Is it 'meant' to be?

Hi Cinnamon
I would not like to say whether it is meant to or not because that provokes a debate and it does not serve any true purpose.
I feel Universe probably is trying to send something better your way. If something does not happen with ease and grace I hold back, trust and open myself and let it be done for me, it usually works out perfect that way. Not always what one specifically asked for but something that serves a true need.
Sometimes the nudges of our heart are just pointers in a certain direction. When time is ripe something perfect for you at that point of time materialises.

Thanks, jnani, for your lovely response.

I really appreciate it.

This is a really interesting question... not sure if I have the answer. On the one hand you could be blocking things youself - either you don't have the faith that it's going to happen or on a subconscious level feel that it's 'wrong' for you. Or literally that it is wrong for you.

I agree with Jnani. I used to see an acupuncturist who told me I was 'swimming against the stream' - she told me I had to stop struggling, just let go and allow myself to be carried by the stream.

When I did finally 'let go', I had a sudden idea for a career change and wanted to go back to uni and it was like a series of doors opening for me. I got a place on a very competetive course - for every 1 place 18 people had applied, yet I just breezed in. As soon as I graduated I went straight into a TV job. Now things have stagnated on the career front, but that's probably to do with pregnancy and not really wanting to work!

So let go of the struggle and either the blocks will lift and the doors will open or a completely different set of doors will open.

Quieten your mind and stop over-analysing, just relax, allow things to happen and when you do get a little nudge, then you can take action.

Good luck!

Many thanks, Tigerlily - and congratulations on your pregnancy!

Interesting point, that I may be blocking it myself. I don't know. It's good to have some of the urgency taken out of it - both yours and jnani's thoughtful responses made me feel really soothed and relaxed about it.

Thanks again!

God bless xx

I'd like to re-open this thread as have some similar concerns.

I am stuck in a job that I loathe. I've been stuck in it for 4 years, and before this was also in a job I grew to hate. I feel like I am completely trapped and wasting my life, I have no idea what I really want to do (and never have had really) and cannot see a way out. I'm beginning to think that this is the way it is 'meant to be' for me. I have tried to 'relax and let it happen' but nothing ever does actually happen! Something that looked a little better came up about 2 years ago so I applied and the HR Dept. actually lost my application! Anyway else ever been stuck like this and did anything change?

This is a really interesting question... not sure if I have the answer. On the one hand you could be blocking things youself - either you don't have the faith that it's going to happen or on a subconscious level feel that it's 'wrong' for you. Or literally that it is wrong for you.

Or it could mean that you have lessons to learn from overcoming obstacles.
Or that sometimes, 'stuff just happens'.

I'd like to re-open this thread as have some similar concerns.

I am stuck in a job that I loathe. I've been stuck in it for 4 years, and before this was also in a job I grew to hate. I feel like I am completely trapped and wasting my life, I have no idea what I really want to do (and never have had really) and cannot see a way out. I'm beginning to think that this is the way it is 'meant to be' for me. I have tried to 'relax and let it happen' but nothing ever does actually happen! Something that looked a little better came up about 2 years ago so I applied and the HR Dept. actually lost my application! Anyway else ever been stuck like this and did anything change?

Not much changes unless the consciousness changes. Now thats nuts because you don't understand consciousness...
Put it this way- you like to change but the energy that drives you is too bogged down with fears, distrust, doubt, past failures, beliefs, expectations from future, memories of the past -and the rest of it. Its unlikely that any significant positive energy will substantiate in life, if the energy at the base is stuck and stagnant. Hence one feesl stuck. Because there is no flow within
We often keep chasing the shadow, the being has to change first to change reality.Your reality is a mere shadow of your being. Everything in your life is Your vibrational match.
your true vibration spreads all through your life...even if mind understands letting go, law of attraction, positive thoughts etc etc. That does not make blind bit of difference because the reality just keeps settling back to your true vibration like a YO Yo.
Don't fret too much about reality find a way to expand your being. Reality becomes your slave...
It is achievable, it is easier than you can imagine

Not much changes unless the consciousness changes. Now thats nuts because you don't understand consciousness...
Put it this way- you like to change but the energy that drives you is too bogged down with fears, distrust, doubt, past failures, beliefs, expectations from future, memories of the past -and the rest of it. Its unlikely that any significant positive energy will substantiate in life, if the energy at the base is stuck and stagnant. Hence one feesl stuck. Because there is no flow within
We often keep chasing the shadow, the being has to change first to change reality.Your reality is a mere shadow of your being. Everything in your life is Your vibrational match.
your true vibration spreads all through your life...even if mind understands letting go, law of attraction, positive thoughts etc etc. That does not make blind bit of difference because the reality just keeps settling back to your true vibration like a YO Yo.
Don't fret too much about reality find a way to expand your being. Reality becomes your slave...
It is achievable, it is easier than you can imagine

'Find a way to expand your being'.........Yes, I wish I could! It does not feel like it is achievable.

Or it could mean that you have lessons to learn from overcoming obstacles.
Or that sometimes, 'stuff just happens'.

Or in my case stuff just doesn't happen ever.

Hi mouse16,

I have some thoughts regarding this and I do agree with what Jnani said about changing consciousness, but I'd like to suggest a practical approach to this. Perhaps you need to lightly and playfully discover what interests you and what you would like to do. At this point it doesn't need to be a particular job or career move, just the essence of what you want. What might feel fun and fulfilling? Something active? Or to do with study and learning? Or caring? Or talking? Or making things? I believe once you start to ask and search, then you will start to change your inner landscape and ideas will begin to flow and opportunities will start to present themselves (which you need to be prepared to seize without too much over analysing).
So what I'm trying to say is focus on what you would like rather than the fact that you loath your job.....or that nothing ever happens for you......just start to cultivate a habit of not giving those thoughts any more attention.
Regarding the HR job, would this really have been something 'better' or just more of the same with a higher pay packet. Only you can know this and thats why its important to find the essence of what you want. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!

Love
Crystal elf

Hi mouse16

Or in my case stuff just doesn't happen ever.

You are quite correct nothing just happens, everything starts and finishes with a thought within the life experience that we create for ourselves.

You are complete with the fullness of self, you have made one set of choices which have created one experience, that experience that you have created will continue until you make different choices.

In order to make different choices, we often need to change our underlying thought patterns and beliefs which are orchestrating our choices, the first question that we need to ask ourselves, is how are our current choices serving us right now? if they are not then we need to ask ourselves what needs to change within us, that will empower us to make and commit to new choices?

'Find a way to expand your being'.........Yes, I wish I could! It does not feel like it is achievable.

Look no further! If yopu really wish flow is always looking to flood in wothout exception. You can get in touch if you like

Hi mouse16,

I have some thoughts regarding this and I do agree with what Jnani said about changing consciousness, but I'd like to suggest a practical approach to this. Perhaps you need to lightly and playfully discover what interests you and what you would like to do. At this point it doesn't need to be a particular job or career move, just the essence of what you want. What might feel fun and fulfilling? Something active? Or to do with study and learning? Or caring? Or talking? Or making things? I believe once you start to ask and search, then you will start to change your inner landscape and ideas will begin to flow and opportunities will start to present themselves (which you need to be prepared to seize without too much over analysing).
So what I'm trying to say is focus on what you would like rather than the fact that you loath your job.....or that nothing ever happens for you......just start to cultivate a habit of not giving those thoughts any more attention.
Regarding the HR job, would this really have been something 'better' or just more of the same with a higher pay packet. Only you can know this and thats why its important to find the essence of what you want. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!

Love
Crystal elf

Thank you, I do like the practical advice! Sometimes I don't even know what I like, I have tried to get a feel or to focus on what I might like and just get this incredible sense of confusion like there is something missing.

Look no further! If yopu really wish flow is always looking to flood in wothout exception. You can get in touch if you like

I'm sorry, but I really don't understand that.