I am going to sound so uncharitable now but here goes.
We spent Christmas Day at a distant relatives house. It was of course lovely of him to invite us, put us up and give us dinner.
However.........he is quite a loud sort of type and when we have met him before for shorter periods there has never been a problem. This time though, because we were thrown together all day with no means of escape he was really wearing us all down.
He is all `transmit and no receive`. Therefore he would latch onto a topic and without a word of a lie would talk non stop without hesitation for the next 30 minutes.
It got to the point where you dreaded mentioning anything that might set him off. None of us could get a word in edgeways.
The only person who didn't seem to mind, was my husband, who to be honest is very similar, but without the endurance. He also like to talk, preferably without anyone making comments, which he will ignore anyway.
I personally think conversation is a `two way street` you say a few words and let others add their veiws.
I think men in particular are predisposed to this form of communication. Not all but a good many,.
I think I would have gotten quietly drunk and then gone to sleep on the sofa!
Hope the rest of your Christmas was better!
How tiring for you! I tend to switch off pretty quickly when I encounter people like this. He would have lost me after a few hours.
You must have needed a day to recover from your ordeal!
In all fairness, I've met females like that so its not all a male thing.
I think it could be a way of making yourself interesting, or perhaps, he talks to get over an insecurity?
Sorry, I have to disect everything
In all fairness, I've met females like that so its not all a male thing.
Both males and females can have this tendency.
Whatever the reason people do this, it is very irritating. Imagine having a one sided conversation when it's all about the 'other person' and you can't even contribute.
It shows no consideration for anyone else and I would even say it is very selfish.
To not realise that in all the time you've been with that person, only you have spoken and haven't heard much from the other person is beyond my comprehension how they don't 'realise'.
hummm it can also work the other way, i have a friend (in fact two) who really never talk at all, to get any kind of info out of her is really hard, which then leaves me talking non stop to my hearts content so i feel that my visit isnt wasted so to speak.
But then do i come over as non stop talking. I ask questions and still get the same sort of answer, yes or no......ohhhh frustrating, when i have gone i feel as though i may aswell sat and talked to myself!!!!!
I went to my sisters this Christmas as she was cooking or so I thought, as soon as I got in the door it was a case of coat off apron on , she was in a right flap. It was lovely in the end though, although a tad fancy for me, she has just finished a catering course so everything was drizzled and garnished and made into a tower, bless her!
Two tearaway under fives had paper everywhere, but hey! that's Christmas. It's so exhausting isn't it. I suppose we're not used to eating and drinking that much in the middle of the day.
I still love Christmas though xxx
christmas wouldnt be complete without the odd family arguement. We had a lovely christmas and new year, except for boxing night. We went to my brother in laws for tea and while we were there his dad requested a family photo, which to most of us was fine.
My sister in law was unimpressed at this stood there with a long face and as soon as the pic was taken, whisked the kids and her hubby out the door without saying a word to anyone! weve now all been to keep away until we apologise! all over one picture!:confused:
This is my sister in law who usually talks, talks & talks about her family non stop and never lets anyone else get a word in edgeways, so dont think its just men.:(
apart from that all was good though-hope everyone else had a good one xxx
My Christmas day went smoothly. Bought presents for everyone and we in the family had a great time, until this month when I received my credit card bill 😀