I had another problem once which was a slight miscommunication between me and another person. They thought I spoke over them but it was purely accidental on my part because I genuinely thought they stopped talking. This person got quite angry in my face as if I'd just committed the worst act ever. Could this have been another situation where I should have stood my ground with the person.
This is just a case of no one is to blame - a misunderstanding. I have done it myself, i.e. thought someone had finished (they paused) and I had lots to say...then I get a black look because they had not finished and I had not realised!
A more frequent occurrence is where I am keen to say stuff so have spoken over what someone says (e.g. if they have droned on for a bit), which is rude and I would dislike it if done to me. I guess it's my way of not respecting what someone else has to say or letting them know that, maybe, they have gone on for too long. I would expect the same back.
Even though it may be wrong to have it out with someone. That person has lashed out or said what they have said to you. At the time you didnt say anything back which leaves you feeling shortchanged. The only thing you can do is say something back or fight back anyway so if you do it later on its the same thing only you're doing it slightly later after the event has happened.
Is that such a bad thing ?
Also after the event has happened you can see things from a more clearer perspective.
If someone lashed out at me, I would NEVER just let it go, i.e. say/do nothing (that's where resentment can fester). But the alternative does not necessarily have to entail fighting back (which sounds overly aggressive). Whether it is a look, or a question or even a pointed jokey remark, I would have to address it. To not do so lays yourself open to be taken for a doormat in my view.
I have never properly understood Jesus' view of offering the other cheek (although there are various interpretations). One meaning is that this action is to respond to hatred with love but, in today's society, I am not sure that is how it would be....more like, hey I have hit you once, and now you are allowing me to do so again? (Perhaps this might appeal to their conscience...not sure).
I thought that's what happened.
That's exactly the same way I feel. People do drone on sometimes or take super large gaps which was the reason I spoke in this case. I tend to be a fast talker.
Once again though - it hurt my feelings as the person really snapped at me and I found the energy quite nasty. Then when I spoke I could feel them staring at me with quite a nasty stare as if I knew they didn't like me. I could feel the energy.
I then made my tone of voice more sharp and stared them back which I noticed scared them slightly. Matching them on their own level lol
Wow after reading that I'm glad I've done what I've done then even if I have upset some people.
I find it hard to do things face to face which I've noticed is the same with other people too. It's easier for me to write things down. The only options in retaliation are verbal and saying something to the person or physical like hitting the person back.
And maybe failing that it's possible to send them energy telepathically haha not sure ...
Thanks guys for your posts. This has really cleared a lot of things up for me.
I know people that have let things go though. People have done things or said not very nice things to them and they just leave it.
Don't mean to gush Amy but your viewpoints have really, really helped me - more than you may undestand 😀