Sorry i need to vent...i'm hopping mad some idiot just phoned me and asked me out right if my massage came with sex! I put the phone down on him now i wish i could of given him a bit of my mind.....i can't believe that someone would have the cheek to come right out and ask that even when i put on all my ads that its not a sexual service.
mmmm i feel better now....sorry its a bit of a wasted thread!
maria:mad:
Sorry to hear about that phone call. It's not a wasted thread I'm sure somehing like this will/has happened to us. The good thing is that at least he was straight to the point. He could have asked you endless questions before getting to what he was really after. Worse still he could have acted like a genuine client who you'd book and appointment for and then revealed his true intentions during the massage.
Sorry i need to vent...i'm hopping mad some idiot just phoned me and asked me out right if my massage came with sex! I put the phone down on him now i wish i could of given him a bit of my mind.....i can't believe that someone would have the cheek to come right out and ask that even when i put on all my ads that its not a sexual service.
mmmm i feel better now....sorry its a bit of a wasted thread!
maria:mad:
You did the right thing, maria. If you'd engaged him in conversation, he'd have been delighted. As it was, you deprived him of the oxygen of attention. Perfect! Don't let it get to you. Let it go and move on!
xxx
thanks both of you, i was really cross, my hubby thought it was funny!
he didnt mean it but i needed to vent and i couldnt do it at him. i feel much better now lets hope the next client to ring is not like him lol!
maria x
Hi ya Lotus Flower
Have you read the threads on the massage forum about such incidences?Could be useful, like "Upset and very cross with myself".
Some female therapists still get perverts ringing them up even though dress professionally, use professional letters after their name, and so forth. But the perv gets off from that. The more professional the greater the turn on.
So what you did was the right thing and take no B_S_. Give them an inch and they'll take you a mile.
Thinking about it, do you think that prehaps the wording "Not a sexual service" may draw some attention? Just a thought.
Best Wishes
Massage Pixie
This is so sad. People still relate massage and holistic therapies to SEX.
WHY!!!!! is it someting to do with the media and films. (from the seventies no doubt)
Its so shocking that you can't set up a business and be professional without perverts hitting on you.
GET A FLIPPIN LIFE PERVERTS!!!
I think i would tend to be very sarcastic back to them. Tell them you be glad to massage them, then give them directions to the police station x or dog pound lol
I know exactly how you feel lotus flower, I still get these types of calls myself and its soooo annoying!!:mad::mad: I've put posts on here myself a while back about a couple of incidents.
I had a call just last week, and theman asked in a very swuave manner - "Do you do body to body massage?" I slammed the phone straight down!!
I've had others ask what types of massage I do, I tell them holistic massage, hot stones etc..then I get question after question...... in the end they say "do you do extra's?" or "do you do hand relief," another one asked if I do massage naked..!! they're just complete idiots out to wind us up most of the time.
I've had to change the wording on my website and literature so many times I've lost count, just so that these blooming perv's dont get the wrong idea. But it doesnt seem to matter how professional you present yourself, some of them just seem to get a kick out it I think.
I have a page on my website that says: Code of Care/Private Policy, and in one of the stipulations I put - Under no circumstances do I provide any services of a sexual nature. It seems to stop most of the dodgy callers....but not all of them I'm afraid.
Dont let them put you off hun, just take em with a pinch of salt, they're not worth the energy to get angry or upset about.
Take care. x
hi everyone
i had another caller last night half past midnight!! i didnt bother to answer the phone just switched it off, it must of been the day for morons.
i tend to advertise on gumtree like yoga joga as its free and the rules say you have to state your qualifications and state that its not a sexual service....saying that though i'm going to put another ad up but with out those words on it and i think i might add another page to my site like jdholistic - i hope you dont mind me taking a leaf out of your book. Now i can see the funny side and i might even have a laugh about it with friends over a coffee later.
Maria x
I think Reiki Pixie came to the same conclusion I did...
Thinking about it, do you think that prehaps the wording "Not a sexual service" may draw some attention? Just a thought.
There's probably some underground way of communication that says if you say it's not sexual then it is. A sort of double bluff that you are using to allow your advert to be accepted when really you are offering a sexual service.
A bit like the old "don't push that button" syndrome. You say it's not sexual so they assume you mean it is.
Maybe best to just leave that out of your next advert. Of course you'll still get the odd pervs calling, but you're not deliberately drawing their attention to your service over and above anyone elses.
All Love and Reiki Hugs
...had one of those calls yesterday, seems it must be time for them to raise their ugly heads once again.
I get them in fits and starts, no pervs for ages - bliss!! then, an inundation. It gets boring, boring, BORING!!!
what sad lives these perverts have! got nothing better to do!! Go and read a book!
Pathetic!
Amethystfairy:)
When I first started out it really upset me that people could call me and ask such crude things!!! These sort of calls are few and far between now. I can always tell within the first 20 seconds whether the caller is genuine. If I get the feeling somebody is asking for any sort of "sexual service" I always politely say that I'm a professional massage therapist and they need to find somebody else, before hanging up.
I had one guy who kept phoning on my land-line and didn't get the message. My husband had a few choice words with him and he never called back again! It is upsetting as there is still a connection in this country with massage and sex. Remember to trust your instincts and if you're not happy you don't have to treat anybody who you don't feel 100% safe with.
Kerrie-Joanna
Wise words there, KerrieJoanna
Some female therapists still get perverts ringing them up even though dress professionally, use professional letters after their name, and so forth.
And not just females! Though it's possible to argue that these calls aren't necessarily from perverts - just from people wanting to pay for sex. Some might argue that that's the same thing. But unfortunately it is that view that has put us in this position in the first place, thanks to archaic sex laws that have led to brothels pretending to be "massage parlours". And THAT is why we get the funny phone calls.
When I was about 12 my mum was a counseller and she used to advertise in the local paper. I answered the phone one day and it was a man asking for my mum. She was out at the time, which I told him, so he asked me if I thought she would give him an erection. Nice thing to say to a child!!
Not long after I qualified in Swedish massage I had a call from a guy who asked if I'd massage his third leg. I hung up right away.
But it's not just our kind of professions that suffer from this type of call. A few years ago I worked in a call centre for a mobile phone company. We had all sorts of weirdos that would call in, some of them regularly. One of them became known as the flip flop man because he always asked the girls if they were wearing flip flops.
There's just some really sad people out there unfortunately.