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tworobins
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Unless there is a bereavement forum on the site, I would like to suggest one is started up. My Husband passed away in April 2015, just 14 months ago and I am grieving and struggling with the emotional aspect of losing a Loved One. We were married for 51 years and met in 1959.

Others who have lost Loved Ones, Parents, Children, Relations ,Good Friends ,may benefit from such a Thread.

Thank you in anticipation.

tworobins

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Cascara
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((((((((((Two Robins)))))))))) sending you soft hugs, so sorry for your loss, still so new and the impact of losing someone after such a long time together should never be understimated.

I think your suggestion is a good one, there are many people across the internet searching for support during grief. We all know that we have to suffer it but sharing our feelings can really help. Why not start up a thread here? Or a forum of your own maybe?

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Energylz
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Hi TwoRobins, sorry to hear of your loss.

We already include bereavement/grieving as part of the Mental and Emotional Forum:

Sticky thread at the top of that forum:
which includes links to organisations for various forms of emotional help. (Hopefully they are still relevant, but let me know if you spot any that aren't)

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tworobins
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Unless there is a bereavement forum on the site, I would like to suggest one is started up. My Husband passed away in April 2015, just 14 months ago and I am grieving and struggling with the emotional aspect of losing a Loved One. We were married for 51 years and met in 1959.

Others who have lost Loved Ones, Parents, Children, Relations ,Good Friends ,may benefit from such a Thread.

Thank you in anticipation.

tworobins

((((((((((Two Robins)))))))))) sending you soft hugs, so sorry for your loss, still so new and the impact of losing someone after such a long time together should never be understimated.

I think your suggestion is a good one, there are many people across the internet searching for support during grief. We all know that we have to suffer it but sharing our feelings can really help. Why not start up a thread here? Or a forum of your own maybe?

Hi Cascara..Sorry I got your user name wrong on another Forum Thread!

Thank you for the encouragement and I will consider starting up a Thread and when I have settled in to the site and explored will be a good time for me. Thank you for your kind thoughts I did contribute to a Bereavement Thread on a other site I belong to and I didn't really settle and left the Thread. Such a sensitive area for so many. and being 12 moths into grieving felt it wasn't for me..
Will pop back in here as and when and am interested.

Two Robins

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tworobins
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Hi TwoRobins, sorry to hear of your loss.

We already include bereavement/grieving as part of the Mental and Emotional Forum:

Sticky thread at the top of that forum:
which includes links to organisations for various forms of emotional help. (Hopefully they are still relevant, but let me know if you spot any that aren't)

Hi Giles. Thank you for your reply and the link and I will browse with interest. I will let you know what may not be relevant n the link..

Two Robins

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jnani
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Unless there is a bereavement forum on the site, I would like to suggest one is started up. My Husband passed away in April 2015, just 14 months ago and I am grieving and struggling with the emotional aspect of losing a Loved One. We were married for 51 years and met in 1959.

Others who have lost Loved Ones, Parents, Children, Relations ,Good Friends ,may benefit from such a Thread.

Thank you in anticipation.

tworobins

Only Just read this thread...
Tworobins...losing a loved Hits hard. Grieving can go on for years....great love great loss.
I am sorry to hear you are still struggling. Sending you hugs.
51 years strong marriage though! How fortunate is that!

Please do start a grieving post if you are inspired to....we all have loved and lost someone. I lost my dad when I was 12, the pain stayed raw and fresh absolutely for years....even if on face value life goes on exactly the same.
May the pain soften

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tworobins
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Only Just read this thread...
Tworobins...losing a loved Hits hard. Grieving can go on for years....great love great loss.
I am sorry to hear you are still struggling. Sending you hugs.
51 years strong marriage though! How fortunate is that!

Please do start a grieving post if you are inspired to....we all have loved and lost someone. I lost my dad when I was 12, the pain stayed raw and fresh absolutely for years....even if on face value life goes on exactly the same.
May the pain soften

Hello Janani

If I do start a Bereavement /Grieving Thread, is there any forum criteria for the creator of a dedicated Thread? Or do I just post in here and members can reply.?

Thank you,for caring.

Two Robins

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tworobins
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((((((((((Two Robins)))))))))) sending you soft hugs, so sorry for your loss, still so new and the impact of losing someone after such a long time together should never be underestimated.

I think your suggestion is a good one, there are many people across the internet searching for support during grief. We all know that we have to suffer it but sharing our feelings can really help. Why not start up a thread here? Or a forum of your own maybe?

Hello Cascara

Is there any criteria on the site to start one's own forum? Who is responsible for a newly created forum, please?

Two Robins

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jnani
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Hello Janani

If I do start a Bereavement /Grieving Thread, is there any forum criteria for the creator of a dedicated Thread? Or do I just post in here and members can reply.?

Thank you,for caring.

Two Robins

I guess. It could be in general. Life and death go hand in hand. Death needs talking, sharing, memories, grieving, tears, hugs, holding each other, bonding in sorrow, supporting each other....and a whole lot of human interaction.
Try general forum or chose mental and emotional....trouble with that one can be that topics in that forum get treated as issues and challenges that need healing, insight and consequently suggestions what can be done to overcome them
Whereas death needs only allowing of the pain and grief. The deepest vulnerability that one encounters in face of death is both shattering and regenerative.
Wherever you start it, people for sure will respond with love caring and respect
Love

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Energylz
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Hello Cascara

Is there any criteria on the site to start one's own forum? Who is responsible for a newly created forum, please?

Two Robins

Ok, you've asked a couple of questions in that post and the prior one.

If you want to start your own discussion/question (which we call a "thread") you can go to the forum that's relevant (e.g. the mental and emotional forum) and start the discussion in there using the "Post New Thread" button. If you post a thread in a place that doesn't seem appropriate then one of the moderators (myself included) may move it to a more appropriate forum, but you'll know if that happens.

As for creating a new forum, that ultimately comes down to Mike, the site owner. In general terms the criteria for having a new forum created is if there is enough demand for it e.g. lots of people requesting it, or lots of people complaining that there's no place to post certain types of topics, or even an existing forum that is getting cluttered by certain topics that could do with their own place. Mike has spent much time over the years trying to ensure that most relevant topics are covered by the existing forums, in some cases splitting out to create new forums and in some cases consolidating some to a more general forum. The problem with adding new forums is that there are already loads on here, and new people often complain they can't find where they should post, so adding a new one will only add to that complexity. (Mike did an exercise a few years back where he tried to simplify things and reduce the number of forums to help with that)

We often get requests for new forums for some specific things e.g. specific therapies, but sometimes it's a therapy that that person themselves has 'devised' or named, and therefore it would only be relevant to themselves (and anybody they've taught) so such personal preference is often not granted otherwise it's just advertising for them. More often than not, the thing being requested is already covered by an existing forum, such as Grieving which is already considered to be included as part of the Mental and Emotional forum.

I hope that explains it for you.

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