are more likely to? Can you explain? And would dealing with the soul loss automatically deal with the addiiction?
Not automatically, but it would put the person concerned in a stronger place to overcome the addiction - it would still need working on.
When I said "inherited", I didn't necessarily mean in a direct family line, although that can happen. There are two main ways.
When something happens - let's say, in this case, a child grows up with an alcoholic parent/carer (or anyone else close to them). This is a hard thing to deal with and causes soul loss in the child. The part that goes (because soul loss has evolved as a survival technique) is the part least able to deal with alcoholism. This means that the part that is left is more inured to alcoholism - he/she finds it more acceptable to them.
Exactly the same happens with any type of abuse.
The other way is rarer, but does happen - an intrusion which lives on the fear, despair or even on the alcohol itself, has got into the family line and will move from one generation to the next (or the next but one) in order to keep the food supply coming.
Thank you Crowan. Your explanations of shamanism always fascinate me... and I can understand what you mean in this case. I see the effects of my exes alcoholism in my son.....although he has found other ways to protect himself apart from alcohol.
I managed not to drink liquor 2 days in a row. But, I still can’t resist the craving for cigarettes, even for an hour. Sad, makes me depressed. Worst, last night, my friend visited me and we took 2 to 3 cans of beer while reminiscing. Oh men……..i just can’t avoid alcohol, even though my mind says no, my body continues acting like it’s not mine.
These are major addictions. Get help - don't try to do everything by yourself.
I managed not to drink liquor 2 days in a row. But, I still can’t resist the craving for cigarettes, even for an hour. Sad, makes me depressed. Worst, last night, my friend visited me and we took 2 to 3 cans of beer while reminiscing. Oh men……..i just can’t avoid alcohol, even though my mind says no, my body continues acting like it’s not mine.
Brian you developed both habits over a long periods of time....and it is not reasonable to expect to be able to break them both in a short period of time. In reality you need to deal with the issues that drive your addiction as part if the whole process. Do please go and see your GP for help with BOTH problems......
Your conscious mind is saying no....your unconscious mind is saying yes.....and thats why it is so hard to stop. The good news is your unconscious can be tamed and brought on side to say on no.......but it takes time and therapy of some sort.
These are major addictions. Get help - don't try to do everything by yourself.
Yeah. I’m screwed. Big time. Thanks for the reply! 🙂
Brian you developed both habits over a long periods of time....and it is not reasonable to expect to be able to break them both in a short period of time. In reality you need to deal with the issues that drive your addiction as part if the whole process. Do please go and see your GP for help with BOTH problems......
Your conscious mind is saying no....your unconscious mind is saying yes.....and thats why it is so hard to stop. The good news is your unconscious can be tamed and brought on side to say on no.......but it takes time and therapy of some sort.
Im considering going to meetings now, AA. I hope it will do well for me :). Thank you Tashanie, thank you for hearing me out. 🙂
Need love guys.
I started this thread but never managed to keep my start at stopping. It was always knocking at the door and slowly crept back in and due to a physical injury I've ended up adding to it all with very strong pain relief. Doh!! If you don't defeat the demons it won go away. I know that now, but the demons are still there.
Bertran I am so sorry to hear this. Have you had any professional help to try and deal with the demons? They CAN be dealt with....all demons can....but sadly there is no magic bullet that can just make them vanish over night.
I started this thread but never managed to keep my start at stopping. It was always knocking at the door and slowly crept back in and due to a physical injury I've ended up adding to it all with very strong pain relief. Doh!! If you don't defeat the demons it won go away. I know that now, but the demons are still there.
It isn't an "all or nothing". You can try again. What help and support do you have at home? Is the physical injury still a problem?
Do you remember when Sally said to Brian:
Brian you developed both habits over a long periods of time....and it is not reasonable to expect to be able to break them both in a short period of time.
You could take those words for yourself. Changing takes time and effort - don't consider you have failed simply because you have not managed to break this habit YET.
Physical injury is still a problem. I will beat this one day. I've got to face up to things from my past which I'm not strong enough to do so. The addictions make them go away for a time.
I've been 3 years sober from alcohol addiction. It's difficult and I struggle a lot and feel all the pain, butwhen you get succeed everything you do is worth it
Physical injury is still a problem. I will beat this one day. I've got to face up to things from my past which I'm not strong enough to do so. The addictions make them go away for a time.
If the physical injury is painful, get your doctor to refer you to a pain clinic. Tell him/her that it causes you to drink too much. My partner has, finally, been referred. Saying, "it hurts", "it hurts a lot" and "I can't believe how much it hurts" had little effect. Saying, "I'm taking double the dose of painkillers and washing them down with whisky" got an immediate response.