New Year Resolutions

[oakapple]

Hiya all

As January is named after the two faced god Janus, who looks both back into the past and also forward into the future. I thought this month would be a good time to make a few changes in my lifestyle patterns and just reflect a little about what I have accomplished throughout the past year.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Janus

Also what changes I should make to improve my health and well being for the year ahead of me.

I know that maintaining those changes is going to be the problem that I face.....trying to change habits that are ingrained in my daily routine .

Just wondered how others on the forums managed to change their habits? and wondered if anyone had any tips ?.

[fleur]

I am going to try flower remedies to help me through mine Oakey. I have quite a few remedies at hand, but there are some companies where you can fill in their chart and they will design a suitable remedy bottle.

My personal one I have started includes, chestnut Bud, to learn from the past and not keep making the same mistakes...Beech, because I am my own worst critic at times therefore helping me to be a little kinder with myself, Crabapple which is for cleansing parts of the self you are not happy with, and bringing in acceptance. Lrch, for a bit of self confidence..to get up and try again........etc

[oakapple]

Yes, of course.....Thanks fleur......I have a selection of remedies...I'll intoduce some into my morning devotionals.....

[Celia]

New Year Resolutions...ok...heres one..

Oakey and Crabapple...would really love to meet the pair of you (sorry I haven't made it to your meetings :-( )

We are so close so shall we set the challenge that we meet up before the end of March?

Of course...that is if you would like to meet....lolol... a pm to say NO! go away - will be quietly acknowledged!

Celia

[fleur]

It can be lovely meeting in R/L Celia.....I have had coffee in Treacles house you know , and she took me for a stroll to the local shops....Cheshire Oaks

[oakapple]

Originally Posted by Celia

New Year Resolutions...ok...heres one..

Oakey and Crabapple...would really love to meet the pair of you (sorry I haven't made it to your meetings :-( )

We are so close so shall we set the challenge that we meet up before the end of March?

Of course...that is if you would like to meet....lolol... a pm to say NO! go away - will be quietly acknowledged!

Celia

Hi Celia....

Yes, a meet-up would be good. Maybe we could make it an HP meet-up and see how many locals acknowledge the invitation.

see you soon.

[Treacle]

Originally Posted by fleur

I am going to try flower remedies to help me through mine Oakey. I have quite a few remedies at hand, but there are some companies where you can fill in their chart and they will design a suitable remedy bottle.

That sounds good Fleur, do you have any links re the charts?

[fleur]

Originally Posted by Treacle

That sounds good Fleur, do you have any links re the charts?

http://www.bachshop.co.uk/catalog/index.php?cPath=32

http://www.ainsworths.com/remedy/default.aspx

[Treacle]

Thanks Fleur, have you ordered from either of them.
Hope they do something for will power for all the resolutions I've made for this year!!

[fleur]

Originally Posted by Treacle

Thanks Fleur, have you ordered from either of them.
Hope they do something for will power for all the resolutions I've made for this year!!

I havent ordered from them direct, but both companies remedies are readily available in health shops, even some chemists. But its handy if you dont want to go to the expense of gathering several up, it can get expensive. they will do a remedy mix for you..

[Treacle]

I've already realised one of my 'hopes' for this year. Can't really call it a resolution as I decided around November it was something I was aiming for for this year - go back to full time work instead of part time.
And....I start my new job tomorrow.
But because I have managed this, it has spurred me on to stick to the resolutions I have made.

Do you think you stick to them better if you put targets on them timewise?

[oakapple]

Good luck for tomorrow Treacle......an independent woman again eh....

They say that it takes about 21 days to break a habit...so I am working towards that goal. Might even make it from week to week, or even day to day at first.

My biggest problem is picking food in the evenings.....bad habit and a hard one to break.

[fleur]

Originally Posted by oakapple

Good luck for tomorrow Treacle......an independent woman again eh....

They say that it takes about 21 days to break a habit...so I am working towards that goal. Might even make it from week to week, or even day to day at first.

My biggest problem is picking food in the evenings.....bad habit and a hard one to break.

Perhaps you need to permit yourself a "timely scheduled supper", so you are not feeling deprived, but still being disciplined?

Originally Posted by Treacle

Do you think you stick to them better if you put targets on them timewise?

Its my understanding that setting goals should be achievable, measurable, specific, as well as inspirational.

If your goal can be fit into a realistic time frame then it can only be good IMO. When you have reached it..even a mini goal, you will feel inspired, and positive to set yourself another on...

[oakapple]

Originally Posted by fleur

Perhaps you need to permit yourself a "timely scheduled supper", so you are not feeling deprived, but still being disciplined?


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I do fleur....but it has been lasting from just after my evening meal until bedtime

Maybe I should make it a little shorter....

[Celia]

Lol Oakey...you remind me of a friend who said he was on an excellent, effective diet.... he took it after his mail meals every day!

[Bannick]

New Year Resolutions are a funny occurence, as a hypnotherapist and life coach, they also impact hugely on my business at this time of year, in fact I'm running a New Year's Resolution workshop this weekend.

If I could give just one tip, it would be to drop this word "try" when thinking about making any changes, New Year or not! The word try, in the way it's used, especially in "self-talk" presupposes failure. Instead of saying that you are going to "try" and change something, make the decision to actually change it. I'd suggest picking up a book on NLP and looking closely at your perception of the changes that you want to make.................. and of course............... drop that word "try"!

[oakapple]

Originally Posted by Bannick

................. and of course............... drop that word "try"!

Spot on Bannick...

Thanks for pointing out my negativity.Never realised that one word would be so important as to whether I succeed or fail, but of course it is....

[oakapple]

Originally Posted by Bannick

New Year Resolutions are a funny occurence, as a hypnotherapist and life coach, they also impact hugely on my business at this time of year, in fact I'm running a New Year's Resolution workshop this weekend.

If I could give just one tip, it would be to drop this word "try" when thinking about making any changes, New Year or not! The word try, in the way it's used, especially in "self-talk" presupposes failure. Instead of saying that you are going to "try" and change something, make the decision to actually change it. I'd suggest picking up a book on NLP and looking closely at your perception of the changes that you want to make.................. and of course............... drop that word "try"!

Hi Bannick

The more I look into NLP, the more interesting it becomes..

Would have liked to attend your workshop, but, alas, too far away. Could you recommend any books on NLP that are suitable for positive affirmation.

[oakapple]

OK.....I've grabbed a few of Crabbies books.

1 Unlimited Power by Anthony Robbins

2 The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren

3 You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L Hay.

Having had a quick scan through a couple of the book.........Hayley Mills and the film " Pollyanna " springs to mind.....

[Lavandula]

Originally Posted by fleur

http://www.bachshop.co.uk/catalog/index.php?cPath=32

http://www.ainsworths.com/remedy/default.aspx

Thanks fleur for those links - they're great - especially liked the first one. I've never used flower essences before (other than rescue remedy) and think I might get one of these made up to help with my goals for this year! Thanks for sharing.