I'm a big believer in that everyone has a soul mate, someone who understands nearly everything about each other and its just like the remaining part of the jigsaw.
Whether you find your soul mate in this life or another is a different matter altogether though.
I recently got married (3 weeks Saturday) to someone who I believe knows me inside out and is indeed my soul mate so much so that when we married, we had a handfasting (I'll explain if you need me to) and opted for 'together for eternity' instead of life.
I'd like to hear everyones views on whether soulmates exist.
I believe we choose the people with whom we can bond for mutual benefit, and learn from others who teach us, or rather, allow us to EXPERIENCE through our relationship with them. IMHO we decide on this before birth.
I've known so many people who have never ever met what they termed as a soul mate and are still desperatly searching for one. In fact I think this illusion can be quite dangerous, and often make people wander from partner to partner and friendship to friendship in search of the 'perfect' soul mate, which really doesn't and cannot exist. The differences in us all are too wide and no one can be or is the absolute perfect person for the other.
What is possible is that we can find similarities and joint interests and deep understandings, each of the other and with time and pateince can be rewarded with a relationship which is mutually respectful and loving. But this is unlikely to happen if we spend our lives searching for something that is unattainable. Best, surely, to find someone you can love and really WORK on that together.
I do believe strongly in soulmates.
I have found mine in Moonlight Phoenix. When I first saw her I knew there and then that we would end up together, eventhough she was with someone else at the time. We did end up together, we're now engaged and are getting married (handfasted) for eternity. This means that we will meet up every life we have together! I look forward to that!!! [sm=jump1.gif]
BTW Male MaleAurora, maybe you could help us with mine and Moonlights' planned handfasting. I'll send you a pm with a few questions soon!
HAVE A GOOD AND VERY FESTIVE YULE AND A FRUITFUL NEW YEAR!!
I was once told that we are all soul mates because we are all part of that one whole.. but I am not too sure on that at mo..
I think a soul mate can come in any form, parent, child, relation or friend.. there have been a few people I have thought there was a very strong soul bond, but now I am not sure lol.. but even tho I feel like that, I still believe in soul mates, a love so deep, a love that touches anothers soul, a love beyond love that you cannot explain... you feel their pain, you know when they are not feeling great.. you bond is very deep, in words that you cannot explain..
I agree Flower - I believe in soul mates, although I don't necessarily believe that a soul mate should be your partner. I am completely devoted to my husband, but I don't feel that we are soul mates as such, although I have friends and relatives who I do feel are soul mates - we just have that special bond.
I'm not sure I'd like to be 'handfasted' with my husband - an eternity of football!! aarrrrgggghhhh[&:][&:][&:]
I was thinking about the handfasted thingy.. and this is the 2nd time I had heard within a few days.. and it got me thinking about where it is said here that u handfast so that you are together for the rest of your lives.. and pls dont get me wrong when I say something, as nothing is intended as any critism.. but how can we as humans do a handfast and get our souls to stay together for ever? surely that cant be done??? as if we think about it, we would be doing that for our pleasure and what we want as a human being, but maybe not what the soul wants?... I am not saying it cannot happen, as I dont know.. but at the same time I cant see it happening because it is what our soul wants what not we want, as in each life we will be a totally different human being, so.. errr.. I am kinda lost on this... anyone explain anymore?
I'd say though that its probably a sign of commitment for us mere mortals to give to the one we love. Its the highest commitment one could share, I suppose.
Handfasting doesn't have to be for an eternity, it can be for a year and a day, a lifetime or eternity.
Who knows, maybe for these souls the learning of this passage is to find a deeper commitment of love and therefore they yearn for their soulmate in this life and pass through to a higher conscious next time around.
Who knows what we need to learn, why and when but we can only do what we feel needs to be done.